AIBU to be tired of living next to other people?

[GrumpyNeighbourAgain]

Is anyone else tired of having neighbours? Has anyone else moved to somewhere more remote as a result?

My neighbours aren’t nearly as bad as some that I’ve had but they’re still grating on me. I don’t like kids and I’m tired of all the noise and accoutrements that come with them. Every week it feels like there’s another giant play item blocking my view and they also put it closest to my fence though there’s one side that has no one next to it.

I’m tired of screaming children. Why do children all seem to scream unnecessarily now and why does no one tell them to stop it?

Neighbour’s teenage kids shouting, laughing and talking at full volume coming home at 3am.

I’m tired of people’s motorbikes, garden parties and just noise in almost every form.

I wouldn’t mind having neighbours who are around, say 100 yards from me but not much closer.

Has anyone else moved more rurally/remote and was it worth it?

TIA

Yes I feel exactly the same. We love our house in a quiet leafy street. It's semi-detached and for years a older chap, a widower lived next door. At the beginning of this year a family with three boys under five moved in. As you said screaming and shouting constantly heard through the wall. The parents are loud too! Now they are about to undertake a huge building project that will last months. We are at our wits end. Looking for another house, probably still in suburbia as we like the convenience but will definitely make sure we check out the neighbours!

We are in a small terraced house and similar.. why don't people pull door handle down rather than slam. The neighbours obv have some issue with front door (prob due to the slamming for years...) and now to shut it they have to bang it many times...drives me mad..also they can't talk to each other..every thing is full volume

YANBU. It is not living near people that is the problem. it is living near thoughtless cunts that is the problem. I'm considering moving north partly to be closer to family but also to get out the increasing shit-hole that is SE England and its inhabitants. My estate used to be quiet but now I have screechy sprogs on one side and a dog that barks every time a mouse farts in the garden on the other side, and combined with the effects of house building leading to the town feeling rammed full most of the time, it has just got less and less pleasant living around here.

Well I don’t - born in the 70’s where most people were pretty considerate to others and in fact it was frowned upon to make any kind of disturbance without apologising after.

OP if I had the money I would live in a detached house - yanbu

I love your friend's auntie too!

I have nice neighbours except one set. There was originally an elderly gentleman living in the house, very quiet and only made a noise once a week which was when he cut his lawn. Unfortunately he died and the house was sold to a builder. He has been busy renovating and rebuilding the house for his family, adding a stick on shoe box extension to the back of the house. The noise has been continuous for over a year 6 days a week and a couple of times 7 days a week. Now the house is finished he is busy turning the front garden into a concrete car park and building a large home office in the back garden. The back garden is flood lit and there was music and bright lights until 2.00am a couple of weekends ago. I could hear their music over my TV set.

He also has two zappy little dogs and two screeching toddlers.....

I 100% hear you

I live in a flat. I’ve had nightmare neighbours over the years that have driven me to despair and impacted my health.

If I won the lotto tomorrow, I’d be off to buy a nice barn conversion/cottage somewhere more rural.

I can quite happily endure cows, sheep, tractors etc over loud music, screaming kids, and antisocial noisy gits.

I couldn’t agree more

I’m a bird nerd and also do bird photography, so being surrounded by the sounds of birds and nature is just absolute bliss to me 😍

Go and see the film Restless
You'll either feel better about your neighbours, or get some inspiration.

I don’t mind having neighbours, I was talking to OP

As someone with a Jamaican father, I can confirm my Aunties were like this 😂 (they’ve passed away now).

Jamaican women are not to be trifled with 🤣

The world is noisy and I hate the constant sounds of traffic, especially the stupid souped up cars and the arseholes who ride round in a motorbike with balaclavas on going through red lights and so much other illegal driving.

Have just recently moved and the Cul de sac we were in was perfect, all considerate. We all had young kids and they were friends so was fantastic. All.of our kids made noise in the garden and would shout over to each other but we knew it wasn't going to be late or intrusive to those wfh.

Now, no idea who my neighbours are so always shhh xx

I was a kid/teen in the 90's & 00's and we defo played/ screamed & talked loud. We were all kids once.

If it's bothering you alot, your only option is to move.

We moved from the South of England to the middle of nowhere in Wales, with our nearest neighbour being 1/2 mile away. It's WONDERFUL!

Giving birth does not automatically disconnect the part of the brain that deals with social norms, consideration and how to live alongside other people.

I was brought up on a farm and lived in a rural area until I left home at 20 to work in a large city.
I now live in a large town near a city and couldn't imagine moving back to the countryside. Growing up, I found rural life too quiet and boring, it was grim in the winter whereas urban living is way more interesting and there's always something to do.
But I do understand the noisy neighbours issue though, particularly this time of the year when kids are out playing etc. I don't mind kids playing and making a reasonable amount of noise but the constant screeching and high pitched screaming is too much for me. These days I take a radio outside and use earphones, this has worked for me.

I moved from the home counties to a wee cottage by the sea. Yes, of course it has noise, i can hear the waves, sheep, cows, pheasants, foxes and some traffic in the far distance. Only noisy part is walkers that have to shout to each other, god knows why the can't just talk.

I most definitely did not scream. I’d have been hauled in immediately by the nearest available body part and rightly told to zip it. My family didn’t want to hear it let alone the neighbours.

Some kids may have screamed then but the majority of them seem to do it now.

Sympathies @GrumpyNeighbourAgain it's horrible when noise affects your day to day life.

We actually live semi-rural in a semi-detached converted out building that belonged to part of a farm. It was bliss at the beginning, all our surrounding neighbours were nice, still are nice, but unfortunately the old farmer and his family (wife and grown up son) moved out of the main farmhouse with the adjacent access yard and the new neighbours that have moved in are trying to run a mechanic business. Everyone has complained to no avail. It's affecting all of us. The owner doesn't care, effs and blinds when confronted. Says all the vans and cars and trucks belong to him so it's personal cleaning/valeting. Which is a big fat lie as we never see the vans again once they are fixed or cleaned. Generators going, power washes, circular saws, the works. It's amazing how a peaceful, field facing, rural setting can be ruined by one selfish arsehole.

We are trying to save up money to move somewhere even more rural but feel sad as until they moved in it was such a lovely little community of 6 houses. Never heard each other as it's the old farm walls, but friendly enough to take in parcels, look after cats, help with bin collections, let visitors park in each others drives if they needed to when not enough space on the farm road. Now hardly anyone goes outside and if we do and there's a risk he's out there glaring at us and starting his circular saw or his van cleaning again. I think the next option will be a noise complaint but don't know what difference really it will make. If we do move I will miss our other neighbours.

We live pretty remote in an old farm workers cottage, we have two neighbours one is a middle aged couple who are always away, and the other is rented to two mid-20 lads who are always away. It’s lovely so quiet (we are the noisy ones) not overlooked at all. I couldn’t move to somewhere more built up, we did look a while back but I just felt a bit trapped. We are disturbed by the neighbours occasionally usually a party or something so maybe two/three times a year, there is always one night mid summer where the farmer combines all night which is a bit noisy but it’s the price you pay for everything else.

Hey

@Thirteenblackcat sorry - I meant ot reply to the OP too, not sure how I managed to quote in error :(

I live in the hills and was brought up in the city. I could not move back to that life again! Only noise we get is the sheep in the fields and the birds, it’s lovely in spring time to see the baby lambs and bunnies. Only 2 downsides one is the weather, if it snows I’m stuck for at least a week, when it rains it pours, wind is ridiculous, bloody cold in winter but the sunshine is bliss 😊. The other is no pub for 3 miles and no takeaway deliveries. I do miss being close to my friends and family but I wouldn’t change it, my partner is from a farm life hates city noise etc. I’d move if that’s what you want to do it is worth it.

I’m in a detached property but with neighbours very close by ( we share fences ) and young children either side .
I like the sound of them playing and the little one on one side chatting away to his mum , dad or grandparents .
However I do agree about screaming, talk at a normal volume for goodness sake it’s not difficult !
I was convinced one day that one of them over the back had an accident because they were screaming 😱 they were actually fine as I asked if they were ok .
The child is about 4 and I know they aren’t SEN so why !!!!