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Afghan women being denied refuge by government

132 replies

Maitri108 · 05/04/2025 10:48

It's very disturbing that Afghan women are having their claims turned down. We're all aware of how women can't work or speak in public. Human rights defenders are in grave danger and are being told that they don't face persecution if they go back.

26 women in 2024 had their claims rejected which is absolutely appalling.

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nomas · 06/04/2025 11:07

Snappington · 05/04/2025 20:23

We are full

Yet not full for 250,000 Ukrainian refugees.

GetMeOutOfMeta · 06/04/2025 13:13

What I don't understand is that our birth and fertility rate is falling, we are top heavy in age meaning we need more carers and caring professions. How are we "full"? The VAT on private schools has been trotted out with "there are plenty of spaces in state schools for them all to move into state sector" yet we don't seem to have space for more people in anything else? I think if they can work bring them in, they can be therapists and doctors for the homeless who need addiction issues sorting out, help us with our CAHMs backlog. Get those homeless and mentally unwell people who want to work back to it.

Maitri108 · 06/04/2025 13:20

GetMeOutOfMeta · 06/04/2025 13:13

What I don't understand is that our birth and fertility rate is falling, we are top heavy in age meaning we need more carers and caring professions. How are we "full"? The VAT on private schools has been trotted out with "there are plenty of spaces in state schools for them all to move into state sector" yet we don't seem to have space for more people in anything else? I think if they can work bring them in, they can be therapists and doctors for the homeless who need addiction issues sorting out, help us with our CAHMs backlog. Get those homeless and mentally unwell people who want to work back to it.

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I think it means we're closed to brown Muslims. People are saying that we don't have room for a human rights defender whose life is in danger, but we do have room for immigrants who come in their thousands to work.

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notatinydancer · 06/04/2025 13:23

Gnarab24 · 05/04/2025 10:55

Personally I think every female currently in Afghanistan should be given asylum, if being told you can’t work, get an education, speak to anyone outwith your family, look out of windows isnt persecution then what is? And it would
leave the men in charge of the taliban with an interesting conundrum….

How on earth would that work ?

Jaessa · 06/04/2025 13:30

Wishyouwerehere50 · 06/04/2025 11:04

This is where I get so torn. We have people in dire situations here as it is. I'm very much shifting positions on these issues.

What I find difficult and it's where I question humanity is when I read words like ' good' as you've written. Almost like a sense of glee.

So I agree with the clear understandable frustration of people here right now. Yet, if one has any understanding of Afghanistan and being a woman, especially this woman and her background, it's akin to sending her back to her death.

If there were some way we could enforcibly halt all movement in order to get a grip of those in the system ( accurately and appropriately) I'd be more inclined to support that.

Being the island we are, I really don't know how it would ever be achievable.

Farage is a tool pretending he's like the everyday man. He isn't. In their proposals they talk about managing this with absolutely no feasible realistic explanation as to how. People will buy this.

No I don't have the answers btw.

I got the answers. Stop aiding the destruction and destabilising of foreign countries and open trade routes with them. Then increase joint state-public ownership and management of assets and resources.

Wishyouwerehere50 · 06/04/2025 13:57

Jaessa · 06/04/2025 13:30

I got the answers. Stop aiding the destruction and destabilising of foreign countries and open trade routes with them. Then increase joint state-public ownership and management of assets and resources.

I'd love to have a better understanding of all this.

I've read a fair bit about western involvement in areas such as Iraq and Afghanistan and see how much worse things have been for some resultantly. I need to learn more. The majority of the public won't fully understand this either. They don't exactly promote awareness to this understandably.

Jaessa · 06/04/2025 14:00

Wishyouwerehere50 · 06/04/2025 13:57

I'd love to have a better understanding of all this.

I've read a fair bit about western involvement in areas such as Iraq and Afghanistan and see how much worse things have been for some resultantly. I need to learn more. The majority of the public won't fully understand this either. They don't exactly promote awareness to this understandably.

Google UK interference in West Asia and enjoy the horrors.

Maitri108 · 06/04/2025 14:01

Wishyouwerehere50 · 06/04/2025 13:57

I'd love to have a better understanding of all this.

I've read a fair bit about western involvement in areas such as Iraq and Afghanistan and see how much worse things have been for some resultantly. I need to learn more. The majority of the public won't fully understand this either. They don't exactly promote awareness to this understandably.

The West, predominantly the US and UK, have been interfering in the ME for decades. IMO they're largely responsible for the current refugee crisis.

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Wishyouwerehere50 · 06/04/2025 14:08

Jaessa · 06/04/2025 14:00

Google UK interference in West Asia and enjoy the horrors.

I'm going to do this. I can imagine it's grotesque behaviour on the part of the West.

Puzzledandpissedoff · 06/04/2025 14:51

Wishyouwerehere50 · 06/04/2025 14:08

I'm going to do this. I can imagine it's grotesque behaviour on the part of the West.

Best to keep an open mind if you're not already aware of a lot of the issues, Wishyouwerehere50 and to read responsibly as opposed to outlets dedicated to one point of view only

If it's actual news you're after Reuters and Associated Press, while not perfect, are often better than most, and for overviews I'd recommend finding a reputable scholar to guide you through it

While it can be hard work the results are worth it IME, and at least you'd avoid the shrieking headlines of the hideously biased rags, the lobbyists who've completely sold out and more

Imsodepressediactlikeitsmybirthday · 06/04/2025 15:03

Personally, I would send all the people who are keen on denying refuge to Afghan women to Afghanistan. But that’s just me I guess.

Maitri108 · 06/04/2025 15:04

Imsodepressediactlikeitsmybirthday · 06/04/2025 15:03

Personally, I would send all the people who are keen on denying refuge to Afghan women to Afghanistan. But that’s just me I guess.

They could demonstrate how to 'effect change'.

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JHound · 06/04/2025 15:31

FlameGrilledSquirrel · 05/04/2025 23:57

If we make simply being female from a country such as Afghanistan a reason for asylum then are we also happy for their families to come over including their male relatives? You know the ones causing the problem?

We can't take everyone.

Why would allowing entry to women under a certain asylum scheme mean accepting their male relatives?

JHound · 06/04/2025 15:33

Maitri108 · 06/04/2025 01:04

No one is suggesting we take in every single asylum seeker.

Colombia, Germany, Iran, Turkey and Uganda have almost one-third of the world’s refugees

Iran 3.8 million
Turkey 3.1 million
Colombia 2.8 million
Germany 2.7 million
Uganda 1.7 million

69 % of refugees live in countries neighbouring their countries of origin.

https://www.unhcr.org/refugee-statistics

The amount of people who think Britain alone in the world accepts asylum seekers is just….sigh.

Why can’t people read more?!

JHound · 06/04/2025 15:36

GetMeOutOfMeta · 06/04/2025 13:13

What I don't understand is that our birth and fertility rate is falling, we are top heavy in age meaning we need more carers and caring professions. How are we "full"? The VAT on private schools has been trotted out with "there are plenty of spaces in state schools for them all to move into state sector" yet we don't seem to have space for more people in anything else? I think if they can work bring them in, they can be therapists and doctors for the homeless who need addiction issues sorting out, help us with our CAHMs backlog. Get those homeless and mentally unwell people who want to work back to it.

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Oh you need to read between the lines.

We are full to brown muslims. For thousands of Ukranians we have all the space in the world.

Maitri108 · 06/04/2025 15:36

JHound · 06/04/2025 15:33

The amount of people who think Britain alone in the world accepts asylum seekers is just….sigh.

Why can’t people read more?!

It stands to reason that people will flee to neighbouring countries. I'm not sure why people think we're the only country in the world taking in asylum seekers.

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EasternStandard · 06/04/2025 15:50

Maitri108 · 06/04/2025 14:01

The West, predominantly the US and UK, have been interfering in the ME for decades. IMO they're largely responsible for the current refugee crisis.

I’m not sure the West are responsible for how women and girls are currently treated in Afghanistan and some other countries.

The decision to hold them as almost prisoners is down to the current rulers. The laws they bring in, which are getting worse, could be lifted if they wanted to.

safetyfreak · 06/04/2025 15:55

99% of claims are approved, so why are you making a big deal out of 26 people?

Imsodepressediactlikeitsmybirthday · 06/04/2025 15:57

safetyfreak · 06/04/2025 15:55

99% of claims are approved, so why are you making a big deal out of 26 people?

Because those 26 people are actual humans who will almost certainly suffer persecution, torture and/or death if deported to Afghanistan?

I wish you were one of the 26 in question instead tbh.

Puzzledandpissedoff · 06/04/2025 16:05

Maitri108 · 06/04/2025 15:04

They could demonstrate how to 'effect change'.

I thought you were against "western interference" in Afghanistan Maitri108? And what happens when it's found that too many Afghans don't want change - at least not the type which would further women's interests?

Nobody pretends that what's happening is pretty, but I've yet to see any workable suggestions for what can actually be done about it and which won't lead to yet more claims that everything's the west's fault

Maitri108 · 06/04/2025 16:14

Puzzledandpissedoff · 06/04/2025 16:05

I thought you were against "western interference" in Afghanistan Maitri108? And what happens when it's found that too many Afghans don't want change - at least not the type which would further women's interests?

Nobody pretends that what's happening is pretty, but I've yet to see any workable suggestions for what can actually be done about it and which won't lead to yet more claims that everything's the west's fault

I wasn't being serious.

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saraclara · 06/04/2025 16:20

Puzzledandpissedoff · 06/04/2025 16:05

I thought you were against "western interference" in Afghanistan Maitri108? And what happens when it's found that too many Afghans don't want change - at least not the type which would further women's interests?

Nobody pretends that what's happening is pretty, but I've yet to see any workable suggestions for what can actually be done about it and which won't lead to yet more claims that everything's the west's fault

Your sarcasm detector needs some tuning.

treeslakesmountains · 06/04/2025 16:26

Jaessa · 06/04/2025 01:08

Good, we can't take any more. We should be helping our own homeless, drug addicted and exploited women first

I've heard this type of argument alot but will you? It seems to be the common answer but will you actually go and help a British homeless person? Maybe even just one since you don't think you should help this particular lady.

If you don't do that either then neither party is getting helped and that argument just creates smug apathy (imho). Not that I'm in any way perfect but this thread has made me decide to write to my MP.

Wildflowers99 · 06/04/2025 16:33

Well, quite. Do we interfere in an independent nation in the Middle East again, or not? Is there a right meddling and a wrong meddling? Most of these women will not speak English and will have small children to care for and won’t be able to work for a long time. How do we support them?

Maitri108 · 06/04/2025 16:52

EasternStandard · 06/04/2025 15:50

I’m not sure the West are responsible for how women and girls are currently treated in Afghanistan and some other countries.

The decision to hold them as almost prisoners is down to the current rulers. The laws they bring in, which are getting worse, could be lifted if they wanted to.

The West is not responsible for how the Taliban treat women. The US however, funded and encouraged extremist Islam in its fight against the USSR.

You'll be interested to know that Al Qaida was funded and trained by the US. Fast forward, Trump negotiated with the Taliban and released thousands of extremists before leaving Afghanistan to its fate after its invasion and occupation.

Western interference in Iran, Syria, Yemen, Iraq and the consequences are a sight to behold.

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