talk to me if you stupidly bought something £££ you couldnt really afford

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In my defence, I have had a horrible time featuring death which has left me on a swing between dark depression and f*ck it do it now you might be dead tomorrow.

I bought a pair of shoes that I really liked but were a ridiculous amount to spend on shoes of any kind. I feel a bit sick when I think of it. I will keep them as its not bankrupting but it is stupid out of the savings money. I do like them but it was really really really stupid. No one should spend that much on a pair of shoes.

Hoping I am not alone and someone can make me feel a bit better with similar tale that didn't end horribly.

Little bit embarrassed but I'm not really bothered. I let him tease me 😆 It started off as grief purchasing during lockdown after losing my son quickly and suddenly, and I found myself with an itch to scratch. I'm getting better though. I joined an Early Retirement Group on Facebook which offers very sensible financial advice and it's made a difference. I've not got myself into debt, but wasted a lot of money that's for sure 😆

Omg!! I thought I was bad! Bloody hell that's a lot!! 😆

@Crazyladee my husband once bought a beef tomato with a yellow label.

No, the one where the school goes out there and sets up Millies (though I have Joey Goes too). I have about two thirds of the series in HB as well as all but two in paperback. Mostly very shabby but much loved over the years!

I couldn't really afford to get a personal trainer but...I still pay them £280 per month and I am in the best shape of my life and its forced me to change the rest of my life to make more money in order to pay them! So in the long run, it has been for the best. But it has felt like a big expense at times.

There was a piece about this on You and Yours! https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/m0028bj1

sorry it happened to you

I sm sorry about your son. I can not imagine. ❤️

Oh my goodness, that's gorgeous! Maybe it would work as a wall hanging, post-renovation? Less likely to get any wear and tear that way.

@HornungTheHelpful
Enough now. Not only derailing but also ruining the mood. PPs are saying how much this thread is helping them. How about just letting them enjoy it.
As you were, everyone!

I have loved reading about all the different random things pp have bought! I particularly like the floral stag head.

I’ve been very obsessive about buying clothes post weight loss surgery and have made mistakes which I’ve promptly put back up for sale. I dread to think of how much I’ve wasted on postage 🤦🏼‍♀️ I decided I needed cords in every colour-I didn’t and I only wear one pair. I obviously needed a jacket in every colour too. I have filled many bags for charity. I’m currently obsessing over jumpsuits. 🙈

I’m another who did the impulsive horse purchase (when I was slim). He was £3K many years ago, he’d be a hell of a lot more now, extremely smart when cleaned up, reasonably steady, anyone’s ride, fabulous cob, just over 15hh.

We have bought some very random furniture, some way too big for the one bed flat we lived in when we got it, now fits a treat. We were definitely planning for the future! I daren’t go to auction houses anymore.

Re the cutlery, I would pay serious money to buy matching items to mine, probably bought for when we were setting up house over 20 years ago, possibly M&S. Have never found the right size to match ever since. Fortunately, I don’t think I’ve lost any teaspoons!

I know this is a light-hearted thread and we've all bought things we couldn't really afford or regretted later, but honestly, doesn't it just show how little we care for the planet? So much unnecessary consumption, so much waste... As for the inequalities in society, words fail me!

Why stay on a thread that upsets you?
There must be a thread on saving the planet you'd enjoy.

Same exact story here 😭 wish we’d just got the Labrador puppy we originally wanted and decided we couldn’t afford. We’d likely have a lovely chilled dog now we could take on holidays and walk anywhere we wanted, like our last dog, for the same overall cost, but instead we have a stressy nervous wreck instead (we love her, really!)

Did we ever get clarity on the bear a PP bought? What sort of bear? Is it an actual bear? Teddy bear? Is there a device called a bear? I'm left pictured an uneconomical Grizzly taking up space in a suburban living room.

If it is any consolation, I've had my dog since a pup and although no health issues she's not a chilled out take anywhere type either! I have to watch her around children, other dogs, people she isn't definitely going to like the look of.. 🤣 anxious rather than aggressive but definitely not easy. You never know what you're going to get!

I’ve never regretted buying my horse, my life is full and I’ve made so many friends through our horses. I work hard for this
i have also been involved in looking after abandoned horses in our local area, one herd was a shocking welfare case and the RSPCA was useless. Thankfully World Horse Welfare rescued them after years of neglect.
Just early this year in the freezing weather we found ponies including a 4 month old foal. For 2 weeks another livery and I trekked through the woods to get to the back field where they were carrying heavy hay nets and hard feed. Luckily the same charity rescued them, I sponsor them for £10/month

Please sell me a cordless hoover!

Yes I was one of them! But the virtue signalling has kind of ruined it for me - so why is it ok for you to say I’m spoiling the thread but not ok for me?

Your smug, self-satisfied sanctimony in telling someone on the internet off because you think you’re some kind of magic internet den mother has improved it for me again though, so I guess thanks for that

I’d pay twenty grand for cutlery that I could put in the dishwasher and not have to put in a velvet bag!

Thanks, it does help to hear that. I guess you never know how any dog will be. We were so lucky with the last one we weren’t prepared 😂 This one is very sweet with anyone she trusts. And not aggressive really, but very nervous. Every day is an adventure!

Wait, what? I missed about feeding capybaras. Where can one do that? I paid to feed a rhino and zebra and a cassowary (sp?). That was well worth it.

I agree with you, we’ve all been conditioned to think we “need” things / something / anything to feel better / be better / perform better / have more status. So we do it. It’s interesting to talk about and discuss people’s various choices, and this is a fair point to make. At some point we will all have to really reassess how we live, I’m sure.

Definitely not the horse or all the experiences! Great ways to spend money I think. Animals ❤️ and time.

It’s acquiring tons of STUFF that we will all one day have to have a good think about! We’re all guilty of it!

£150 for Dcat - he’s not 2 yet and has run up nearly £10k in vet bills - thankfully insured so only had to pay the excess
My weaknesses are jewellery and designer shoes - for either celebration or commiseration!

This can be the new Mumsnet scarf. We can all go and hang about at the seaside eating fish and chips with our silver chip fork.