To wonder how unethical a coffee date would be if he won’t commit?

[Celia24]

To clarify, my partner is dragging his heels on a proposal for various reasons. In my 30s I’m not getting younger.

I don’t want to break up with him yet, but I also don’t want to put all my eggs in his basket.

would I be a cheat to consider signing back up to the dating apps, with the intention of going on some coffee dates (nothing physical)?

Just end the relationship if it isn’t working for you - how you feel if your partner did this?

Ditching him will concentrate his mind on whether he wants you or not.

If you were thinking about doing this then why on earth do you feel he should be proposing?

That's no position to be in to be thinking about marriage. You need to either tell him that marriage is a deal-breaker and get married. Or tell him that the lack of marriage is a deal-breaker and you're going to end things.

OP if you're considering getting married, I would say that open & honest communication is the bedrock of that if you want it to last for the long term.

So no, not being able to discuss your honest feelings about where you want your relationship to be going isn't a great start.

As for playing the field to see if you can come up with a better offer while he decides whether you're worth some insta-perfect proposal?!?

I don't really get the impression that either of you is in this for the long haul 🤷🏼‍♀️

Absolutely
Go for it
What're you afraid of?
Best wishes OP 💪💪👍👍
I'm rooting for you ♥️

Well if her DP wants her to be exclusive perhaps he should consider marriage.

It isn't ethical IMO and I'm not sure how helpful it would be to go on dates anyway. So if you fell for someone after one coffee date - would you then break up with your DP? If you didn't meet anyone you liked, would you give up trying and settle for your DP? I think if you want to meet someone else, you may as well break up with your partner and go for it. There's no way of knowing if there's someone better out there - but if you feel there is, you probably need to break it off.

I think you need to be able to talk to your DP if you are considering marriage. Talk to him about marriage, find out where he stands, and take it from there.

Just end it.

Or talk to him!!!!

For one thing, I doubt any half decent potential partner would be thrilled to find out they'd been dating someone who's still in a relationship...

i believe that’s called monkey branching and it’s for those not strong enough to be alone

@Celia24why don’t you propose to him?

Let me spell out for you how decent people behave in this world, because you don't seem to have a moral compass.

f you are in a relationship you don't date other people. If you want to date other people, you end your relationship first.

You might want to write that down so you remember, because for most people it is obvious, but apparently not for you.

As long as you tell him that you no longer consider your relationship as exclusive, go for it.
What did Beyoncé say again?… 😂

Ask him out right about marriage and kids, if he says not yet bin him and find a man who will commit. Sadly your clock is ticking. Good luck

Do you live together? Have shared finances? Do you do the housework, cooking, laundry etc? Do you bring in an income?

If the answer is yes, you've already handed him all the advantages of being married and none of the responsibilities. Why would he want to change that?

Either way, you need to tell him this is not a life you want - marriage and a family is your dream.

If it isn't his, you need to end this relationship and get out there.

It starts with talking with him.

Are you 12?