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One day old baby in pub

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Frenchie01 · 09/04/2025 23:27

So family member gave birth to first baby yesterday afternoon, she's a very young mum only 17 , normal delivery but episiotomy, baby good weight healthy. Was discharged home today and a couple of hours later was at the local pub not drinking alcohol just showing baby off and eating a meal , but am I right in thinking a day old baby baby is really too young to be in a pub or anywhere really , also worried she should be resting as obviously will be sore. Other family members have said I'm being old fashioned am I.

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Hollyhedge · 09/04/2025 23:28

I think it’s fine. I think I went to a café day two. If they’re all ok no issue

JBJ · 09/04/2025 23:29

I had DS in a pub for a meal at 4 days old after I’d had a C section. Can’t really see a problem with it; there’s likely to be less germs than there was floating around in the hospital.

TotHappy · 09/04/2025 23:29

Yep. I was in the pub the day after my baby was born, or maybe it was the day after that. Met my brother and sister in law to show him off, and I had a pint too! You only need to rest if you need to rest. No need to be 'confined'.

Galaxybisc · 09/04/2025 23:29

I don’t think it’s ideal for the baby

Burngreave · 09/04/2025 23:30

I wouldn’t do it, but don’t see a massive issue with it. If it was a coffee shop or a cafe, I doubt you’d take issue, but if she’s not drinking and it’s not a lairy, drunken, loud atmosphere, there’s not a huge amount of difference.

12speckledfrogs · 09/04/2025 23:30

I did a Sainsbury's shop on the way home from hospital with new baby in tow. It's fine, she's young she will bounce quickly

neverknowinglyunreasonable · 09/04/2025 23:31

It's ok as long as the baby sticks to halves or shandy.

HaddyAbrams · 09/04/2025 23:31

I went to Tesco on the way home after having DS2. He was about 12 hours old. If she felt up to it then that's up to her. It's not like the days when pubs were full of smokers.

AllTheChaos · 09/04/2025 23:32

I genuinely thought (until I had my own baby) that they weren’t allowed out until they’d had their shots. Like puppies…

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Frenchie01 · 09/04/2025 23:33

I suppose I'm just amazed she can even walk , I was in no fit state to go anywhere lol , but it's been years since I had a baby maybe advice has changed . I was just a bit concerned about her overdoing it but I get she's excited to show off baby I remember that feeling too .

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LadyTable · 09/04/2025 23:34

If she was that sore I'm sure she would've rested up?

As for baby, the midwives told me with my 3 that they could go out as soon as I was well enough to take them.

Nowt wrong with a nice pub lunch when you're happy and celebrating the safe arrival of your newborn.

LadyTable · 09/04/2025 23:35

but it's been years since I had a baby maybe advice has changed .

How many years?

My eldest is 33 and I was told I could take him out as soon as I felt able.

RedFatball · 09/04/2025 23:36

I did the school run 18 hours after my youngest was born. I didn't have to, my husband was happy to do it but I fancied a walk and it was only 200 yards. DD2 slept in a sling through it but it was nice to show people the top of her head...

Teenagerantruns · 09/04/2025 23:36

I think it's fine, everyone wants to see a new baby what's the diffence if they meet in a pub or at home? My DD went to shops as a one day old as it easier to do the shopping before we picked up DS.
I can't really remember when we took DS out, but l know we were in the pub garden when he was less than week old..

EasterOnTheHorizon · 09/04/2025 23:36

AllTheChaos · 09/04/2025 23:32

I genuinely thought (until I had my own baby) that they weren’t allowed out until they’d had their shots. Like puppies…

Brilliant!!🤣

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Frenchie01 · 09/04/2025 23:37

19 since the last one , I can't remember them giving a time limit or anything but I think k I was always at home the first couple of days, but maybe I'm just soft lol .

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Littletinytarzanswingingfromanosehair · 09/04/2025 23:38

I think of she was washing the meal down with a few snake bites or long island iced teas I'd be a bit "wow" but she probably wants a bit of normality before her new life starts I guess.
I lived in PJ's soaked in breast milk for a few days after giving birth and I was 20!

LadyTable · 09/04/2025 23:39

Oh yeah, I forgot about the school run.

I did that (15 min walk) the day after my 3rd DC was born.

2nd DC was born on a Friday.

HouseCaptain · 09/04/2025 23:39

I think that this young mother doesn’t have any support.

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Frenchie01 · 09/04/2025 23:40

Yeh I was only 16 when I had my first and I was sat at home feeling terrible for first few days but we're all different I suppose.

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LadyTable · 09/04/2025 23:40

HouseCaptain · 09/04/2025 23:39

I think that this young mother doesn’t have any support.

Curious how you got from her nipping down the pub for lunch, to not having any support?

GreenLeaf25 · 09/04/2025 23:42

So judgy. I was a young mum and once I gave birth I was out and about. It just didn’t affect me the way my second did 10 years later. With regard to the baby, completely fine for it to be out for a short while!

crackofdoom · 09/04/2025 23:42

She was probably motivated by the prospect of a large delicious meal cooked for her by someone else with no clearing up involved! I distinctly recall making it to my local's curry night with DS1 when he was 3 days old for similar reasons.

Incidentally, I wonder if teenage new mums get even hungrier than most?

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Frenchie01 · 09/04/2025 23:50

Just to clarify I wasn't judging her , I was only 16 when I had first baby many years ago . She will be a brilliant mum I'm sure i was just concerned she might be overdoing it and wondered if others thought I was being old fashioned that's all , clearly I am . I just remember feeling too shit to go anywhere all 3 times but like i said we're all different

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89redballoons · 09/04/2025 23:56

If she's feeling up to it then I think it's fine. It's normally day 3 after having a baby that's the worst in my experience, so at this point she might still be feeling quite chipper.

I took baby DS1 to a pub on new year's eve in the afternoon, and even had a glass of wine while he slept in his pram. He would have been 3 weeks old.