Most ridiculous things you’ve been criticised for on mumsnet

[Peacepleaselouise]

Lighthearted…
What’s been the most silly things you’ve been heavily criticised for on mumsnet?

I posted on the feminist board, looking for a bit of solidarity after a rather frightening incident where a man was needlessly aggressive towards me at a petrol station. I was shaken but also enraged because I was certain he wouldn't have done the same to a man. About half the responses essentially said I must have provoked his anger by faffing about doing my hair/make-up/looking at my phone etc. I was doing none of these things but the assumption that as a woman I must have been doing something stereotypically 'girlie' to deserve an angry man threatening me was eye opening. (The other half of the posters were nice to me, but 50% of posters bending over backwards to find a reason why the woman was to blame for the shitty male behaviour was depressing)

That having fibromyalgia was an excuse for being lazy and it’s a made up thing for people who just want to to nothing.

A lot of MRA types hang around the feminist forum (and abuse/rape threads) as feminists make them angry. I doubt women were accusing you of doing your makeup.

Some of the COVID posts were epic.

Posters being told that milk wasn’t a necessary item and they should put butter in their tea. Accusing posters who went out to buy a loaf of bread of murder.

I hid the COVID topic a couple of weeks in because it was mental, but some of it leaked through to AIBU before being moved.

Haha, some of these are brilliant.

I can't quite decide on just one so...

1. Asking for advice on how my ND 5 year son might make friends with the boys in his class. Apparently his desire to be friends with other boys was heinous and I should tell him that beggars can't be choosers (people actually used those words). He just wanted to try and make friends with another boy as he has some girl friends.
2. Asking for advice on quick dinners. We can get very time poor and struggle to keep up with meals. I got the most insane answers back like - 'why did you have kids if you don't even have time to make dinner' - erm, sometimes we are very busy at work. Sometimes not. I just wanted recipe suggestions.
3. Asking if anyone understood the building regs around downstairs toilets, as we wanted to remove ours. I got crucified about the totally imaginary, non-existent old person who might need that downstairs loo one day.
4. I dared to say that my family keep our finances mostly separate, in response to a lady asking how others manage their finances. I think you can all imagine what others has to about about that! 😂

Honestly, MN is bonkers sometimes!

I remember reading some of these threads!

Not lighthearted… and possible trigger. TW

Mumsnetters who commented on a post I made years ago about 2 close friends who hurt me (we were all pregnant at the same time but I lost my twin pregnancy) they ignored me and never checked in after my loss. I distanced myself a bit too but always checked in when possible - they never asked me. We were extremely close. All sorted now luckily.

I was told things like “get a grip” “they weren’t even full term babies” “you’re being selfish and have no idea what it’s like to be in the third trimester” - no I don’t because my twins died before I got to be.

I never spoke badly about these friends and just reached out for advice - to be told my babies didn’t matter was just not needed.

Someone asked a question about side effects of weight loss drugs. I'd just read an article about the risk of gastroparesis so I mentioned that.
I was immediately jumped on asking how dare I say this as I am not qualified to!
And
Someone else asked if I expected her to stop taking her antidepressants because they can have side effects too.

I don't know how some people's minds work.

Was told I would be the reason breastfeeding would become extinct because I had the audacity to stick up for someone who had difficulty breastfeeding so stuck with bottle feeds instead.

Extinct though, seriously.

Many many years ago my BF was coming for a long holiday with her new husband from abroad staying with us. She never turned up and never called (not until the time she was due to leave) or replied to any messages I left.
Obviously I was upset, DD was small and I was also upset she never met her.

I was told I shouldn’t expect my best friend of 20 years to be interested in seeing my child. (I travelled over 200 miles to see hers when he was born btw) and not everyone was interested in seeing other peoples babies.

So is having a debilitating fear of spiders so I'm happy with how I handle it

Exactly, that's quite obviously what that attachment is for😁

I am so sorry about the reactions you got when looking for support concerning your children, @TaupePanda and @Pinacolada007 . That is rank cruelty.

Agree. COVID MN was utterly mental.

I posted about taking my bubble (admittedly there are 8 of us because we have 6 children) for a walk and how a man had aggressively screamed at us from over the road that we were breaking the law and he would call the police, then followed us home to find out where we lived, shouting about "the offenders" the entire way. And MN gave me a right load of shit, agreeing that so many people had no business being outside. When I said they are all my children, MN said I was disgusting for having so many and asked who pays for them! I was mind blown.

Mn is bonkers. It is all peppered with cunts who unfortunately found your thread, I'm sorry they found you when you needed support x

Hahaha some people are bonkers about potty training. I trained my 2 children just after they turned 3, it was easy. But some people on here will have you believe that if you don’t train by 2 you will miss the magical window and your children will never be dry!!!! They are now 10 and 7 and I’m pleased to report no lasting ill effects from my late potty training 😀

Can you link it please?

(edited to say please, I forgot my manners for a second there 😆)

For saying blue badge holders should park over dropped kerbs, was called disablist and that they could park wherever they wanted even if it was unsafe

Yes, I was bollocked for saying (many years before his untimely death) that Shane Warne was, indeed, a great spin bowler with an amazing laudable talent, but a $h1t of a human being to his wife and kids and several teammates. And I brought up his defrauding of members of the public and generous business leaders with his phoney charity foundation which was shut down because of tax fraud and his dodgy director's fees.

Apparently, one is not allowed to knock a solid drinker/smoker who is an epitome of how many Australian men would like to be.

To me, he was just a boorish tw@t with an amazing other talent.

For selling something that had not only been left in a previous house by the owner, but had been sealed up in a boarded off area of the house. Apparently I should have tracked down the woman who sold the house to me and given it back to her….

So many people have told me it’s easier to train a child over 2.5-3 to use the toilet rather than 1 or 2.

Tuna mayo works well. Cheese and ham. My Dad used to do it for us when we were young. Take them out as you leave for school, they're defrosted by lunch.

I used to be. I started giving them names and imaginary lives- it really helped!

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5303247-to-take-dd-5-to-mcdonalds-every-other-weekend?page=1

Welcome 😁

Not wanting MiL to buy 20 + presents per child at Christmas. It was ages ago though and I think more posters are in my side these days.

Trying to help someone answer a question they had about starting therapy as that's my job and being accused of lying about being a therapist
The focum can be quite tiring at times 😂😂😂