To feel miffed with my neighbours request?

[Aliceglass]

I don’t know if I’m being sensitive or unreasonable here. My next door neighbour approached me at the weekend to give me dates of their summer garden parties.

For context, We live in a terrace of modern houses and we all have similar sized gardens, enclosed by neighbouring gardens, back and side.

So my neighbour told me about her planned garden parties over the next few months and there were 3 dates confirmed, 2 tbc.

But, she has specifically asked us that we don’t use our garden during the days of these parties.

I was a little take aback and said that we don’t have any scheduled bbqs or parties on those dates so they will be fine. But she said they didn’t want us to use our garden, AT ALL!
Apparently it will spoil the atmosphere if I was to “pop to the bins and empty my recycling” or if they could hear the washing machine on a spin if I left the back door open!

I did laugh at this stage and say well I can’t promise to not access my garden for the whole day.

She went on to say how her friends are “well to do” and they would expect privacy and not to be interrupted by unnecessary noise.

I got a little frustrated at this point and I asked if she was just letting me know or if the neighbours the other side were also being asked this. She assured me that, yes they were and they confirmed they won’t be using their garden or the gate to their garden at the back so as to not disturb her.

Am I being unreasonable to think that this request is unusually controlling?

Ignore her!

In fact, I hope it torrential rains on her planned dates. Cheeky bitch!

You mentioned the gate to her garden. Is it a terrace street where there is access to each other's gardens for bins etc? We have friends who live in similar and have parties and there is a sort of informal agreement not to come through the garden between their neighbours when they have guests, but to say you can't go into YOUR garden or even have your door open is ridiculous.

Bahahahahahahaha

i think you just need to send her a link to some lovely detached houses nearby that might suit her better

Same here.

That would definitely make me want to arrange a garden party. That's bonkers to ask a neighbour not to use their garden.

Yes she’s a close fit to a Hyacinth Bucket! This shouldn’t come as a surprise really. DH just reminded me that last year he witnessed her telling off the neighbours on the other side to her for putting a deck chair on their front garden as “that’s not the front garden was intended for” . They’re clearly not prepared to mess with her again!

If they're that well to do they can hire an outdoor space, preferably with a ha-ha so the peasants can go about their menial business out of sight of these guests. If they haven't the funds then they shall have to put up with seeing you doing the bin run.

I'd be tempted to stick a fascinator on for each venture into the garden, that gets progressively more lavish with each trip.

Wow. That's so mad it's quite funny really

"Noted"

Aren’t you hosting the MN summer party on one of those days …😂

Quick, plan your piss-up!! You got the dates, I dare you 😂

Ha! I’d’ve laughed in her face. And sunbathed in the garden with my tits out on the day of said parties.

I'd also counter with saying something like oh if they are well to do then they wouldn't want the locale trapped indoors unable to enjoy their privately owned space, tres gauche don't you agree?

That’s hilarious. 🤣

What a snooty cow.

I would liaise with the other neighbours and organise a bash of your own and give it a loud n lewd theme or an all night festival vibe xx

🤣🤣 wtaf

Hope the weather's nice...... Time for an impromptu Mumsnet BBQ in your back garden @Aliceglass what were those dates again?????

I'd be inviting some pot smoking/crack pipe tooters round that day 🖕

Curious though why you waste your time and energy on here then? I always try to be a good neighbour and wanted to gain some perspective, that is all!

I think I will! My DH talks to them more than I do so I have asked them to make sure they have a) been asked and b) whether they want to join forces in having a convo over the fence that day with Mrs Bucket and her posh friends in the middle!

Sod that for a game of soldiers. I'd be out there with a fucking trumpet.

There's being a good neighbour and there's being a doormat.
She's CF of the highest order.

I can think of NOTHING more guaranteed to ensure I was out in the garden with my rowdiest mates from dawn to dusk than this request. Cheeky cow!!