To expect coffee?!?!

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I've never posted a thread before. Please be kind to me as this is extremely serious and I might cry. Well, moderately serious

A couple of us have come to stay with friends who have recently moved away. I woke up early, as is normal for me. We've been told to help ourselves to breakfast etc if we want.

They do not have any coffee in their house. None. Zero. Nothing 😱

These are old friends of mine and wonderful people, and they used to drink the odd coffee but more tea drinkers really - but I was expecting some sort of coffee available. They're probably gonna have a lot of "down from London" visitors to stay now they've moved.

I have spent half an hour googling where I can get coffee on a Sunday morning round here. The options are limited or not early morning enough. I am beside myself. Or I would be if I had enough caffeine in my system to get a head of steam on.

YABU: bring your own coffee next time. These guys are now living a simple coffee free life in the country, get away with your high and mighty big city ways and bring your own

YANBU: it's normal to expect a bit of coffee in a house in this day and age. You'll be doing your hosts a favour if you mention this, or they're going to face hordes of desperate visitors with a dreadful level of unmet need in this new, country living phase of their lives, and the local community will be ravaged by coffee starved londoners desperately roaming the streets early doors like a host of annoying affluent zombies in nice trainers

I think YANBU. The majority of people like a tea or a coffee in the morning so not having stuff like that in is just poor hosting. My SILs sister is one of those odd people who don’t drink hot drinks AT ALL. DB and SIL went to stay with them for 4 days one Christmas and were shocked to find Christmas Eve morning she hadn’t bought tea OR coffee. Most people you have over are going to want one or the other so it is just good hosting to get some in.

My MIL is fussy and only drinks decaf anything. Thankfully I love a peppermint tea so she has that but if I didn’t I would get some in for her.

DB had to find the nearest Tesco Christmas Eve morning to buy provisions.

I know right

I hope you’ve had your fix by now OP. I’d definitely mention it to your friends in the jokey way you have on this thread. OMG I literally nearly died this morning when I couldn’t find any coffee. At which point they’ll probably say, oops forgot to put it out, here it is. And if they don’t, never go there again.

I say this as a tea drinker who
loathes coffee.

Ok - instant coffee, even the ‘better versions of the stuff’….

I don’t drink instant by the way as I agree it is all pretty rank.

Me too, though when this happens I try not to show it and just drink it, and in this way I’ve found that instant is a lot better than it was. I went on a course recently where there was only instant and it wasn’t even fancy, it was Tesco own brand IIRC - and it wasn’t disgusting, unlike the instant I grew up with. Make it quite strong, add hot milk, it’s ok.

the worst coffee IMO is what hotels give you with breakfast from a big jug - even quite nice hotels have shit coffee, but what I do now is if at all possible, ask for a cappuccino from the bar and pay for it separately.

It’s odd not to have coffee in the house - what do they do for tradespeople or when they have people over for a meal? I don’t ever eat breakfast but of course if I have people to stay I have a full offering of toast, granola etc available.

YADNBU OP.
We went away for a weekend recently and forgot to take coffee with us. I am a 'two cup in the morning and don't even speak to me before my second cup' person and still thought I'd be ok with the tea we drank.
I felt like I hadn't even woken up until we bought some coffee and drank it and was shocked at how much better I felt.
Seems I have more of a caffeine addiction that I previously thought..
I can't function without coffee. Also it has to be real coffee and none of that awful instant shite.

Wow, thank you. Never heard of this company. I have used Taylor's coffee bags when travelling, but will have to give these a go.

Aeropress and a small box of ground coffee. Never leave the city without it!

I can't stand coffee. Foul disgusting shit.

I have pre made sachets for any guests I might get that want one. ALL my friends know I can't stand it so would either bring their own or be polite enough to accept.my shit offering.

As for tradies, most drink tea round our way but none have been so rude to sneer at instant!

I feel your pain OP, I need coffee to get the day started. ☕️

I don’t drink tea (I detest the stuff, the taste and the smell are just nasty 🤢) but I always keep some teabags in for visitors.

I went on a girl guide camp once (as one of the leaders), I should have taken coffee with me. The others only took decaf. Had an awful caffeine withdrawal headache. I then avoided coffee so as not to make my headache worse. Eventually gave in had a coffee, instantly cured.

It’s odd not to have coffee in the house - what do they do for tradespeople or when they have people over for a meal?

Not offer coffee?

I don't drink coffee myself. I'm a tea drinker. I once had family coming from down South so bought some coffee in for them. It was so expensive just for some basic coffee. The family members had about 4 cups and then it stayed there in the jar for a year untouched. Had to throw it away in the end as it went out of date. I've never bought coffee again, waste of money if you don't drink it. I just buy sachets in case we have any visitors.

Hope you find some coffee soon but don't be too hard on your hosts. Like me, they can't help being soft tea drinkers 😂

"Just got out and get one"

Not everyone lives somewhere where this is possible. Have you only ever lived in a town or city?

When I visited DD in Liverpool recently even the local coffee shops didn't open until 9.

Those of you who never drink hot drinks and don't even keep the means to make them in your home - do you let any overnight guests know that you are a poor host they need to bring their own?

Well, the only regular visitors I have are my brother and his family, my BIL and a couple of friends. I know they are all tea drinkers because that is what they drink in their own homes when I go there.

If a coffee drinker comes round and asks for tea because they don’t fancy the instant coffee I have in the cupboard, there’s not much I can do about that. I’m not going to buy a coffee machine or ground coffee for the once-in-a-blue-moon visitor who likes real coffee!

That would be a bit of a wake up call for me of how dependent I was on caffeine. I like a morning coffee but OP reaction is crazy.

I feel if your need for a morning coffee is that strong that you’re “beside yourself” without any, then you probably should’ve taken some with you. A couple of sachets in your handbag or a little pot with some Nescafé in would’ve been easy to take.

There are vast swathes of the country where there are no convenient convenience stores, with or without coffee machines.

@ReplacementBusService people
dont seem to be getting the humour 😂 in your post!!! MN can be a very po-faced place 🙄

ps. Love your name!!!

None of my family or friends drink coffee so doesn't matter. DH will have latte from a coffee shop but that's it.

I have coffee bags in my handbag ALWAYS. You need to be better prepared OP.

As PP said, my worst nightmare. Yes I would expect any home expecting guests to have coffee in!

I have a little Nespresso Pixie bought specifically for UK holidays and weekends away, after a trip (self catering) with no capacity for making coffee.
Would I take it to someone else's house? Quite possibly!

Literally dying about how many serious replies you’re getting.

YABVU. If you are this addicted to coffee, you should either bring some with you or ask your host to kindly have some for you available.

I know you said you are being serious but it sound more like a joke to me, sorry.