To be angry that my DM rents???

[Ohioatdawn]

I'm so angry.
My DM, at 76 years old, rents her house.
She does not own her home.
This means I will never inherit anything.
Which in turn means my DC will never inherit from grandparents.
I'm so, so angry about this.
Why is life so unfair.
Why am I surrounded by people who have inherited their elderly parents houses, and by doing so have acquired mass fortunes due to what houses are selling for nowadays.
Why am I surrounded by people who are putting their inheritance into savings to give to their own DC when they grow up.
I'm so angry.
Why is life so unjust.
Why are some people so lucky and other people so unlucky.
Why are some people just handed hundreds of thousands of pounds through inheritance.
Meanwhile I'm working arse off full time. DH is working his arse off full time. We live in a tiny house cos it's all we could afford. Got no parental help with buying it. It's a state, needs loads doing to it but we can't afford to do it. Mortgage repayments are a fortune. And life is hard financially. Really hard. We're drowning. And never are we going to receive any help financially whatsoever. Never.
Why are some born into luck and others born into struggle?

I only got a grand from my grandparents (specifically, my grandmother) and was fine with that. My life is my responsibility and I am from a poor background. Get over it and stop sounding so entitled / childish. Most people I know with homes did not inherit the money for their deposits

Maybe not. Maybe some parents want to leave all their money or their house to the local donkey sanctuary. Stop being a whingy little brat

Is it the op pulling a reversal on us? 😄😄

Really worries me that there are people that think like this. Are you not more concerned with your parents having a good quality lengthy life than what you could get from them when they die. I feel sad at the thought of my parents passing away, I couldn't care less about an inheritance from them.

Wow - I am so glad that you are no child of mine!

Life is unfair but we have to try and make what we can of it.

I'm not angry DM had nothing to leave us. If anything I was more saddened she had to live a life that meant she could barely provide for herself.

It is unfair. Inheritance taxes should be much higher and with fewer loopholes. It's making our society more unequal and less of a meritocracy, which is harmful.

Not your mum's fault though, and you shouldn't have an unfair advantage either.

I didn't inherit when my grandfather died as he was an ex police officer so still rented his house from police housing stock. When he died it was sold as the police no longer have houses to rent out. My maternal grandparents had a council house too which they managed to buy. Being angry that there is hardly any social housing left is more sensible than being angry that you were not born into a wealthy family.

Dh and I are 40 and we are still a couple of years away from saving up for a deposit. I'm not angry, it's just life unfortunately.

I will inherit from my parents, me and my brother will probably get £130-150k each based on today’s house prices. My parents don’t want to spend that money on care fees etc as they have worked hard for what they had, we grew up poor, free school meals etc but both of us will willingly pay for their care and use their assets to do so if needed. I hope we do inherit as that it what they want but their well being comes first.

So sorry for you.
I will cry you a river.

But why? My parents own their house. They both worked really hard for it.

where do you draw the line? Should I be taxed if I give my dd £50??

No one is owed inheritance. Many, many people live their whole lives never having inherit a penny and we do quite fine and have long happy lives. Some people do everything to give their children a sizable inheritance but then every penny has to go towards their care costs in their last years.

I imagine your DM isn’t renting purely to spite you and prevent you from getting what she’s earned through her life. You can be upset all you like that life is unfair but directing your anger at one person is ridiculous.

Remove the chip from your shoulder. YABVVU.

Donkey Sanctuaries and other animal charities, especially small local ones would be very grateful.
DD works for one.

This a bait. I think this can't be real tbh. I'm reporting it.

You don’t own a house and still got DC? How unfair to them and their future children! They must be so angry with you.

You should be ashamed of yourself.

Comparison is the thief of joy.

Oh grow up, OP. Nobody has a right to inherit anything. Even if your mother owned a property, it could very well be used to fund care home fees.

We could all be grumpy that we're not millionaires, but be reasonable. Go out there and make your own money, if you're so bothered, otherwise just appreciate the life you have.

“Life is so unfair to me, I work hard while some people have inherit wealth.”

Meanwhile; mothers in Gaza are picking out the bodies of their children from the wreckage that was once a hospital.

Life is unfair. You can always find people who are better off than you and others who are worse off. Even people who claim they have made their own 'luck' through hard work or sacrifice are denying their privilege to be able to do that. Inherited wealth, social status, good health, intelligence, positive role models are all factors that affect our outcomes.

If you believe in a religion you can blame your god.

Your post is dripping in self pity and disdain for your poor mother. Get a grip. I won't inherit anything either. I also rent as I have struggled to get on the property ladder. I hope my DD doesn't have the same disgusting attitude you have. No-one is guaranteed to inherit - particularly if the parents need full time care.

This, absolutely.
My life has not been remotely 'fair' (CSA, disability, poverty) but it is what it is.
I make the small improvements I can, then seem to go 3 steps backwards!
But, the only choice is to count the blessings you do have, or become bitter.

Donkeys are lovely animals.

My mother owns 2 properties, I don’t anticipate inheriting anything from her and I very much doubt my children will either. I expect it all to go to her 2 favourite children neither of whom have children themselves.

TBH I’m a bit frustrated that she won’t sell one of those properties now as it would give her a very comfortable final few years but it’s up to her.

I’m not sure OPmeans to be disdainful about her mum- maybe just frustrated that the situation is that her mum has only been able to rent and then inequalities of wealth are more likely to pass on down generations. In which case I get your point. Other things in life are frustrating too as others have said but I can see that this might be one of them. I don’t think it equates to wishing your mum had died!