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Boyfriend has just blocked me

477 replies

Namechange2609 · 09/04/2025 01:44

Oh god help please..

my boyfriend of 7 months has just blocked me and ended our relationship based on the fact that this morning he whatsapped me to go and shut the kitchen window whilst he was in the shower. The message didn’t pop up on my phone (must of been signal). He came into the room to say did you not get my message? I said no and I went onto WhatsApp and his message popped up.

he has blocked me because he thinks I turned my notifications off because I must be speaking to other men. He also gave me the silent treatment all day and night and I had no idea why until a couple of hours ago.

i do not deserve this and it’s absolutely disgusting but obviously I’m hurt and taken back and need some tough love!

OP posts:
PinkyFlamingo · 13/04/2025 00:51

Lovemycat21 · 12/04/2025 22:24

It is obvious to me that you will get back with him

Of course she will, totally agree. Sigh...well you can't help someone who won't help themselves.

Gratefulforlife66 · 13/04/2025 08:09

He sounds like a narcissist. This type of behaviour is not ok. You have definitely dodged a bullet. Don’t let him come back. If he contacts you, don’t engage in any conversation or messaging. Thankfully you have seen him in true colours after 7 months, and not gone on longer. Good luck lovey. You didn’t deserve that, move on and love your life.

Coco1379 · 13/04/2025 09:03

Good riddance, bad rubbish

Labelledelune · 13/04/2025 10:31

Run.

MarvellousMonsters · 13/04/2025 13:14

Namechange2609 · 11/04/2025 11:27

I am following everyone’s advice - like I’ve already said my friends and family know all about this. They WILL hold me accountable. In my moments of weakness they are there.

thank you again for all the messages they are all very much appreciated. Feeling stronger by the day and far more in control

Now block him on every platform he could contact you on, and send all numbers you don’t recognise to voice mail. Don’t let him contact you again. Ever.

Timetoheal4good · 13/04/2025 14:37

If you hadn't said he was 32 and you'd been with him for 7 months, I could have almost been convinced this was my ex.

Walk. Away. Now.

Change your phone number and delete all trace of his number, social media etc so that you are never EVER tempted to go back. Push through any immediate feelings of longing that will come from leaving a trauma bonded mess like this because I swear, the minute your head is clear again, you'll thank your lucky stars.
Abusive, poisonous and altogether dangerous.

All the best

Timetoheal4good · 13/04/2025 14:38

Also, you are not dumb. Nor a c**t. You're smarter than what he'll ever be and that's why you are walking away.

Be gone you narcissistic twat.

smithsgj · 14/04/2025 01:57

I've only read the first page and obviously the bf is horrible and OP should move on. But... what's with the communication by WhatsApp within the same house? Did I miss something?

LellyLov · 14/04/2025 08:23

it is hard when you know in your head it’s time to leave. But think about when he does meet your children what about when the narcissistic ways start with your children or control please try get out now before it’s been years wasted and not only you hurt.

Skybluepinky · 14/04/2025 08:35

He isn’t the one for u.

Superfrog1 · 14/04/2025 17:42

Think his response is very irrational and unreasonable or him. This is NOT your fault. I have experienced similar situations and it doesn’t get any better just worse. Reflection of insecurity I think and a controlling personality. Good luck 🤞

GraceLou · 14/04/2025 17:45

Namechange2609 · 09/04/2025 01:44

Oh god help please..

my boyfriend of 7 months has just blocked me and ended our relationship based on the fact that this morning he whatsapped me to go and shut the kitchen window whilst he was in the shower. The message didn’t pop up on my phone (must of been signal). He came into the room to say did you not get my message? I said no and I went onto WhatsApp and his message popped up.

he has blocked me because he thinks I turned my notifications off because I must be speaking to other men. He also gave me the silent treatment all day and night and I had no idea why until a couple of hours ago.

i do not deserve this and it’s absolutely disgusting but obviously I’m hurt and taken back and need some tough love!

He sounds like an absolute twat, let him go. Also, in my experience… accusations like this that come out of nowhere are usually admissions! They’re doing it so think you are too! I don’t have my notifications on deliberately as my lovely but outrageously nosy colleague on the desk next to me at work reads them if I leave my phone out 😂

FuckoffeeBeforeCoffee · 16/04/2025 05:01

Lovemycat21 · 12/04/2025 22:24

It is obvious to me that you will get back with him

I was thinking exactly this as I was scrolling through.

It’s quite sad, really.

Original poster
Namechange2609 · 16/04/2025 05:45

Oh no.. you’ll all be very pleased (as I am) that we are done and this experience has put me off dating for the foreseeable future which I take as an absolute blessing.

Unfortunately, I do believe we are put in certain situations to teach us hard lessons, but I have learnt what I do and do not want in a partner, and I have learnt even more so to really love myself. Looking forward to the quality time I have with my children

I will update this thread again in due course with how I am getting on for anyone who is interested :)

OP posts:
TrishM80 · 16/04/2025 05:45

Any update from the OP? I bet she's taken him back, despite everything.

TrishM80 · 16/04/2025 05:48

TrishM80 · 16/04/2025 05:45

Any update from the OP? I bet she's taken him back, despite everything.

Seeing OP's update, ignore this!

TrishM80 · 16/04/2025 06:02

Namechange2609 · 16/04/2025 05:45

Oh no.. you’ll all be very pleased (as I am) that we are done and this experience has put me off dating for the foreseeable future which I take as an absolute blessing.

Unfortunately, I do believe we are put in certain situations to teach us hard lessons, but I have learnt what I do and do not want in a partner, and I have learnt even more so to really love myself. Looking forward to the quality time I have with my children

I will update this thread again in due course with how I am getting on for anyone who is interested :)

Have you blocked him on every platform?

Original poster
Namechange2609 · 16/04/2025 06:11

TrishM80 · 16/04/2025 06:02

Have you blocked him on every platform?

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Yep! Good riddance

OP posts:
GingerPaste · 16/04/2025 06:19

Whats happened is good. Make sure he can’t contact you to wheedle his way back in.

TeaAndTattoos · 16/04/2025 06:25

Wow what have I just read I had to read that twice just to make sure I had read it right the first time he blocked you because you didn’t get a WhatsApp message over closing the window is this a new level of unhinged that he’s unlocked because that’s some next level madness I don’t always get my DH’s WhatsApp messages he has never blocked me for it. I really think he just did you an absolute solid because now you can move on with your life and not waste anymore time on him but damn my flabber has just been gasted.

Sameoldsameoldsame · 16/04/2025 06:27

TrishM80 · 16/04/2025 05:45

Any update from the OP? I bet she's taken him back, despite everything.

She replied right above your post asking if she'd replied.

Oddsocksanduglyshoes · 16/04/2025 09:35

Well done 😊

YesHonestly · 16/04/2025 11:59

Well done OP!

You have just guaranteed your future happiness! Being single isn’t that bad, promise x

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Labelledelune · 16/04/2025 12:25

Good for you. Good luck in the future.