To think of myself as a girl at 50? [Light-hearted]

[ThisFluentBiscuit]

Well, I'm sorry, but I do. I don't think I've aged much at all - I don't look much different from when I was 28 I think, (🤭) and I looked girlish then. I'd rather be a girl, which has connotations of freedom and fun, than a woman, which has connotations of too much responsibility!

I think being called a girl is a big compliment. It means you look young. It's equivalent in the States to being called Miss instead of Ma'am. The dreaded ma'am!!!

This thread has been inspired by another thread where the OP says he's confused by a girl at work, who is 41. Some posters objected to any female over the age of 18 being called a girl.

Well, I'll still be identifying as a girl when I'm 80, probably!

Older celebrity women around my age who I think of as girls:
Kate Moss
Jennifer Aniston
Victoria Beckham

In my mind, the above and me are all still 28 but could pass for much younger. 😂😂😂

It's a good day when I'm referred to as a girl. 🤪 Also - and this is the most important part - even though my parents are dead and I'm post-menopausal, I FEEL like a girl!

So, AIBU??

Sometimes it can be insulting to be referred to as a girl. But there will always be women who like to call themselves girls, regardless of whether they’re 16 or 65. I’m not particularly bothered but then again I’m pretty sure no one thinks I’m 28.

🍿💅🤗.

It's one thing to say you're going on a girls' night out or you're going on a girls' holiday but to call yourself a girl is a bit desperate.

You are woman - let me hear you roar!

You do you. I’m a woman and find the word and status empowering. It speaks of breasts, monthly cycles, chin hair, worry about white trousers, sneezing with legs crossed, and so on.

You need to let it go op.

Do you think of 28 year old men as boys too?

I looked up some recent photos of the people you mention (since reading Hello! magazine is not really my thing) and I don’t think any of them look 28, let alone younger, and I wouldn’t describe any of them as “girls”.
Among friends we would refer to each other as girls, but that’s more a term of endearment than an expression of the idea that we still look the same as we did when we were 28.

I've got a white chin hair that I have to keep plucking. I call it Horace.

I'M STILL A GIRL! 😂

Let what go? The dream of eternal youth? Never! 😂

Can I do a cute girly roar? 😂 Like this young lion?

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/SqGfCz8o11Q

I am desperate. Happy to reveal all my desperation bc I don't care what anyone thinks!

Oh fack. Maybe I am a woman after all.

I’m in my fifties and am mentally about 16 so I am with you OP. Sometimes I am doing something which is very adult and I surprise myself. I am very accomplished and people look to me for insight in things and I am shocked that anyone takes me seriously after all I am only 16!!

At my age, yes! 😂

It makes me think of the what I think is the constant infantising of women where they cant think for themselves and need a man to do the thinking for them, wasting your time with an unsuitable man ''it's ok it is not your fault you cant be blamed it if just your girlieness' have a baby with someone you know for 2 weeks 'its ok blame him for the decision'

any lots of other ideas and thoughts male related or not sure use the word 'girl' but wake up and act like the grown woman you are, just aimed at 'girl' in general

Oh Christ, I have all those things, except I'm too old to have to worry about the white trousers!

I think being a girl is a state of mind. It retains the essence of who you were before post-menopausal bladder issues, frozen shoulder, divorce, and gawd knows what else. It says, "I remain young inside!"

Well, if you're 16, then it's past your bedtime, young lady! 😂

She gets it!

I have vague memories of being annoyed at being referred to as a girl when I was much younger, but at my age, it's a compliment!

I know that's how lots of women see it, and I can see that. I just have really positive associations with being called a girl, for some reason. Maybe because I was much happier when I was 17.

I'm not giving up my glitter hairspray, anyway. Don't care how old I get.

if you spent time with actual 28 year olds you would realise that one at 51 looks the same as them.

I’ve never understood people taking offence at ‘girl’ being used if I’d use boy, guy or lad in the same situation, I think it’s just another thing people take offence at though so I keep it to myself and only use it in eg going out with the girls (going out with the women or ladies definitely does not have the same ring!) (mid 40s)

DH (57) and I (53) have recently become grandparents. DH's DNiece says it feels like we're far too young. The mad thing is she made her DM (SIL) a GP in her early 40s. She says we were always the young thinking ones.

I'm under no illusion I look 28 (I really don't) and no one thinks it either. However, I'm very petite and have even been picked up by men more than once! I think that's definitely based on size, not looks.

I think I'd prefer to be called a gal rather then a girl.....it sounds more feisty!😁

52 here and a life time of being single has probably left me slightly chronologically stunted.
Nobody to tell you that outfit is too young for you or mature adults don't spend an entire afternoon on line gaming!

I'm with you! I still feel like the 18 Yr old girl that I was many moons ago. Looking forward to fun and frolics!! I don't want to he an old boring woman - although I expect my kids think I am!!

I'm 50, and I really think I can pass for 28. I got carded when I was 45.