One day old baby in pub

[Frenchie01]

So family member gave birth to first baby yesterday afternoon, she's a very young mum only 17 , normal delivery but episiotomy, baby good weight healthy. Was discharged home today and a couple of hours later was at the local pub not drinking alcohol just showing baby off and eating a meal , but am I right in thinking a day old baby baby is really too young to be in a pub or anywhere really , also worried she should be resting as obviously will be sore. Other family members have said I'm being old fashioned am I.

Exactly.

No thanks.

YABU. When I had my second I left the hospital at mid day by 1pm I had been home, picked up the pram, dropped my eldest at nursery and was in argos where I worked at the time, buying a parasol. It was only later that I realised we already had one but I was on auto pilot after no sleep. If she feels up to it then good for her.

Not with a newborn though 😝

Sense of humour? @ Sonia fowler 🤷🏼‍♀️

I have a sense of humour. I still don’t have any idea what on earth you’re on about.

What has her being 17 got to do with it? Or is that bit of information just a feeder for judgement? ‘Teen girl takes newborn to pub, terrible mother’

No. Babies aren’t puppies, they don’t need to be kept in until vaccinated. If mum felt up to it, baby is healthy and she wasn’t drinking.. what is the actual problem? You just sound judgemental.

By ... clutches pearls harder ... taking your precious baby outside!! To be germed all over by little old ladies!!!

This thread should go in Classics.

@Unwelcoming

this! Do you really think women don’t matter anymore once they’ve had children? That they cease to exist as a person in their own right and are not just a vessel for babies. Very misogynistic of you.

Hardly a child at 17, loads of people have children at that age or even younger myself I had my first at 16 and wouldn't of had the energy for this after Day one. Pretty sure the op herself said she became a mum at 16 and obviously doesn't even approve of it hence this thread

Whether it even matters depends on the pub a large airy one that's not busy isn't going to be a problem it's not like she could of been sat there getting drunk seeing as she is 17. My local pub is always crowded with old men coughing and spluttering everywhere so that would be a different kettle of fish. Last time I went in there I caught a vomiting and diarrhea virus

Then she doesn’t need to stay at home.

I did say it was just my preference/view and ended it with ‘to each their own’.

The mum galavating to meet up? Jesus wept.

Sadly for you we don't lie in the Handmaids's tale.
Luckily, no one cares about what you think and you dont get to dictate where other women go or how they should feel, you need to stop projecting what you may/would have wanted onto what other people want and who can visit who and under what circumstances. You didnt want to go anywhere and host- great, but the young mum did. And luckily, she didnt have to host anything, she could just relax and have fun and enjoy her baby with her family. Good for her.
Maybe deep inside you are a bit jealous that some people actually get to go out and have fun in their lives and live a little and do you had to follow rules set by whoever without questioning them? It's not too late to live a little. It's 2025, not 1825 anymore.

Loool you're wrong jealouss of putting baby in harms way no thank you.... Oh I did have my family and friends come over, but a week later. They're considerate like that. They all brought a dish each too. Everyone's stories and circumstances are different e.g first child etc but everyone's priority is their baby. I highly doubt at discharge Mother said to the nurses I'm just going to stop off at the pub to get a meal-would have loved to see the nurse's immediate reaction.
Have you listened to your self.. This is mum living a little having fun? It's day oneeee

Exactly, everyones stories are different, so dont project your own desires and bigoted views onto others. And why would anyone care about a nurse's (who is just a person like any other) reaction? Why not ask a guy at the petrol station, her neighbour, a cab driver and a dog walker why we are at it.
Unless you have an actual NHS advice about what mothers allowed to do in Victorian times nowadays?
You need to look deep inside yourself and figure out why you are so jaded, bitter and judgemental towards other mothers.

’putting the baby in harms way’ is absolutely ridiculous and why is a nurse going to care whether mums are stopping at the supermarket or to have a bite to eat in a pub or cafe on the way home or the next day. I’m sure they have seen and dealt with actual cases of neglect or abuse beyond ‘mum goes out for a meal with her newborn’

@Unwelcoming

the nurse would have been far happier to hear that, than “I’m going to go home and stay there for weeks not going out and not seeing anyone, just sit there me and my baby”. That would be ringing alarm bells for PND.

I think it’s internalised misogyny @Unwelcoming

Sonia from EastEnders, I think was aged 15 at the time, didn't know she was pregnant until she giving birth. Sonia must had married Martin Fowler, the father, if calling her Sonia Fowler.

Ah. A 25 year old ‘joke’ then.

I don’t think anyone has suggested that new mums lock themselves away for weeks and isolate themselves, just that it’s a special time when baby is taken home, that I personally wouldn’t want to be slotted in with the weekly shop or visit to the pub, but that’s the way it was when I had mine. Obviously some regard it differently now.

I personally wouldn’t want to be slotted in with the weekly shop or visit to the pub, but that’s the way it was when I had mine. Obviously some regard it differently now.
The bit about how you felt personally fine. Why the need for the snark about that's how it was then and must be different now? Women have felt differently after birth and wanting to do different things for ever. It's not about then versus now.

Because that was how it was when I had mine, and things do change!

@Allseeingallknowing

changed for the better then! Sorry you had to go through that but pleased now that women and their mental health is prioritised more. For some women getting out and about and getting back to normality is key to their wellbeing.

It wasn't like that when I had mine and she's 33

Mine is 59 and it was like that!