To feel miffed with my neighbours request?

[Aliceglass]

I don’t know if I’m being sensitive or unreasonable here. My next door neighbour approached me at the weekend to give me dates of their summer garden parties.

For context, We live in a terrace of modern houses and we all have similar sized gardens, enclosed by neighbouring gardens, back and side.

So my neighbour told me about her planned garden parties over the next few months and there were 3 dates confirmed, 2 tbc.

But, she has specifically asked us that we don’t use our garden during the days of these parties.

I was a little take aback and said that we don’t have any scheduled bbqs or parties on those dates so they will be fine. But she said they didn’t want us to use our garden, AT ALL!
Apparently it will spoil the atmosphere if I was to “pop to the bins and empty my recycling” or if they could hear the washing machine on a spin if I left the back door open!

I did laugh at this stage and say well I can’t promise to not access my garden for the whole day.

She went on to say how her friends are “well to do” and they would expect privacy and not to be interrupted by unnecessary noise.

I got a little frustrated at this point and I asked if she was just letting me know or if the neighbours the other side were also being asked this. She assured me that, yes they were and they confirmed they won’t be using their garden or the gate to their garden at the back so as to not disturb her.

Am I being unreasonable to think that this request is unusually controlling?

This is hilarious!!

Oooh you could have such fun with this. In no particular order:

• kids party with new trampoline and a shed load of sugar. Nothing will make a neighbour’s party go with more of a swing than shrieking and heads boinging into view above the fence
• practice your nude interpretive dancing on the lawn
• sit with deck chair, binoculars and popcorn and watch them all
• hasn’t it always been your dream to take up the bagpipes? Now’s your chance

I am sure others will come up with more suggestions.

Naked 😂😂

No surprises 99% of mums netters are with you on this OP
Can you give us all the dates and we’ll pop round

I just can’t believe the audacity of your neighbour.

It’s pronounced Bouquet🤣

Right.

Well, perhaps the neighbourhood can straighten her out - help her come to terms with the new reality…

And if she doesn’t like it, she can always move back to SW1…

I'm not wasting anything.

I'm pointing out that you're being disingenuous with your question, and if you really agreed they'd be fine because you've got no plans then that's on you.

No point in moaning about it if you're going to agree to it.

A new sprinkler system that goes a little too far and wide? 😆

I am sure that will be the day you are staying inside as you will be spreading manure on your beautiful garden.

Dance naked around a maypole, singing the neighbours theme tune

Jesus wept, I'd be off to B&M to buy one of those Lay-Z Spa sex ponds. Then on the night, I'd neck a bottle of wine, fill DS9 with sugary crap, get the karaoke out and moon anyone with the audacity to complain.

Total CF. Ignore.

She’s batshit.
Of course it’s an unreasonable request
However with the aim of keeping the peace I might just go along with it. And do a rain dance the night before.

You have to fuck with them on principle.

I’m hoping you have a hot tub you can sit in on those days or hire one! Purely for entertainment value. Plus I’d definitely be needing to move the bin! 😂

A heads up that she is having a party on these dates - absolutely fine. Asking you not to use your garden - absolute CF.

I would be organising the biggest Chavvy party with my friends I could in my garden for these dates. Or failing that, just let the rubbish build up a bit/ don't cut the grass/ borrow a ratty old squeaky trampoline and let the kids go wild on it.

If you really committed to it. Keep your PJs on, drag the bins about, loudly empty your recycling (bonus points for lots of bottles or cans), stage a Chavvy row with DH, scream and shriek at the kids for minor infringements with the windows open. You could have so much fun, especially if you co-ordinate with the other neighbour. You could even stage a massive neighbour slag off with the other neighbour whilst the party is ongoing. Plus then have some massive drinking party with a low tone. Also - hire a sex pond (hot tub) and day drink in it with friends all day.

Nooooo OP. Play the long game here.

Wait for party day. Saunter into the neighbours house and start greeting all her friends. Tell them just who you are. Make sure you wear a full ball gown, heels, everything. And when she asks why you are there, state that you thought you had been invited given that she explicitly informed you when the party was 😆

Can't you get some sweary bunting? Or Maybe this would do?

Off You Fuck Then. Funny, Rude and Sarcastic Leaving Banners. Funny Banners for Leaving Party. Funny Retirement Banners and Decorations. - Etsy UK

I also have had some success in this area by telling my toddlers not to pee on the cabbages but on the grass instead.

tell her you forgot to mention that those are the exact dates you're having your foam parties in the garden as you're not going abroad this year & didn't want to miss out

Whilst smoking a fag…

Foxtrot Oscar to that request really 🙄

That’s absolutely disgusting entitled behaviour ! I wouldn’t be dictated to

Isn't it time for a bonfire?

I’d be choosing this day to clean all my underwear and hang it on the line!
Usually when you tell neighbours about parties/ bbqs it’s either to invite them or to let them know not to put washing out or it might be noisy.
your neighbour obviously has a complex about where she lives and is comparing that to where her friends live. That’s her issue not yours so you enjoy your garden whenever you line OP!

Has she considered hosting an Outdoor Indoor Luxury Barbeque with Finger Buffet?