talk to me if you stupidly bought something £££ you couldnt really afford

[WhyDidIDiddle]

In my defence, I have had a horrible time featuring death which has left me on a swing between dark depression and f*ck it do it now you might be dead tomorrow.

I bought a pair of shoes that I really liked but were a ridiculous amount to spend on shoes of any kind. I feel a bit sick when I think of it. I will keep them as its not bankrupting but it is stupid out of the savings money. I do like them but it was really really really stupid. No one should spend that much on a pair of shoes.

Hoping I am not alone and someone can make me feel a bit better with similar tale that didn't end horribly.

20k on cutlery?! Was it pure gold?!

If it's still giving you use and pleasure, I'm not one to judge.

Speaking of Judge, I spent a lot on a set of Judge saucepans years ago and that was definitely money well spent. So yes, absolutely it is worth buying a decent item for a lot sometimes.

@Compashyessss. -I grew up reading g them, as did many of my similarly aged horse friends. We can blame Jill. She started it and embedded it as a totally normal thing to do.

One of my best friends started off with one. At one point she had seven. Because she needed a companion for it, then one went lame so she got another, then that turned out to be in foal, then…. She’s only got three now and is very proud of herself.

No, we never have. The entire story (given it’s taken up much of OP’s thread, and I’m sorry for that).

Asprey were my client, I work in banking and was involved in the financing of their fancy new, showcase, Garrard Street store. DH (although he was my fiancé at the time) and I were invited to the big, red carpet, paparazzi filled opening. As we mingled and wandered about, marvelling at the REALLY expensive stuff, there was a premier league footballer looking at this showcase dining room table with this stunning cutlery on it.

The footballer and his wife were gushing over it and put an order in for the whole lot, right there. I said to DH how lovely it was and how amazing to be able to just spend that amount of money on knives and forks and not think about it. On our wedding day, he gave me a present of a single, £120 teaspoon from the set. And said to me, I can see how much you loved it, I’m sorry I can’t buy you the full set outright but I’d like you to think of this as a commitment to us getting the full set. It took us five years. Including the discount from my client. But that’s we did.

@edwinbear

The entire story (given it’s taken up much of OP’s thread, and I’m sorry for that).

Please don't be sorry. Your story has been the acorn from which this thread grew! It's made me feel so much better.

Asprey were my client, I work in banking and was involved in the financing of their fancy new, showcase, Garrard Street store. DH (although he was my fiancé at the time) and I were invited to the big, red carpet, paparazzi filled opening. As we mingled and wandered about, marvelling at the REALLY expensive stuff, there was a premier league footballer looking at this showcase dining room table with this stunning cutlery on it.
The footballer and his wife were gushing over it and put an order in for the whole lot, right there. I said to DH how lovely it was and how amazing to be able to just spend that amount of money on knives and forks and not think about it. On our wedding day, he gave me a present of a single, £120 teaspoon from the set. And said to me, I can see how much you loved it, I’m sorry I can’t buy you the full set outright but I’d like you to think of this as a commitment to us getting the full set. It took us five years. Including the discount from my client. But that’s we did.

and that is an even more lovely story. It's like something out of a film!

I bought one for our first house, 18 years ago and it’s still going strong! I’ve replaced a couple do the elements, but that’s it. Still looks stylish now as it did then.

Don't be sorry @edwinbear I love that you bought the cutlery and have had 20 years of joy from it. I'm certain that in the last 20 years I've spent 20 grand on shit I no longer own and can't even remember.

@edwinbear - also now I know the whole story, I totally double down on you getting the canteen. It's the essential end to the tale.

Poor dd 😢 . Sounds like a lot of pressure

We have kids now!! All our cash goes on them!! But please! Love your shoes and wear them with pride!

@WhyDidIDiddle your shoes are gorgeous - you should wear them at every opportunity.

My grandma, who lived to the age of 100, was a firm believer in wearing her favourite perfume and jewellery every day and I’m happy to continue her tradition.

@edwinbear thank you for the whole story about your cutlery set - so romantic! 💕

I'm glad the thread has made you feel better. You said you've been through some death stuff and frankly it's no wonder you're all over the place and so why not? You love the shoes? Keep on loving them. Worried about "ruining" them. I was showing off a pair of, I think they're called irregular choice shoes which are very much at the cheap end of a little bit expensive. I rarely wear them out because I don't do heels a lot even though the pairs I have are far more comfortable than one might imagine. Anyway, I sometimes just dress up, put the shoes on and do some washing up before dressing down again. Because life is short and you don't know what's around the corner. Hopefully, it's a long and happy life with not a worry to he had, gently going to sleep one night and not waking up but being found with a faint smile on your face and long gone the next morning.

I'm dealing with a death thing and just buying pretty things that will get very little use because I don't need them but they make me happy. I wish I could get drunk and not once but twice buy horses I can't afford, cutlery that I could take onto Antiques Roadshow, shoes with a red sole, but reading about others doing it while I buy more Chanel no.5 and the most perfect pair of ridiculously cheap but ultimately just the ticket fabric scarlet ballet pumps* makes me feel happy for you and all of us too.

*I said to a friend, when I sent a photo that they look like I'm either off to a Conclave to elect a new pope in my cardinal's slippers or I'm about to attend some zombie fucked up ball which is a mixture of Pride and Prejudice meets The Handmaid's Tale. That's the red. Perfection, a little like old Christian's red not in shade but in just what you wanted for you and me for me.

I bought 3 designer jackets in Turkey paid for them on a credit card (several £000's) but I'm self employed and had no work contract in place so knew I would struggle to pay fir them. My DS thought he could resell them and make money.

Turned out they were fakes, so bank did a claw back though I had to cover the cost until the money was returned. Big shout out to Fendi and Dior at Bicester village though, they really helped me with the evidence to show they were fakes.

I got some tax back from HMRC in Jan so breathed a sigh of relief until the money came back properly.

Def won't be doing that again!

£1500 for a Sphynx cat 🙈

My board game collection is worth well over a grand, but that's all been bought over several years.

I'm pretty sure there isn't an Asprey's in Garrard Street. Am I wrong?

Oh my days, @edwinbear that's one of the most romantic things I've read and I love you and Mr Bear. The canteen must follow, it just must!

Yes the horse was called Pedro. She was given the money for a new show jumper, but got Pedro and another horse for a riding school she was running with people she met near her cousin’s house when she had to stay there over the summer. They were trying to raise money to pay for the keep of their pony, Ballerina.

This crap in my brain is why I can never remember anything important!

My daughter is leaving home in five days and I am having a bit of a mid life crisis. I am a doll collector and an amateur artist and I just spent £1000 on a very beautiful ball jointed doll I commissioned directly from the artist. My DH, who rarely spends on himself, has just had a melt down this weekend over her but I don't give a shit. I have wanted this doll for years and could never afford her. I will spend hours photographing and painting her and seeing as I have arthritis in my hands, I really do not know how long I have to enjoy my hobby, so fuck it. Life is terribly short. It seems like yesterday my daugther was holding my healthy hands, while taking her first steps. I also have two Highland ponies!

Enjoy your shoes, OP. When people make an impluse purchase like this in the aftermath of a traumatic event, I think it is a way of saying to yourself, "Life is sweet." So think of that every time you look at them.

@edwinbear that is a very, very sweet story!

I'm sorry for your loss, but what a glorious purchase! I had one when I was younger and it was pure magic turning pebbles into shiny gems. I got my mum one for her birthday a few years ago and we got a lot of joy out of it. Currently neither of us has anywhere to run it 24/7 but I'm working on a solution in my garage! I hope you get lots of magical results from yours.

OP, I smiled when I saw your shoes, and that got to be a good sign.
This has been of the best threads I have read in ages, and I would like to be the first to nominate it for Classics please, Mumsnet 😊

I love the shoes @WhyDidIDiddle

I hope you get plenty of wear out of them.

Sending a hug ref your loss xxx

This thread has made me feel better!!

We spend too much on holidays and things to do - theatre/concerts etc. We don’t spend anything on clothes, brands, expensive cars etc.

We have two holidays this year, that we would normally be able to afford, but they’re badly timed after a particularly hard year last year, so it’s going to be really tight. This afternoon I thought fuck it and got a 0% card to take the pressure off.

Mixture of regret and fuck it, you only live once. Im really anal about money so I have no concerns about paying it off thankfully.

I also should never have added up the cost of our wedding and honeymoon. 0 regrets, we would actually add/change two things which would have put the cost up if we could do it again! But Jesus Christ. I never thought that would be an amount I ever had, let alone spent!

OP - wear the shoes!

@edwinbear that is the loveliest story.

Spent over £600 on a pebbled leather convertible backpack. It had a lifetime warranty so when the strap became defective, they sent me a new bag. I don't really use it anymore as it's too heavy even if it fits a laptop and lots of other things. Most expensive purchase of my life other than my flat. I would use it but not very often so in a sense not a great purchase as I justified it at that time that I would use it daily. I learnt I am not a fancy bag person!

Made money from my wedding so don't really count it.

Also bought a hermes blush for over £60 but it's my holy grail. Also they sell refills for cheaper. Guerlain foundation for £80 but it's amazing. Also suqqu foundation for a sickening amount of money but it's lovely. I also have lush cardamon coffee perfume dh bought for me for £150 ( huge bottle). Insane price on par with chanel or hermes. Cosmetics are my weakness, I don't really care for expensive clothes or bags or fancy hotels but I do buy some of my makeup from Chanel/Hermes/Laura Mercier/Charlotte Tilbury.

Where are they from and can you please post a picture? I love dolls houses!! Hoping to see Queen Mary's one day

They are exquisite

Nevertheless...was £20,000 a typo and you meant £2,000?