To think of myself as a girl at 50? [Light-hearted]

[ThisFluentBiscuit]

Well, I'm sorry, but I do. I don't think I've aged much at all - I don't look much different from when I was 28 I think, (🤭) and I looked girlish then. I'd rather be a girl, which has connotations of freedom and fun, than a woman, which has connotations of too much responsibility!

I think being called a girl is a big compliment. It means you look young. It's equivalent in the States to being called Miss instead of Ma'am. The dreaded ma'am!!!

This thread has been inspired by another thread where the OP says he's confused by a girl at work, who is 41. Some posters objected to any female over the age of 18 being called a girl.

Well, I'll still be identifying as a girl when I'm 80, probably!

Older celebrity women around my age who I think of as girls:
Kate Moss
Jennifer Aniston
Victoria Beckham

In my mind, the above and me are all still 28 but could pass for much younger. 😂😂😂

It's a good day when I'm referred to as a girl. 🤪 Also - and this is the most important part - even though my parents are dead and I'm post-menopausal, I FEEL like a girl!

So, AIBU??

God I’m totally with you OP. I get all the reasons women don’t like being called girls but I do. I’m knocking 50 and still feel (and look 🤣🤣🤣) 23 ha ha. I also refer to my also knocking 50 and his friends as boys!

I like the term girl too - woman just conjures up dowdy and boring to me.

umm ok.

I'm older than you and still think of myself as a girl! . My friend commented that my DIL is a nice woman ,whaat nice girl 👧 I think you mean .she is mid 30s

I think you can identify however you like. The current climate and generation coming up would help you pretend to be whatever you like, and I say go nuts. If you like the association of the word girl and to believe you look 28 at 51, knock yourself out. But I would say that, like anyone with a strong delusion, you will be the only person you're kidding. Myself, I give a wide swerve to any woman calling themselves a girl.

I am 60 in a few weeks.
I got called ' young lady ' the other week by a bloke which was nice.
However he was in his 90s so I guess it's all relative! 😆 🤣

I have a group of friends from Uni, both sexes, and we refer to the males of the group as ‘the boys’ they’re in their mid 50s.

we've seen each other about three times since Uni but we are in very regular contact outside of this so our heads are probably still there even if our bodies aren’t

You know “cute” when you’re 50 is different from “cute” when you’re younger don’t you?

I like to think I’m girlish in some ways - energetic, open to new ideas, interested in clothes and always up for trying new experiences, ready to laugh at most things but I also like being a woman - experienced, interesting, respected at work, not afraid to be who I want to be.

Tbh op you sound a bit silly and not the kind of girl or woman I’d want to hand out with. Which would probably suit you fine as well.

I’m 58 going on 17. Also my back hurts.

I’m 50 and feel about 26. However if I’m ever out where young-uns go, suddenly I feel geriatric!

Do you have long hair and wear 'girly' clothes?

Are we not allowed long hair? And what are girly clothes?

I think I’ve missed a memo

My grandmother’s 80 and has had the same group of friends since school, and they still call themselves “the girls”.
We had a picnic in the garden for her 70th birthday and they were sitting on a picnic blanket making daisy chains and drinking (perhaps too much) cider, giggling about their teenage crushes and making (very immature) comments about the size and shape of the sausages…

It reaffirmed my belief that not all of us actually “grow up” and are still very much children at heart.
It was strangely lovely to see my grandmother, a strong woman who has a highly-regarded professional career behind her, has raised multiple children and grandchildren, and has been the hard-faced “rock” of the family laugh at a phallic item of food 😂 It can be very easy to take life too seriously and lose your humour, I’m a victim of that!

I’d rather be called a girl in the fun sense of the word. I think I’m my mind I still feel like a girl. However the term has been used in the past to try and undermine me at work, which isn’t ok.

on the whole though I’m glad that adult life hasn’t sucked all the fun out of me and I still feel girl like.

I’m in my sixties and feel pretty much the same as I always did but I’m not a girl. I hate girly clothes, drinks and decor. Even when I was younger, I liked being what I call womanly. I like discussing literature, politics and more serious things-girl implies fluffy things. But people can get excited about what we call each other-I cringe when I hear a colleague say she’s out with ‘the girls’ and she’s 50. But if it’s what she likes, who am I to object?

Totally with you OP, Im a girl and Im older than you!

I honestly don’t care if I get called a girl. The men at work get called boys all the time

I get where you're coming from.

I have a niece who is 35 and, and though I'm old enough to be her mother, she seems 20 years older than me. Nothing to do with looks, just her general demeanour and the aura of mature, no-nonsense womanly competence. 😅

To me ‘woman’ is strong and competent with her shit together. ‘Girl’ is the opposite and a term I left behind at adulthood.

The risk of not embracing the reality of your age OP is that you’ll go from being ‘girl’ to ‘old girl’ and that’s way way worse than woman.

That's sound very woman like. Stronger than a girl. More empowered. Free of the expectations of being 'a girl'. Important not silly.

My DM is in her 70s, she goes out with 'the girls'.

Do you agree that using 'the boys' and 'the girls' as collective terms is completely different to considering adults as girls and boys?

Wow having read the thread theres a lot of people up their own arses here!!

Im a girl, but Im also a respected professional, dont even own a skirt, wear black all year, no make up, not sure clothing choices are indicative of anything, nor is job, nor is appearance.

I think people just dont understand what is being said here!!

Be Jack Lemmon - Im a girl, Im a girl, Im a girl.

We are all different - my mother is 18 at heart at over 70 and my DD now in mid-twenties has referred to herself as a woman since age 10. When something was challenging, she used to say - I am a strong independent woman, I can sort this. She is indeed.

You sound delusional and and your worth is entirely embedded in your looks and whether men find you attractive.

I look great and am fit and healthy but definitely 49 and not 28 and I'm glad to look my age. It represents all the experience and wisdom I've gained in my life and the seniority and respect I am given in my professional life for my knowledge and skills. I absolutely love being and looking my age.

I am 60 and know well I am a woman but I have girl friends, girls nights out, girls weekends away.

Whilst all are very successful career wise in their chosen fields, they all maintain a very light hearted attitude and demeanor.

We have great laughs when we are together.
So I do think of these longtime lovely friends as girls in my heart, though we are patently we are not.

They all dress in a very classic elegant timeless style, which is very subtly youthful too and unchanged over the years.