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WhyDidIDiddle · 2025-03-30T18:44:17+00:00

In my defence, I have had a horrible time featuring death which has left me on a swing between dark depression and f*ck it do it now you might be dead tomorrow. I bought a pair of shoes that I really liked but were a ridiculous amount to spend on shoes of any kind. I feel a bit sick when I think of it. I will keep them as its not bankrupting but it is stupid out of the savings money. I do like them but it was really really really stupid. No one should spend that much on a pair of shoes. Hoping I am not alone and someone can make me feel a bit better with similar tale that didn't end horribly.

XWKD · 01/04/2025 12:13

Enjoy the shoes. There's no harm in a bit of retail therapy now and then. It doesn't look like you're throwing all your money away, and the shoes won't make any difference to your finances in the long run. It's just a blip.

KimberleyClark · 01/04/2025 12:13

Iwannakeepondancing · 01/04/2025 12:09

How? What the actual! Were you millionaires?!

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I’d rather spend that sort of money, if I had it spare, on a fabulous cruise in the South Pacific or Antarctica or something. Memories are worth more than stuff IMO.

Redpeach · 01/04/2025 12:22

KimberleyClark · 01/04/2025 12:13

I’d rather spend that sort of money, if I had it spare, on a fabulous cruise in the South Pacific or Antarctica or something. Memories are worth more than stuff IMO.

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Agree, but apparently its not in the spirit of this thread to dis the fancy forks

Katem90 · 01/04/2025 12:23

FagsMagsandBags · 01/04/2025 07:37

I think it's the context, @LillyPJ We know that there are a lot of people with cutlery that cost at least £20k, hundreds of thousands, millions, stuff like that but it's been in their families for generations or they are super rich and we expect that of them. On a nice simple thread here we expect that while some of us are better off and some of us are worse off, none of us are having the ambassador over for dinner and passing the port whichever way we're supposed to pass it. So, you hear £20k and your mind is blown, but your neighbour's car might be worth more than that just outside your window and we know that the bears worked to get that set bit by bit by bit because they fell in love with it, so they worked hard and they got it and continue to love it.

To some people it's all about the money and the consumerism and to some it's all about filling a small part of their big lives with something they love. My guess is that this thread as a whole, including the bears' cutlery story has brought more pleasure to more people than 20k could measure. Probably. It's less the things that people have bought and yet they're been fun, funny, lovely, silly, all of the above and more glimpses into people's ordinary but also special lives. Threads like this are at the beating heart of a place like this and I'm loving it.

A very poetic summary! I totally agree to be honest, it is interesting what’s important to different people, what brings them joy, what they regret spending money on, or wish they had perhaps. Total first world problems, obviously finances will hugely differ within the forum, but sounds like everyone here is getting by in our crazy, consumerist, modern world, one way or another.

I love the sound of spending on the experiences. Or hearing about value based on price per use or wear. I don’t like throwaway culture, so good to hear those stories.

Katem90 · 01/04/2025 12:24

Redpeach · 01/04/2025 12:22

Agree, but apparently its not in the spirit of this thread to dis the fancy forks

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DON’T DO IT, FRIEND ☠️

Katem90 · 01/04/2025 12:25

PalmTreeAngel · 01/04/2025 12:06

This.

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Shhh, don’t publicly agree with me, I’ve had the X carved out in my door 👀 ☠️

FagsMagsandBags · 01/04/2025 12:54

@Katem90 I'm glad my post landed at the right time for you. You're going to get more bricks thrown because people will see the grump and not carry on to all of us sorting it out. And then they'll figure it out and it'll be good again but it's handy for the Pollyanna types like me sort of la, la, la, lovely day occasionally because people will either think "how sweet" and move on or be so sickened by how fucking sugary I am that they run silently screaming from the thread. Jobs a good 'un.

I'm sorry about the fibromyalgia. I had a good friend with it and it's hateful on so many levels not least the lack of belief in its existence.

Me and morphine. I'm unwell in a not getting better way but in a very much coping well for now and long may that last way. I won't be spending again until later this week because I spent some money on cushions at the weekend and my bank are - thankfully strict with me. as I turn my bed into a Victorian sick bed of velvet cushions picked up here and there. I'm going to get a velvet throw I think. My bedroom is currently bloody wonderful, I feel like a rich bohemian lady, surrounded by flowers and beautiful things and so comfortable.

So a velvet throw and some silk nightwear. Maybe. I'm so tempted to buy a piece of silver cutlery. We should all do that, not in a taking the piss way, but in honour of how beautifully this thread has turned out. A spoon or knife or fork or tiny tea spoon to remember when we all cheered eachother up or laughed at our own idiocy, or something. I truly love this thread!

Off to look up gorgeous velvet bed stuff!

MuddlingThroughLife · 01/04/2025 13:01

When my 10 year old ds died, I booked a holiday to Tunisia for me, dh and our 2 dd's.

When my mum died I bought a 65 inch tv for my living room.

Last year I was diagnosed with MGUS. I booked an all inclusive 2 week Mediterranean cruise and have booked day trips for every day we stop at a port. It's in June and I can't wait but I've maxed out the credit card on it and will take ages to pay off.

No regrets. No-one knows what tomorrow will bring.

Flavourful · 01/04/2025 13:03

Listen! anyone that’s been in your shoes, no pun intended, I know I have, we get this Fock it attitude of “why can’t I?” It hit all sides of our life to going somewhere, to shopping, to holidays. I have bought and done things with an attitude different to how I was.
love the shoes, wear the shoes if only in the bedroom but enjoy them and the power it brought to you knowing you did Fock it and followed through on the why can’t I?

Tatemoderndrawyourown · 01/04/2025 13:04

rabbitwoman · 31/03/2025 11:30

Recently for my 50th birthday I went to visit a wonderful lady, a 'bra witch'.

She took one look at me, told me I was in the wrong sized bra and bought out all these wonderful, whispy, gauzey things that somehow held my 32Fs in a rock hard embrace. They were so beautiful they bought tears to my eyes.

I had a strict budget, but ended up buying three - and a jumper - for £600.

And no, I don't wear them, they are too beautiful. But I am going to get them out as soon as I get home, burn my sturdy M&s £30 old reliable so I have no choice.

Might take someone's eye out tomorrow, though.

Not in London by any chance? I’d like to see her too.

LillyPJ · 01/04/2025 13:36

HornungTheHelpful · 01/04/2025 07:57

No, we all think you're talking nonsense. Unless you actually have had £20k completely spare, and have in fact donated it, then you have no idea what you would do.

Given you have assumed that you would "already have" the things a PP mentioned, you presumably don't have them. So in fact, what you are saying is "If I were super-rich such that £20k made no difference to me, I would donate it", not that if you - real-world you - got £20k you would donate it. So it's utterly pointless and doesn't reflect well on you, which is quite clearly what you were aiming for, or alternatively, to make the cutlery-purchaser feel bad. Either way, not a good look.

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No - we don't 'all' think she's talking nonsense. Don't assume you speak for everyone.

eqpi4t2hbsnktd · 01/04/2025 13:37

chandelier... £10k. too big to get in the house.

Crazyladee · 01/04/2025 13:38

thebear1 · 30/03/2025 20:46

I bought a macbook years ago, on interest free credit. Hated it as always used Windows. Hardly used it and begrudge the monthly payments.

Me too!! I find it completely unusable! It was a spur of a moment purchase and is gathering dust in a cupboard.

Mrsredlipstick · 01/04/2025 13:57

Tatemoderndrawyourown · 01/04/2025 13:04

Not in London by any chance? I’d like to see her too.

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There's one in Hungerford. Supplier to HRH princesses apparently. Straight train from Paddington. Lovely hotels for lunch. Three swans or the Bear.

Katem90 · 01/04/2025 14:18

LillyPJ · 01/04/2025 13:36

No - we don't 'all' think she's talking nonsense. Don't assume you speak for everyone.

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It was a bit much that one, wasn’t it. I decided to breeze past it 👀 thanks for not picking up a (silver) pitchfork along with the mob… if you’ll pardon the pun 🤣

fromthevault · 01/04/2025 14:25

jackstini · 01/04/2025 09:51

I have a solution for the people with expensive perfume they will never use and can’t give away

Toilet air freshener
I know, I know - it seems extravagant, but 1 tiny squirt lasts ages and it’s better than it completely going to waste

I have done this with unwanted gifts and have been told my loo smells amazing 🤣

Looking forward to sloth pics and really hope OP gets the canteen!

Yes, I do the same. I have a perfume obsession that (I have realised from reading this thread!) dates from my mum's death. I wanted to buy a couple of her favourite perfumes to remember her by, and it has spiralled somewhat so that I now have over 250 all in! Some are cheapies but some were definitely splurges. Quite a lot of it has been given away or relegated to the bathroom...

HornungTheHelpful · 01/04/2025 15:14

LillyPJ · 01/04/2025 13:36

No - we don't 'all' think she's talking nonsense. Don't assume you speak for everyone.

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In the post to which I was replying (quoted in my original), @Katem90 said "... you all think I’m an arsehole for saying I’d rather help another person’s situation than spend tens of thousands on cutlery." The "all" referred back to that i.e. we - the people who @Katem90 had said thought she was an arsehole. I was saying no, we don't "all" think you are an arsehole, we think you're talking rubbish.

So, no I wasn't purporting to speak for you, or really for anyone else. I was using the language of @Katem90 - apologies that I didn't put it in quotes. But really, @Katem90 , your glee was misplaced as anyone with better comprehension skills than @LillyPJ would have seen that (as I suspect you did the first time you read it, but conveniently forgot it when you saw a way to stick the knife in - but no, you're the kind of person to give £20k away so that can't possibly have been your motivation can it?)

Crazyladee · 01/04/2025 15:24

Home electrical gadgets are a weakness. To the point I've had to delete the QVC app from my phone. My DH gleefully opens the garage to show friends/family my impulse purchases that are gathering dust. In fact if anyone in the family decides to buy a new electrical item for the home, they check with me first if I have an unwanted one.
A Drysoon heated airer and all the (expensive accessories)
Two barely used cordless shark hoovers (I bought a robot one which I hate and I'm now eyeing up it's replacement)
A wildly expensive kitchen aid food mixer that a professional cake maker would use (I don't do any baking at all)
Soup maker
Bread maker
Citrus fruit juicer
Huge Layzee Spa and all the accessories. A late night impulse buy during lockdown. It's twice the size of the patio as it seats 10-12 people.
Mops - Shark Steam click and flip. Went back to good old mop and bucket. (The latest Vileda spin mop I had to have of course)
The cordless spinny airmop thing. That, I love but its more of a polisher.
After ditching the Sharks, went back to good old Henry Hoover. Realised it was a back breaker for my bad back so that's relegated to the garage.
Replaced by a Henry Quick. Which was returned.
I recognise I do have an ongoing problem with home gadgets. Now that there is Klarna, its even more lethal.

Mrsredlipstick · 01/04/2025 16:11

@Crazyladee wow.
Put it all on ebay.

My family do the same with me, 'I wonder if lipstick has...'.
I have a room of curtains and bedlinen.

Katem90 · 01/04/2025 16:25

HornungTheHelpful · 01/04/2025 15:14

In the post to which I was replying (quoted in my original), @Katem90 said "... you all think I’m an arsehole for saying I’d rather help another person’s situation than spend tens of thousands on cutlery." The "all" referred back to that i.e. we - the people who @Katem90 had said thought she was an arsehole. I was saying no, we don't "all" think you are an arsehole, we think you're talking rubbish.

So, no I wasn't purporting to speak for you, or really for anyone else. I was using the language of @Katem90 - apologies that I didn't put it in quotes. But really, @Katem90 , your glee was misplaced as anyone with better comprehension skills than @LillyPJ would have seen that (as I suspect you did the first time you read it, but conveniently forgot it when you saw a way to stick the knife in - but no, you're the kind of person to give £20k away so that can't possibly have been your motivation can it?)

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Are you okay?

kweenkweenie · 01/04/2025 16:29

Crazyladee · 01/04/2025 15:24

Home electrical gadgets are a weakness. To the point I've had to delete the QVC app from my phone. My DH gleefully opens the garage to show friends/family my impulse purchases that are gathering dust. In fact if anyone in the family decides to buy a new electrical item for the home, they check with me first if I have an unwanted one.
A Drysoon heated airer and all the (expensive accessories)
Two barely used cordless shark hoovers (I bought a robot one which I hate and I'm now eyeing up it's replacement)
A wildly expensive kitchen aid food mixer that a professional cake maker would use (I don't do any baking at all)
Soup maker
Bread maker
Citrus fruit juicer
Huge Layzee Spa and all the accessories. A late night impulse buy during lockdown. It's twice the size of the patio as it seats 10-12 people.
Mops - Shark Steam click and flip. Went back to good old mop and bucket. (The latest Vileda spin mop I had to have of course)
The cordless spinny airmop thing. That, I love but its more of a polisher.
After ditching the Sharks, went back to good old Henry Hoover. Realised it was a back breaker for my bad back so that's relegated to the garage.
Replaced by a Henry Quick. Which was returned.
I recognise I do have an ongoing problem with home gadgets. Now that there is Klarna, its even more lethal.

Dear lord. 😂 Are you proud or embarrassed when your DH shows people your gadget garage?

Bryonyberries · 01/04/2025 16:36

Spent £800 on my puppy which I couldn’t really afford but I had my heart set on getting him. Six years on and I don’t regret it 😍.

talk to me if you stupidly bought something £££ you couldnt really afford

krustykittens · 01/04/2025 16:36

@Crazyladee If it makes you feel any better, one of my parent's friends could never pass up a bargain. So if Boots where doing three for two on Mac lipstick, she would buy three lipsticks and give them all away because she has a lipstick that she loves and wouldn't wear them. Half price coffe maker when she doesn't drink coffee? Straight into her basket. Then she persuaded a friend who had a small business to get her signed up for a membership card at a discount warehouse and it just snowballed. Her house was stuffed to the brim with whatever was on sale that week but because it was aimed at the trade, you couldn't buy one microwave at a discount price, you had to buy three at a minimum. She has wasted a horrifying amount of money over the last 30 years (far more than a cutlery set from Asprey's) and her husband eventually left her. Internet shopping has only made her worse. It's a compulsion, she literally cannot walk past a 'deal'.

Katem90 · 01/04/2025 16:37

FagsMagsandBags · 01/04/2025 12:54

@Katem90 I'm glad my post landed at the right time for you. You're going to get more bricks thrown because people will see the grump and not carry on to all of us sorting it out. And then they'll figure it out and it'll be good again but it's handy for the Pollyanna types like me sort of la, la, la, lovely day occasionally because people will either think "how sweet" and move on or be so sickened by how fucking sugary I am that they run silently screaming from the thread. Jobs a good 'un.

I'm sorry about the fibromyalgia. I had a good friend with it and it's hateful on so many levels not least the lack of belief in its existence.

Me and morphine. I'm unwell in a not getting better way but in a very much coping well for now and long may that last way. I won't be spending again until later this week because I spent some money on cushions at the weekend and my bank are - thankfully strict with me. as I turn my bed into a Victorian sick bed of velvet cushions picked up here and there. I'm going to get a velvet throw I think. My bedroom is currently bloody wonderful, I feel like a rich bohemian lady, surrounded by flowers and beautiful things and so comfortable.

So a velvet throw and some silk nightwear. Maybe. I'm so tempted to buy a piece of silver cutlery. We should all do that, not in a taking the piss way, but in honour of how beautifully this thread has turned out. A spoon or knife or fork or tiny tea spoon to remember when we all cheered eachother up or laughed at our own idiocy, or something. I truly love this thread!

Off to look up gorgeous velvet bed stuff!

Well I’m so, so sorry to read that. Your outlook is remarkable. Long may it continue, and you enjoy the damn silk and velvet! This is truly the time to buy for joy.

My mum was unwell in a not-getting-better way, but she coped unbelievably well and was such a sheer joy to look after. She was so beautiful in her vulnerability. You sound similar. I wish you nothing but good things and nice times. 🤗

Katem90 · 01/04/2025 16:47

FagsMagsandBags · 01/04/2025 12:54

@Katem90 I'm glad my post landed at the right time for you. You're going to get more bricks thrown because people will see the grump and not carry on to all of us sorting it out. And then they'll figure it out and it'll be good again but it's handy for the Pollyanna types like me sort of la, la, la, lovely day occasionally because people will either think "how sweet" and move on or be so sickened by how fucking sugary I am that they run silently screaming from the thread. Jobs a good 'un.

I'm sorry about the fibromyalgia. I had a good friend with it and it's hateful on so many levels not least the lack of belief in its existence.

Me and morphine. I'm unwell in a not getting better way but in a very much coping well for now and long may that last way. I won't be spending again until later this week because I spent some money on cushions at the weekend and my bank are - thankfully strict with me. as I turn my bed into a Victorian sick bed of velvet cushions picked up here and there. I'm going to get a velvet throw I think. My bedroom is currently bloody wonderful, I feel like a rich bohemian lady, surrounded by flowers and beautiful things and so comfortable.

So a velvet throw and some silk nightwear. Maybe. I'm so tempted to buy a piece of silver cutlery. We should all do that, not in a taking the piss way, but in honour of how beautifully this thread has turned out. A spoon or knife or fork or tiny tea spoon to remember when we all cheered eachother up or laughed at our own idiocy, or something. I truly love this thread!

Off to look up gorgeous velvet bed stuff!

https://www.hersey.co.uk/products/solid-silver-chip-fork?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=22317196987&utm_content=737083154626&utm_term=&gad_source=1&gbraid=0AAAAAD_JMKri_xdk1k6W6aNKtRovLaeSM&gclid=Cj0KCQjwna6_BhCbARIsALId2Z1Pg23u5dvzt1i6dhhmuDjI2H_kTRNPFDd_i_zlAi3nx-oE8LJvW4MaAk3KEALw_wcB

this ? 😆

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