AIBU to be tired of living next to other people?

[GrumpyNeighbourAgain]

Is anyone else tired of having neighbours? Has anyone else moved to somewhere more remote as a result?

My neighbours aren’t nearly as bad as some that I’ve had but they’re still grating on me. I don’t like kids and I’m tired of all the noise and accoutrements that come with them. Every week it feels like there’s another giant play item blocking my view and they also put it closest to my fence though there’s one side that has no one next to it.

I’m tired of screaming children. Why do children all seem to scream unnecessarily now and why does no one tell them to stop it?

Neighbour’s teenage kids shouting, laughing and talking at full volume coming home at 3am.

I’m tired of people’s motorbikes, garden parties and just noise in almost every form.

I wouldn’t mind having neighbours who are around, say 100 yards from me but not much closer.

Has anyone else moved more rurally/remote and was it worth it?

TIA

I think most people feel like this when the weather gets better lol, I don’t like the sound of other people either but then my family tend to drown out the noise with our own

I hate some neighbours. On one side there are two dogs that won't shut up. On the other there are two girls who shriek when they are playing. They sound like crabs being boiled.

We never even hear our other neighbours.

I’ve posted a couple of times on this thread already but just fancied adding a bit more in - our elderly neighbours at late 70s, the man is nearly 80. Since we moved in which was 4 years ago this summer I have been secretly wishing his age to start catching up on him, as awful as it sounds. The second the sun comes out he’s got the radio on in the garden, he seems to be forever out the front when we arrive or leave the house so we have to talk to him, he used to talk to us over the fence but we managed to stop that by ignoring him, and he has the power tools out regularly making a lot of noise.
Whats funny is we are the family with young kids, but we are quieter!!!
I hate to be like this but I know when he slows down with old age I will enjoy my house more as a result. So I can’t help but look forward to that day.

Live in rural Ireland, in the middle of a field. Next field is the MIL - wanker neighbor completely out of sight (not MIL) . The peace is deafening and we love it. We live on 3/4 of an acre and no one overlooks us. Its bliss.

@HagsRuleI am so sorry this one neighbour has ruined the joy and peace of where you live, for all of you. It sounds as if he’s running a business and I guess some detective work could confirm that, He clearly hasn’t got a licence. I don’t know how anyone has the gall to move somewhere quiet and peaceful and set up a noisy business

If you put the house up for sale - would anyone looking for this sort of property want to buy it? They’d be wanting a peaceful hamlet

Trouble is, you may move and have perfect neighbours but one could move, as in your current case, and the new one be loud and intrusive.

No. Not unreasonable.

I'm like you, OP. I grew up with a mum who had very bad anxiety issues/meltdowns that were easily set off by sounds outside - kids yelling in gardens, power tools, that kind of stuff. As a young kid I just saw it as 'mum being weird', but I've turned out exactly the same. As an adult, sharp or loud sounds outside make me unable to relax in my own space, and long periods of something like a dog barking or neighbourhood music playing makes me feel quite frazzled and irritable. Not sure if it's something I've learned from my mum despite trying not to, or if there's something more innate about how both our brains work.

It's difficult to explain to others as they think you're being a whinging dick who wants to ruin others' fun. I don't, and I'm well aware the problem is with me, not people just living their lives... but I do dream of living without close neighbours.

People who bang out loud music all day, every day, or make unnecessary noise at unreasonable times of the night are outside of this and are inconsiderate.

I hate our neighbour. We are fortunate enough to live in detached houses with large gardens. But our neighbour has taken it on himself to be the dictatorial patriarch of the street. When my gardeners come he leans over the fence and tells them what he wants them to prune in my garden. Once he told them to take out a tree he decided he did not like. In my garden. Then he rang me up and screamed abuse at me down the phone because the wind was blowing leaves from my garden into his.

After 3 years of this and when he was again telling my gardeners to prune a rose bush of mine because he did not like it being so close to his fence ( i measured it - it's not quite 2 metres away) i told him in no uncertain terms that he did not get to control me or my garden and he could stick to his side of the fence. He did not like that at all and since then a couple of times a week shoves notes through my letterbox telling me what an awful person i am and how he has discussed me with all the other neighbours and they all agree I am terrible. The latest one he said that my 'defiance' of his wishes had sent him into a depression and he has had to get counselling.

In other words- he's fucking nuts.

Yes of course you are not being unreasonable. I would hate a remote rural setting though. I enjoy people, like my neighbours, take pleasure in a lively place. Horses for courses.