Feel annoyed we can’t go on another holiday this year

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We usually do 2 abroad holidays a year one week each and 3 uk short breaks aswell.
This year we have come away abroad for 11 nights with the idea that if we came longer that would be our abroad holiday this year.
We have our 3 uk breaks booked this year too.
Well it’s nearing the end of our abroad holiday and I’m the type of person who’s always got to have something booked to look forward to (holidays are our thing we don’t spend money on anything else) so I’m now starting to get that holiday blues sad feeling of we are heading home in a few days and where usually we would be back in August we won’t be back until April again next year.

AIBU for thinking that waiting a year after an abroad family holiday is hard? Or do I need a reality check and look forward to our abroad holiday this time next year and we will do 11-14 nights again.

Financially we can afford to go in August this year but hubby works for his parents business and when I broached the subject to his mum that we may do a sneaky week in August she promptly informed me that he didn’t have any holiday days left (in fact he is already over his allowance of holidays with the breaks we’ve got booked in the uk this year)
I said well he can take a weeks unpaid and she said it’s not about the time off we’ve got a business to run and work to do.
So that annoyed me 😂

AIBU?

Please don't get personal.
No need.

Blimey, OP! You've started something here mate!

How am I being personal? You were the one who accused me of having no empathy. That's much more personal.

Cancel your UK holiday and go on a cheap break abroad instead - the UK is pretty expensive so I'm sure you could make it work financially

I’m not sure what point you’re making because the op is having her cake (take out I’m sure) and eating it. She has had a holiday abroad, she has several other holidays booked as well. She has not and is not missing out on anything ‘for a year’, in fact she’s just plain obsessed with holidaying to the point she’d happily piss of her in laws and see her husband lose income just to go abroad. It’s quite frankly unbelievable behaviour beyond what you or I would consider the best use of money to treat oneself.

Well, your post did appear to be scathing and lacking in empathy. However. You have disabused me of this notion. Duly noted. I do hope that everyone is happy, be it with acrylic nails, an apartment in Dubai or a rental in St Tropez.
No nerve hit 😘

Gosh I’m sure that wasn’t the intention at all…

Why waste half term for a UK short break? Do a short break on bank holiday weekend and save half term for a holiday.

😂😂

I promise that was not my intention at all. We all like different things and I was just trying to say that we all prioritise different things. If we all had exactly the same income there would be some of us going on holiday and some of us with gorgeous hair and a newer car. It's all a personal choice. I don't think the op should have challenged her mil for what it's worth but I still think it's ok to be sad about missing something she really loves for the next 12 months

You could always cancel one of your UK breaks and go on a second “abroad holiday” if it’s that important to you.

Yuck.

Fuck my life. You are unbelievable. Why should your dh get more time off than he*s entitled to? I bet you're that parent that always has to have school holidays off just because you have kids. I don't suppose you've always done locum work+

Financially we can afford to go in August this year but hubby works for his parents business and when I broached the subject to his mum that we may do a sneaky week in August she promptly informed me that he didn’t have any holiday days left (in fact he is already over his allowance of holidays with the breaks we’ve got booked in the uk this year)
I said well he can take a weeks unpaid and she said it’s not about the time off we’ve got a business to run and work to do.
So that annoyed me 😂

Why did that annoy you? She was well within her rights. And anyway, if the business goes under, you won't get any holidays at all!

Not been abroad since 2008 😞

I get it OP. Life is about living and being the sun and care free is wonderful and worth every penny. Working ourselves to death is not the vibe.

This is very sad indeed. I suppose all you can do is wipe your tears away with some £50s and do your best to grin and bear your other 3 holidays this year for the sake of the children.

Im so sorry for you sweet pea

If this is all you have to complain about congrats you're winning at life.

We've not had a holiday for 5 years. Bore off.

I just don’t think that’s true. I’m in a Spanish city on holiday now there’s lots of British people. Restaurants and shops are heaving.

when I’m at home I’m relatively frugal because holidays are also my thing but there’s lots of people wearing expensive clothes and driving expensive cars where I live.

Well you know you are really though?
but looking ahead, it seems like two, week-long holidays a year suit you better than one longer one. Why not stick to that in future?

Why are you bothering with the 3 UK mini breaks when you want to go abroad? You could go abroad instead for a week.

I think her dh and mil would benefit from OP living in their world of responsibilities and business, at least for their own peace of mind
There are plenty of other ways we can enjoy life, have new experiences and ‘make memories’ with family members without pressuring others to make sacrifices along the way.

Surely this is a wind up? No woman in their right mind speaks or behaves like this in 2025 do they? If it is real - you seriously need to get a grip and stop being so selfish and entitled.