One day old baby in pub

[Frenchie01]

So family member gave birth to first baby yesterday afternoon, she's a very young mum only 17 , normal delivery but episiotomy, baby good weight healthy. Was discharged home today and a couple of hours later was at the local pub not drinking alcohol just showing baby off and eating a meal , but am I right in thinking a day old baby baby is really too young to be in a pub or anywhere really , also worried she should be resting as obviously will be sore. Other family members have said I'm being old fashioned am I.

People aren't forgetting. They just don't agree with you.

I got discharged and continued as normal because I felt well enough. I didn't see the need to sit at home for weeks just because I'd had a baby.

And nor did I sit for weeks I went out for a walk did the school run etc, but I didn't go straight to the pub on the first day of discharge there's a massive difference. Anyways I enjoyed your post still new mums the best and enjoy your lil bundle of joy they are truly precious especially seeing them smile in their sleep. They grow soo fast 😭

I bet being cloistered in an aseptic cocoon is awful for a baby. I remember people putting 50 pence pieces in my babies hand when I went to the shop some people here would have a fit.

No idea what Sonia Fowler has to do with anything. How bizarre.

It absolutely is to do with her. We aren’t simply vessels for producing offspring.
I wasn’t interested in ‘showing off’ anything. Just getting back to normal life. My babies were perfectly fine accompanying me. I never felt the need to convalesce.

Tbf the day after my c section with my third I discharged myself, got the bus home, then walked up the hill. Took some ibuprofen finally got some sleep, was fine.

What's the difference? It's just a new mum getting on with her day, same as those going out for walks or doing school runs or grabbing lunch at a cafe.

She needed to eat, so went somewhere to eat. The end.

I’m really struggling to understand your posts tbh. Are you in the pub?!

Potatoes? Certainly never thought of mine that way!

@Unwelcoming that was me who referred to them as like little potatoes 😅

I once read ‘don’t worry about waiting to see what name suits your baby because all newborns resemble baked potatoes’ and it just stuck with me because it’s accurate.

My babies were like sleeping potatoes in the first couple of weeks- they just slept 80% of the day through everything and anything, had zero awareness or care of their surroundings as long as I was there. A coffee shop to them was the same as being at home or elsewhere. I remember being able to go for a lunch and baby would just sleep in the carrycot in their pram for the whole thing. That phase didn’t last long so it’s worth making the most of 😁

Also to add I didn’t say babies aren’t cute. they are adorable potatoes 🥔

I also had a very drunk man give my oldest a £20 note. That wasn't even in the pub but in the lift in my building!

In summer it's ok if windows open, in winter I wouldn't want new baby or mum to be exposed to all those germs

Remember mum is so young too she probably bounced back to health

Jesus 🤦🏻‍♀️ And that’s ok. Just the same as it’s ok for other mums (who love their babies equally) to think they look like potatoes and are happy to exit the precious postpartum family bubble to go to the shops/school run/cafe/pub. I honestly think you must be trolling now because I struggle to believe there’s a mother alive who doesn’t realise that other women do things differently to them and that’s perfectly ok.

They can do what they like and that’s fine- same as I do what I like! We’ve all got different opinions. That’s why Mumsnet exists!

Lol my DGS had the nickname Spud due to this

What germs though? Apart from the family members present ( who could've brought their germs to her house) it's unlikely there would be loads of other people in close proximity

I mean I didn’t get out of hospital until day 6 post partum with my first so frankly this sounds hellish to me 🤣 but I appreciate this young mum felt well enough to be out.

I am old fashioned and I think women should spend a few weeks post partum just resting, being looked after by family if possible, even after an ‘easy’ delivery. And keeping newborn babies away from too many people. But to each their own I guess!

Aww, it’s going to be an angsty time for a 17 year old who has just become a mother. Being around others probably helps her to feel less alone.

Social services would laugh in your face if you raised this as a concern!

But that’s not what you’ve been saying! You’ve been judgmental as fuck!

I went all over the place with my newborns. Even my winter born ones. Just wrapped them up snug and off I went. Pubs, cafes, shops, wherever I chose to go!

I also did the same with my foster babies!

To be fair this probably boils down to the simple fact a child gave birth to a child. If I’d had a baby at 17 I’d have done exactly the same. I would have wanted to make a point to myself ( and the world) that I was still the same person and this baby wasn’t going to change anything. I just hope this young mother has plenty of support around her. My cousin had a baby at 18 and was blessed to have a lot of support. It changes everything. All these comments from much older mothers about going for a meal at the pub with their husbands really aren’t getting it. I just wish this young mother well and OP too who is showing some concern in the circumstances.

Urgh. What if that postpartum woman didn’t want to spend a few weeks resting and being looked after?!

No, that’s just how you see it, so who’s being judgemental?

Still you.