One day old baby in pub

[Frenchie01]

So family member gave birth to first baby yesterday afternoon, she's a very young mum only 17 , normal delivery but episiotomy, baby good weight healthy. Was discharged home today and a couple of hours later was at the local pub not drinking alcohol just showing baby off and eating a meal , but am I right in thinking a day old baby baby is really too young to be in a pub or anywhere really , also worried she should be resting as obviously will be sore. Other family members have said I'm being old fashioned am I.

CITIZEN'S ARREST!!!!!!!!!!!

Visited the pub on the day of the birt. I left the wife and baby in the hospital though.

You monster - did you parade yourself around the pub or just visit it?

I loved showing my babies off. I used to do my shopping mid morning so the little old ladies would coo. I sometimes even let said little old ladies touch said babies. And I accepted silver coins “for her piggy bank”. I assume I am no longer allowed to post.

You MONSTER!!!

CITIZENS' ARREST!!!!

I bet you didn't hide away in a darkened room for 6 months post-birth either. You disgust me.

No one here has suggested that!

If family friends want to see the baby have the decency to go their house not get the mum galavanting to meet up at a location. To be honest after giving birth depending how traumatic you just want to rest and not be putting up a front hosting and entertaining guests... Yes immediate family can visit who are actually there for you caring for you sorting out meals etc house, your best friend yes but the whole community.... Going to the pub because they have chairsssss are you serious.. Regardless if she's drinking or not it's the principle. Catching something in the hospital is a risk that you don't have a choice about but taking your trophy to the pub is. Apologies I just feel like it's so wrong on many levels. Maybe I'm old fashioned I don't know your have to remember my comment is on a day 1 baby!!!

Like I would get and understand if you had older children and needed to pop into asda get a few food essentials for the kids etc but that's completely different.

No, you and the other sanctimonious posters have implied that those who don’t want to stay at home with their ‘precious bundle’ basking in a postpartum glow in your family bubble are somehow lesser to those who do.

I had 4 c sections. I still went out as soon as I felt up to it (as soon as I was released from hospital for my first baby) because I wanted to. No pressure from anyone. I didn’t want people coming to my house. I was happier meeting people out. Why is it that you and several other posters can’t see any other side to this?

If that’s how you interpret it - fine. I thought this was a discussion and airing of views. No one said any way was wrong. They are all precious bundles wherever they go!

@SmallmerciesExactly why do I disgust you? I don’t think I’ve ever disgusted anyone before!

No one said any way was wrong

Yeah… ok.

I think she was joining in the joke!

Exactly.

I had a c-section with twins which meant I had 3 under 2 as I also had a 16 month old at the time. I didn't want to sit at home and have people to 'care for me', I wanted to take my son to nursery, see friends, have lunch in a pub and carry on as normal.

I felt well enough so that's exactly what I did.

Entirely depends on what your family are like though. My mum used to pop in with a meal she'd made/send me for a bath or nap whilst baby slept. Clean the kitchen or something.

ILs would come for hours and expect to be waited on hand foot and fucking finger. And not by DP because his massive penis stopped him fitting in the kitchen or something. I wish we could have met them out of the house for a short time and then gone home alone

That's fine soon as you feel up to it but she's just literally given birth get busy hasn't even had the chance to play catch up... It's like having your tooth out or surgery, scuffing kicks in days later your body needs to recover for your own sanity and wellbeing

But she might have felt up to it! It’s perfectly plausible that she felt absolutely fine and was happy to meet family in the pub for a meal.

Reading this thread and I'm thinking are these the same people that nearly attacked each other for getting closer than a meter during the pandemic! We all obviously want to go back to normality as soon as possible and have that breather too, I'm not going to argue or deny that we all need a break, but what I'm trying to say is the child's needs come first. For all we know she's prob stayed in over the next few days. She a young mum she's excited and proud she's prob had a good birth too I hope. For the mum that said newborns aren't cute or adorable but more rather like potatoes.... Whatttt!?!?

While talking cute adorable newborns don't get me wrong I do absolutely love seeing them when I'm out in public they just make me smile and especially that newborn cry I go looking around the aisles for them they make my heart melt.

So she rests days later then. Hardly difficult

Reading this thread and I'm thinking are these the same people that nearly attacked each other for getting closer than a meter during the pandemic!

No, the exact opposite I imagine.

And newborns are very much just potatoes for some weeks.

She was sitting down eating a meal. That's it. She wasn't running a marathon.

It's her body and it's up to her, not strangers to know her limits and know if she was ready to go out for a meal.

Do you realise that the vast majority of births aren’t “traumatic”? I feel sorry for you if yours was, but it’s not the norm at all.

@SmallmerciesI’m so sorry-I misunderstood!

It's not about 'she' nomore..it's not me myself and I anymore.. You've showed your bump off for 9 months you got the rest of your life to show your little one off, plenty of time for that! I think everyone forgetting it's day of discharge. I'm trying to remember if I saw Sonia fowler at the pub with her baby if it is the norm now😳