Boyfriend has just blocked me

[Namechange2609]

Oh god help please..

my boyfriend of 7 months has just blocked me and ended our relationship based on the fact that this morning he whatsapped me to go and shut the kitchen window whilst he was in the shower. The message didn’t pop up on my phone (must of been signal). He came into the room to say did you not get my message? I said no and I went onto WhatsApp and his message popped up.

he has blocked me because he thinks I turned my notifications off because I must be speaking to other men. He also gave me the silent treatment all day and night and I had no idea why until a couple of hours ago.

i do not deserve this and it’s absolutely disgusting but obviously I’m hurt and taken back and need some tough love!

Block him - don’t waste your time wondering when the next message will arrive .

Why have you not blocked him on all channels yet?

What do you hope to achieve by allowing him to gaslight you and insut you?

Block him everywhere NOW

Please block him in every possible way now so he can’t call or text you again. If he turns up at the house don’t answer the door. If he keeps on just call the police and report him for harassment. Then go grey rock and completely disappear. It’s the only way with a narc.

Just block this idiot, don't respond, change your number if it continues and tell your friends and family, people like this can be unstable. Don't waste time and energy on this waste of space.

As everyone else here has said, don’t engage with him. Block him on your phone, WhatsApp, and all social media. You don’t need to know if he calls or what he has to say. Zero contact is the safest way to go, since you’re still entertaining him by answering his calls.

Also, put plans in place for when you’re feeling down or lonely. What will you do when your kids aren’t around and you’re feeling low? A plan will stop you from going back to him in a moment of weakness.

You’ve got this!

Please block him.

So you never blocked him . You haven’t blocked him and you are still entertaining this bullshit.

it blows my mind. I’m hurt of course but I do need to really stay strong here
You stay strong by reading over your own post about this 7 month relationship. Don't let this get to 7 years.

He usually causes a big fight or drama week on week and it usually starts with him using the silent treatment on me and me not knowing why (and when I’m with my 2 DCs). He has subtly been putting me down, but never has any positives to say about me. He never apologizes for anything - everything and I mean everything is my fault. He watches me cry and ignores me or tells me to cuddle the dog as he’s good for cuddles, oh and he loves to withhold affection and love when I need it but really obviously give it to his dog for example I could be sat there crying and he will grab his dog turn over spoon him and start kissing him, telling him how much he loves his dog. It’s very strange and I know he’s trying to make me feel worthless at this point. he is bipolar, un medicated. Suffers with intrusive suicidal thoughts at night
he will often call me a slag, as a “joke”. When he wants sex it’s ok, when I want sex it’s “everything is about sex with you not everything is about sex”
he 100% has a porn addiction. He often hangs up on me mid conversation on the phone for no good reason, he’s rude. He never takes me out on dates, he never pays me a compliment, He cannot and will not communicate about any issues I have, everything is about him and his needs, everything is on his terms
I’d love to be able to give the examples for the horrible out of the blue arguments he’s started but my minds gone blank, but just know once in his kitchen I asked why he was clenching his fists. Oh two weekends ago, he started an argument with me when we woke up and then told me that I had ruined his day, I’ve ruined the entire day
the guy makes me feel bulldozed (only way to describe it) on another level. The constant put downs and tarnishing my character, cheating accusations make me feel like I’ve just been hit over by a giant bulldozer
wow I needed to get that rant off my chest! Well done if you got this far. Thank you for reading.

All because you didn't receive his WhatsApp message asking you to shut a window??? From that he's decided you must have been chatting with other men, because you didn't see/reply to the message????!! Is he usually insecure and jealous? If something this minor is going to cause him to accuse you of 'chatting with other men', then that doesn't bode well for the future. You have every right to be hurt, upset but also bloody angry. Imagine a few years down the line, when his jealousy/insecurities have intensified, to the point whilst out with him you look at the floor because if you don't you'll be accused of looking at other men, or you stop going out with your friends because he doesn't like it or wearing makeup makes him think you're trying to attract men. Yep, I had these accusations, and those same scenarios. Block him, don't go back to him and be very glad it was only 7 months you wasted and not years.

It’s because his message didn’t pop up on the front of my screen (probably signal!) so he took that as me hiding my notifications.. all his assumptions. Yes he is usually this insecure it really does wear me down. I’m sorry you went through this too

Have you blocked him everywhere yet @Namechange2609?

Just block him and never communicate with him again. Too much drama.

fgs he’s a piece of shit and no good will come for you from any more interactions with him. You need to do some soul searching about why you put up with this in the first place and why you’re not telling him to fuck off and blocking him now. There is no reason on this earth he should get another second of your time, he’s not a good person and you will only damage yourself by having anything to do with him.

Do yourself a favour and block and move on. Or don’t and waste your life running round after some dickhead who does not and never will give a flying fuck about you.

Good news - now he’s unblocked you, you can block him!

Block him and breathe a huge sigh of relief. You do not need this man in your life

RUN RUN RUN please listen he is not normal he is manipulative don't get pregnant with him or your life will be ruined

La if he's obsessing about you and other mean this always always means he's been cheating or trying to

Run as fast and as far as you can

If he has a key then get it back or change the locks. Put all his stuff in a bag for life and he can collect it from somewhere neutral.

block him. He will get nasty and probably call from different numbers.

his MH issues and choices he makes are not on you.

Do not look back
I left it far too late to leave similar behaviour

It's painful when you have no self belief, and my nature was to beg forgiveness

Believe me, you will be relieved one day

He will come begging

He will not change

I have told him he doesn’t deserve me or an ounce of the love I give him. I woke up this morning feeling quite calm and assertive about the situation (as in I’m done and not feeling too upset) however I woke up too a message with him just sticking the knife in so I feel upset all over again.

time for another ‘me’ day keeping busy!

Can you just block him?

Every single person had told you to block him but you’re choosing not to and prolonging this. He’s still in your head until you close that door

Stop questioning why he behaves like this.
Stop being there for more.
Stop all his messages
Stop expecting an apology.
Stop being shocked by his behaviour/words/emotions/narrative.
Stop letting his deliberate dramas into your life.
Stop caring !

It’s the only way forward for you unless you want a miserable, desperate life, like this, where you think are done one minute and then you wake up to nasty messages all ver again.

He’s playing you like a fiddle because he can. He’s laughing behind your back. He loves winding you up. And you let him. It’s risking your well being!

OP, he’s dangerous. Just block him now once and for all and put him in the past. He’s nothing to you any more. Concentrate on getting your own life in order.
Block him on every single thing.

Oh for gods sake, telling him off and sending long messages isn’t going to suddenly make him change and treat your right. You’re wasting your time and you’re secretly hoping he will apologise and come back. He won’t.

Ive been there OP, but at this stage you’re allowing him to do this to you. He wouldn’t be able to send nasty messages if he was blocked. Stop leaving the door open for him.

Seven months and this is how he’s got you feeling? All this energy spent on him over the last two days that could have been spent on you and your kids

Block him or don’t, it’s up to you, but this will be your life if you don’t.