talk to me if you stupidly bought something £££ you couldnt really afford

[WhyDidIDiddle]

In my defence, I have had a horrible time featuring death which has left me on a swing between dark depression and f*ck it do it now you might be dead tomorrow.

I bought a pair of shoes that I really liked but were a ridiculous amount to spend on shoes of any kind. I feel a bit sick when I think of it. I will keep them as its not bankrupting but it is stupid out of the savings money. I do like them but it was really really really stupid. No one should spend that much on a pair of shoes.

Hoping I am not alone and someone can make me feel a bit better with similar tale that didn't end horribly.

Picture posted up thread at 22.44. I bought them at the Kensington Dolls House Exhibition in London that happens twice a year. Next one is in May. Queen Mary's is amazing.

@edwinbear - I never thought I'd be invested in a story about cutlery but here we are. All the best to you and your husband ❤️

These responses have convinced me to book that Barbados trip and get myself something nice for my birthday next month.

I think I'll always mentally refer back to this thread when I'm tempted with a 'treat yoself' moment. It'll help with the justification 😅 Thanks @WhyDidIDiddle and wear your shoes in good health.

Where is it listed and what colour is it?

I'm in the market!!

@WhyDidIDiddle this is a lovely thread and your shoes are beautiful - enjoy them!

@edwinbear that's my favourite story I've read in ages 💙

I accidentally bought a carousel horse, does that count? He lives in my (tiny) studio entrance and he makes me smile every single day so he was absolutely worth it, despite the fact that when I bid for him I didn't have any actual money 🤣

Alternatively put it on gumtree or the like. You will get more back than you paid. If you want.

I have a new knitting machine and am madly into yarn!

On a smaller scale than @Compash and @istabraq ‘s stories, I went to buy one cat (pedigree) and ended up with two, as I couldn’t leave one behind. In my defence, they were “second hand” (retired breeding queens) therefore much more of a bargain than buying “new” cats!

Of course, anyone who has a cat knows that you don’t buy cats, you don’t own them, you just pay a large sum of money to sign up to become their slave!

This thread has made me feel infinitely better about just dropping 200 on bits of plants for the garden that may well be dead in a months time. Each year I see a glimpse of sun and hot foot it to the garden centre. Then we get either too much rain or frost/snow and they’ve gone kaput. I’ll never learn my lesson but there’s a joy to looking at the plants, buying them, then sitting with a cuppa in the garden changing the pots around wondering where to plant them. It makes me tingle with excitement.

id love to see the cutlery though - and the Bear!

When I had a job I hated in a dysfunctional workplace, I used to buy clothes in the lunch hour. Not because I needed or even particularly wanted them, but just for the brief pleasure of buying them. Almost all went to charity shops in mint condition!

So I can’t blame anyone for trying to buy a bit of comfort when they’re feeling down. Just don’t get into debt, as that will make your life much worse.

@CaffeineNChaos

Can we see the necklace?

My daughter got her prom dress from Vinted for £8. There are literally hundreds of dresses on there, mainly worn just once and in mint condition.

Can you tell me about your wine glasses @edwinbear ?

My last cat was an acquaintance's unwanted pet so we took him in. The most loving little cat you could wish for.
He was a martyr to bladder stones and a few other more minor things as he got older.
Over the last few years of his life he needed more treatments and several emergency surgeries etc so I got a credit card with the longest 0% interest rate I could and all his treatments went on that. It was used purely for him. People looked at me incredulously when I told them I had a credit card just for my cat. He lived to 20 and cost thousands.
I don't regret a penny of it but I do gulp a bit when I think back to "George's credit card" bill!

Had to just say those shoes are fabulous!!!

Oh, that's a lovely story💕

I'm glad 20 years old it's still making both of you very happy🤗

Heavy weather looked to see what it would be worth now if you sold it?

My parents collected (well my dad by default!!🤣) a dining service, it came with 101 serving dishes and manner of things it may present giving very easy for a while!! we also had a cutlery set in a canteen 🤣🤣 I think it was a wedding present, and it wouldn't have been anywhere near as expensive as yours, but it would come out on holiday days and holidays have to be hand washed and buffed dry but I used to absolutely love putting it away in in the canteen. Happy days.😊

@80smonster wine glasses are from IKEA!

And how about this? From John Lewis too

£1200 on a mechanical watch after an emotional event. It's beautiful but at the time I was debating between that one and another one I liked more, which was about £1400. I regret not having chosen my favourite one! Now that I'm not in the mood, I think I'll never get another one. Wearing it and seeing it have never failed to give me pleasure, though, so it's definitely worth it, even under valued.

Sorry fpr your loss OP, wear and enjoy your shoes.

@Floatlikeafeather2 , why pick at people's posts on a light hearted thread?
Not all details will be 100% for outing reasons.

Love the purchase @edwinbear , story is great too but would still be great as a random purchase.

We bought an expensive cutlery set and never thought how much joy it would bring.

Don't understand people being surprised by other people's choices.

I spent something like ten grand on a wonderful dolls house.
I took the money out of my doing the house up fund, and I shouldn't have, it means I might not be able to complete the downstairs washroom.. but it sparks so much joy.

Trying to find the balance between need and want, really. Once in a while, something really self indulgent does you good.

@Summer2025 I’m intrigued, how did you make money on your wedding?

In my culture, relatives give cash gifts. I had my wedding years after my legal ceremony (as eloped and then was saving to buy a flat and then pandemic happened) so it was only 48 relatives and 2 friends. All my relatives gave generous cash gifts that more than covered the cost of the wedding.

I don't think many weddings in my home country make money whatever people say as people would invite 200 to 300 people and weddings always at 5 star hotels (mine was at marriott albeit in a small function room so was cheaper) and that involves inviting colleagues and friends who probably get invited to a wedding every month. So they probably wouldn't give so much. My relatives are mostly older cousins who have benefitted from my parents' generosity plus my parents also gave a generous gift.

How is spending 20k on cutlery “embracing life” 🤣 please - it’s called having more money than sense. Imagine the things that money could’ve paid for. If you don’t need it, someone else really fucking does.

ok - I read the update on the cutlery and I see it wasn’t a case of this… they actually saved for it. This is wild to me, but people are different and I respect that. Still, it seems insane. But, all the best…

I went to a book fair 25 years ago ( I was pregnant with my DS) that had a first edition of a rare book by an author I love. Never seen it before or since. It was £600 and I didn’t buy it because DH would’ve divorced me I was weeks away from having DS, it was more than our mortgage payment and anyway, £600 on a book ffs!

Wish I’d bought it, DH would probably have got over it. Eventually.