Husband canceling his game

[Springsunshine28]

My husband has a basketball game tomorrow, and since I’ll be working, he planned to take our 3-year-old daughter with him. He told me that two of the wives of his teammates—who I’ve met before and who know our daughter—would be there to keep an eye on her while he plays.
However, I messaged both of them and found out they won’t actually be there. I told my husband that I’m not comfortable with him taking her without someone I trust to watch her while he's on the court. He got a bit annoyed and said I clearly don’t trust him. He says she’ll just stay strapped in her pram and will be fine.
But I’m really not okay with that—she’s only 3, and I don’t think it’s safe or fair for her to be left like that with no one actively watching her. He’s now saying he’ll cancel, but I can tell he’s upset about it.
Just wondering—am I being unreasonable here?

Thinking about this more, if your DH was the sole parent your DD would be a child at risk, and would need SS involvement.

A father who cares so little for his child’s welfare, and foists her care onto random adults, or none?

He needs to be told very clearly what this sort of attitude and approach to parenting makes him.

I don't know any three year olds who would be happy strapped into a buggy!
And how could he watch her if he is playing to make sure she isn't too hot ? Doesn't need the toilet or to just keep her safe.
You are not being unreasonable. Is he used to looking after her if so I can't believe he even suggested it

I know that some children seem to be more amenable to sitting in a pram or buggy for extended periods, but neither of mine would. They put up with it whilst moving, but struggled to get out straight away when stopped. By the age of 2 they were like mini Houdini’s and I was constantly trying to additional ways to stop them undoing the straps. There was no way I could have left either of them unattended for more than a couple of minutes.

And an able bodied three year old can climb out of their buggy easily. They could wander off.

Nah he needs to cancel. Don’t feel bad. Your child’s safety comes first. And she won’t be safe. I don’t let my husband take our dog to his rugby games…

No obviously you’re not being unreasonable ! !
Let him cancel , your daughter is 3 !
Sorry , saying this kindly, but I can’t believe this is a thread , bringing a 3 year old anywhere & leaving her unattended , asking opinions on it !!!!!!!
No, No , No
NEVER

😂

Realistically she is 3 !!
This one keeping an eye on, that one keeping an eye
FFS No !, the child needs to be brought by an adult who she knows , who is properly looking after her, and not a coach or spectator (who may I add is glued to the stupid game ) 🙄 that is giving a glance here & there ..
Anything at all could happen & it’s as simple as that ..
Its not overthinking, when it’s comes to your children , it’s not better be safe than sorry , It’s be safe , end of story

She’s could he wheeled away in the blink of an eye! Terrifying.

Well, she couldn’t be out of the buddy toddling around really, could she?
She couldn’t end up in the way of players and the ball, wander on the court, wander out of a door, etc.

The OP feels their child may well be upset and possibly cry if left in her buggy, strapped in, whilst dad plays. How would he be able to play the game with his child crying on the side lines? I can’t imagine the average 3y is going to be overly entertained by a game of basketball for very long!

The child needs supervising and ideally entertaining by someone she knows and trusts, not random adults who also happen to be there.

No one can supervise a child AND play a game of basketball. You can do one or the other, but not both.

How did it go @Springsunshine28 , did he end up going to the game after all, as I suspect he did?

I can see I’m in the minority and probably have a skewed perspective as the daughter of a netball addict mum but I wouldn’t necessarily see this a major issue.
There are always/usually people and other kids around to entertain and help and her dad would be seeing to her every 15 mins anyway or whatever the quarter/half time is.
Few snacks and a water colouring pad or stickers.
make sure she’s been to the toilet before hand and take her at half time
she might enjoy it.

Yeah as I said earlier - all very well to say miss - but as a single mum with 0 support…. My son’s been on the sidelines of every single one of my games since a year. They’re fine and people keep an eye on them - hardly going to wander too far. And if they do I came off. Lots of pearl clutching here