AIBU to be tired of living next to other people?

[GrumpyNeighbourAgain]

Is anyone else tired of having neighbours? Has anyone else moved to somewhere more remote as a result?

My neighbours aren’t nearly as bad as some that I’ve had but they’re still grating on me. I don’t like kids and I’m tired of all the noise and accoutrements that come with them. Every week it feels like there’s another giant play item blocking my view and they also put it closest to my fence though there’s one side that has no one next to it.

I’m tired of screaming children. Why do children all seem to scream unnecessarily now and why does no one tell them to stop it?

Neighbour’s teenage kids shouting, laughing and talking at full volume coming home at 3am.

I’m tired of people’s motorbikes, garden parties and just noise in almost every form.

I wouldn’t mind having neighbours who are around, say 100 yards from me but not much closer.

Has anyone else moved more rurally/remote and was it worth it?

TIA

I’d definitely move somewhere more remote if I felt like this. Sounds like you need solitude

The countryside is not quiet. You have all sorts of noises. Maybe you'd prefer those noises though.

We moved to a detached bungalow, now we get large lorries and tractors thundering down our road

Lived in a flat now temporarily. I am with you.
I don't know how so many people get through life without learning how door handles work. Or talking at normal volume. That's my latest gripe.

I still dream of the small old farmhouse away from other houses I saw advertised but sadly too far to commute to work😭

Btw more people moan about the noise because the world has actually got noisier (and less colourful)

I live in a cul de sac of mainly older people and we are all detached , not remote but on the edge of a village .
Next door to us is 1 child aged around 5/6 but we never see/hear them as both parents work full time and they are hardly at home.
Do you want actual remoteness or could you find the equivalent of around here near to you ?

I do. I live directly opposite a farm. I’m looking at it now and I enjoy hearing the pheasants calling and I don’t mind the farm machinery and farm animals at all.

I have foxes barking all night. I'm on the very edge of suburbia though so I have neighbours too. I don't mind the normal sounds of people living their lives.

I grew up rurally, (our house actually backed on to a farm paddock), and I remember being home sick as a teenager with a terrible dose of the flu, having to listen to a very loud mooing cow! It was agony. Not to mention roosters, trucks and other noise associated with rural activity etc. The countryside is not necessairly peace and quiet.

I actually didnt mind the noise most of the time (maybe because I was use to it?) but I really couldnt go back to rural life due to the isolation. When I went to university it was such a novelty to have a take away delivered

I did originally grew up rural but ended up moving to a fairly busy housing estate, lasted 5 years before selling up couldn’t cope with the screaming, so much screaming and other noise, back rural again, can’t even see my neighbour, it improved my mental health so much

YABU to expect families with children to stop living their lives.

Yes me. Was thoroughly fed up of the politics of boundary sharing, cars, antisocial noise at the weekend etc

Moved to the countryside down a lane away from the road with our nearest neighbour a field away. Absolute bliss

Yes, move, the peace will do you good.

I would assume rural areas has issues to but it would be peaceful for you.

I personally love the living in a lively place. Other than than my direct nosey neighbour, I think she stalks me. complaining about my bird feeder crumbs, any minor inconvenience.

I wish she would move to the countryside.

I am a deep sleeper, plus my neighbour don't allow teenagers racket unless it is a special birthday.

Who said that I did? I’m the one who wants to move. Though I don’t think that asking people to have some consideration for their neighbours e.g not literally scream their heads off is too much to ask.

Not unreasonable at all. We all have different preferences. Mine is that I enjoy living in a terrace and the kids next door are a welcome noise, and I couldn’t bear living in a remote location!
Hope you find your perfect home!

I'm not so sure it has. I remember lots of noises from my childhood.

I use public transport a lot and often feel desperately desperately sorry for the neighbours of about 40% of fellow passengers because they are SO loud, speaker phone conversations at full volume, awful awful music at full volume, iPads with awful kids programmes at full volume.
What on earth must it be like living near these selfish, inconsiderate, self absorbed morons?

Torture I imagine.

There are numerous articles on it including academic one. It's been affecting people as well as wildlife.

It's even small things like less soft furnishing, less trees in some areas etc which are making it worse.

Shitty built quality with no sound insulation in general in UK is also not helping.

We have no immediate neighbours - nearest is around 1/4 mile, it’s bliss.

I find new builds have noticeably more noise than traditional construction too.

I would prefer that to people noise.

I can’t stand noise. When my kids were young and had friends to play, I tolerated it. Now, aged 53, in menopause, I just love the peace and listening to the birdsong.

YANBU.

Please point out where anyone expects that

We did. It’s fucking amazing. Our nearest neighbour is 2.4 miles away.

We bought this property because we have a private sports field on 3 sides and the street is one way access road and we are set back from it.
Just in zone 3 in London. It's so quiet that the cats are startled by letters dropping through the front door. We are happy. My aunt lives in a tiny village in the countryside 7 miles from the nearest town and she has two sets of problem neighbours who are noisy and drive her mad. It's people who are the problem.