One day old baby in pub

[Frenchie01]

So family member gave birth to first baby yesterday afternoon, she's a very young mum only 17 , normal delivery but episiotomy, baby good weight healthy. Was discharged home today and a couple of hours later was at the local pub not drinking alcohol just showing baby off and eating a meal , but am I right in thinking a day old baby baby is really too young to be in a pub or anywhere really , also worried she should be resting as obviously will be sore. Other family members have said I'm being old fashioned am I.

Teenagers/ people in their early 20's are amazing like that. I guess it's the way we were meant to reproduce.

I don't see the scandal - I didn't go to the pub but I bloody well needed to get out of the house, I was utterly desperate - I went to the local shopping centre to get some comfortable clothing - babies were sleeping the whole time. Made me feel human again. She's lucky she felt well enough.

For me, a coffee shop wouldn't be great either! It's not the germs, it's the noise for the baby. I'd give it a few days to get used to being in the world before being in a busy, loud environment being passed from person to person!

No I am not saying this prevented me from PND as it doesn't work that way but I felt more human and able to cope because although I had a baby with me I was still able to function like the normal adult I was, I did not think this hide away for weeks or months because the whole world changes as soon as a baby was born

I was still me, no we didn't go to nightclubs but we went out to lunch, had coffee in cafes, went shopping and did normal things every day from the time we got back from the hospital

Then why doesn't menopause hit until 50s generally? If that were true, we'd stop being able to reproduce at 29.

I can’t imagine it myself, at that point I was still struggling to establish breastfeeding and bleeding so heavily id have been worried about leaks. But I'm sure some people have an easier time of it than others. Lucky them!

I took both of mine to our local to “show them off” at that age. I was 37 and 41- so quit with the young mum bashing.
How do you think it will hurt the baby?

I’m astonished that there are mothers who feel up to this!

Mind you, I was tubed up to a bag of my own piss for 24 hours after giving birth. I wasn’t taking that down no pub.

But even if I hadn’t been. No, just no! I was in no state for pie and chips down the pub!

I think it's about age at first pregnancy, I can't believe that it is in any way controversial to state tht we are designed to have our first pregnancies around this age......

i agree

It's not about being old-fashioned, it's just that people are different.

I went a farm cafe day 1 of my second. School run day 1 of my third. YABU.

It’s good to see community and the mum showing off her baby. I bet she got lots of happy comments. For her though it must have been tough. I’m thinking of the blood and recovery and getting breastfeeding going 24/24. Perhaps it was the best time for her though - still on the birth high. Look out for her and keep the support going.

Well a mixed. Bag of responses here , will think for at least 2 days before i post anything else to make sure I get the title exactly right so it wont come across as bashing lol as I said earlier i was an even younger mum at 16 but was comparing the situation with how I felt 24 hrs after giving birth but i repeat were all different

Yabu. Dh and I went home via tesco as needed food with dd aged 3 days and then out for a pizza with his parents.

Lucky then that your idea of ideal is 100% irrelevant to this young mum! What does not ideal even mean? Is it ideal for a baby to be driven home from hospital in a car, when we know that crashes happen? Is it ideal to be born into the world today? Are your lives ideal? 😅

I don’t think it’s anything to do with being old fashioned or advice has changed, just that everyone reacts differently to having a baby.

With my eldest (now 18 so not dissimilar to yours), even after having stitches we called at Asda on our way home from the hospital and went out for a pub lunch the next day. I just recovered really quickly and wanted to be out and about.

Second child, I felt like I’d been hit by a bus, c-section, in hospital for 6 days and then home for rest. I didnt even do the school run until DH was due to go back to work (and he took four weeks off).

for mum and baby they should be resting in bed ideally

Same here. I am old fashioned anyway, and don’t approve of taking kids to pubs except for a meal (especially when they are moving about on their own - it’s bloody boring for them). It’s not so much that she took the baby on day one, but rather is it going to be something that happens on day 2, day 3, day 4 and so on? The people posting that they popped into Tesco on the way home after sneezing out a child five minutes earlier are missing the point that this may (although may not, of course) indicate that this child is going to grow up rolling around on the sticky carpet in ‘Spoons like a pub dog instead of being carefully cosseted at home.

Same, but then that's no surprise considering how many people and how much noise the average postnatal ward features. The new mum and baby could easily have needed to stay in a few days, plenty do, and been exposed to just as many different people as in a pub.

So is there actual evidence to this, smoking around a baby or taking them to a night club I presume there is evidence to say this is not ideal, but where does it say mother and baby have to be in bed?

You’re not a wimp. Mine is a toddler now and I was in a lot of pain for weeks. Some women have really easy births and judge other women who don’t have easy births.

Genuinely, what strain? All we know is that she was in a building, ate a meal and talked to people. Everyone does the first 2 things soon after childbirth and a lot of us do the 3rd.

Why?

I was in the pub a day or two after mine, a family place that served food. She got a lot of attention and it was lovely. My birth was easy though, had her just before 7pm, home at 10pm.