Feel annoyed we can’t go on another holiday this year

[Lifestooshort1542]

We usually do 2 abroad holidays a year one week each and 3 uk short breaks aswell.
This year we have come away abroad for 11 nights with the idea that if we came longer that would be our abroad holiday this year.
We have our 3 uk breaks booked this year too.
Well it’s nearing the end of our abroad holiday and I’m the type of person who’s always got to have something booked to look forward to (holidays are our thing we don’t spend money on anything else) so I’m now starting to get that holiday blues sad feeling of we are heading home in a few days and where usually we would be back in August we won’t be back until April again next year.

AIBU for thinking that waiting a year after an abroad family holiday is hard? Or do I need a reality check and look forward to our abroad holiday this time next year and we will do 11-14 nights again.

Financially we can afford to go in August this year but hubby works for his parents business and when I broached the subject to his mum that we may do a sneaky week in August she promptly informed me that he didn’t have any holiday days left (in fact he is already over his allowance of holidays with the breaks we’ve got booked in the uk this year)
I said well he can take a weeks unpaid and she said it’s not about the time off we’ve got a business to run and work to do.
So that annoyed me 😂

AIBU?

You take the kids! DH had less holidays than I did, so I took them away alone.

If it’s that important go by yourself

YABU for saying abroad holiday. It's a holiday abroad FFS.

Totally agree with you OP.
We can’t go without a holiday abroad each school holiday. Half term breaks are dedicated to city breaks and longer breaks are often cruises or Disney trips. If I wasn’t going away in the May half term, I’d be annoyed too. I’m currently in the St Tropez, which is not the norm for us, but it’ll do.

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I hear you op. I am the same. I don't spend much money on anything really. Clothes from Vinted, packed lunch at work every day, shop at Lidl, very old car, haircuts rarely.But I really look forward to my holidays. It's what keeps me going and is all about priorities. All those snarky posters are probably those who spend ££ on daily coffees, regular hair cuts, acrylics and other more regular treats or a new car maybe. Which is fine as that's what makes them happy. But I would like to hear how some of these posters would react to being told that whatever makes them happy ain't happening for the next year

This is an interesting one. I actually don’t think your feelings are unreasonable. If you’re accustomed to X and suddenly don’t have X, it’s completely understandable to be sad about it.

However, I do think this thread is unreasonable. We’re in the midst of a massive cost of living crisis. Posting on a public (and socioeconomically diverse) forum about how sad you are to be missing out on one of your five annual holidays is rather tone deaf and unlikely to garner a huge amount of sympathy.

Maybe some of them have been told that.
You don't know.

I'm just here in (partly) in solidarity. We take 4 abroad holidays most years and a few long weekends away in the UK, so I absolutely know what you mean when you say you're used to having something to look forward to. Though I do think asking for advice or sympathy on mumsnet was perhaps a mistake and arguably a little tone deaf given how difficult many people are finding day to to day life at the moment. Hence only partial solidarity.

YABVU. FFS!

No I don't know. But if that's the case I have empathy for them too because we all need things that make us happy, whatever they might be.

You can feel how you feel about it, but maybe read the room a little.

I mean it’s not comparable really. You spend something once a week that will make you happy versus pouring everything you have just to have a moment of joy once a year. What happens if it’s a disaster and you have to wait a whole other year for a better time? I don’t have to wait a year for smaller moments of joy, if my life is in a situation where I can’t treat myself to a takeaway or a small pamper then quite honestly being a bit sad I’d have to wait a few months for it would be the least of my worries. And the op sounds like she has very very little in terms of worries if 1 holiday out of several booked this year now happening. The op is not deprived in any meaning of the word, not even of holidays.

Having just come abroad and done the same as you i.e we haven’t been abroad since april last year we really felt it and it really got us down having to wait a year. And yes i know its first world problems.
if i were you i would keep the annual leave the same for the uk breaks but instead go abroad in the time already pre booked

Or do I need a reality check

Yes.

‘It’ll do’ wow

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Spoilt and privileged BRAT comes to mind. Grow up!

Following this thread in disbelief. I’m in solidarity with my fellow peasants. Haven’t been abroad since 2007 and my kids have never been on a plane, so forgive me if I don’t have any empathy for your drastic situation.

I get my joy from things that don't cost money. Mindfulness is really good - just appreciating nature on my daily walk. A long chat with a friend. Finding a brilliant book at the library. Having DD stay over and spending time together. But at the same time I really love holidays as does the op.

My point was, we all generally spend money on things that make us happy and give us things to look forward to. It doesn't matter if these things are regular treats or an annual blow out. We make choices for ourselves. I for one would kick myself if I spent my spare cash on daily takeout coffee and posh lunches, but my DD for example is someone who prefers the daily treats. We are all different and it's ok to feel a bit sad if we are not able to do something we love.

I've not been abroad either since 2008.

You have empathy? Ok, to be fair it didn't sound like it. It sounded as if you were being critical and scathing of other posters for "take out coffees" and "acrylic nails".
Although I haven't seen a post where people consider those to be more important than a holiday, but I am happy to be corrected.

I think you are being YABU for lots of reasons but ... .. if you really can't wait a year for another holiday why don't yu just take your children abroad by yourself, if your husband doesn't have annual leave left? If you are all used to being away it shouldn't be too hard, you could even go somewhere you have been before?

she is right, he can’t just take unpaid leave when they have a business to run. Either take UK holidays around long weekends or less UK holiday’s.

Where was I scathing.? I said if that's what makes them happy then that's fine. Because it is. We all choose what makes us happy. Sounds like I hit a nerve

It isn’t being lucky and financially stable that makes you seem spoilt, @Lifestooshort1542. It’s the fact that you consider not having an ‘abroad holiday’ every 5-6 months is ‘hard’.

It’s no harder for a wealthy person wait a year for a holiday than it is for someone who has to scrimp and save for one.

I generally have one longish holiday abroad, one or two city breaks abroad and several UK breaks every year. I am very lucky to be able to travel as much as I do and I absolutely love it. But it would still not be even remotely ‘hard’ to only have one holiday a year. Just because something isn’t your preference, that doesn’t make it a hardship, and the fact that you believe it does (and think your husband should be allowed unpaid leave to accommodate another trip) is what makes you spoilt.

You asked if you need a reality check. You do. It’s that simple.