Husband getting married

[Grassisalotgreener]

Separated 13 years, no contact since children came of age, separated as a result of dv. I was informed today that he is getting Married next week .
Should i inform someone in authority?
Aibu if i report him, i was delighted when he moved on so not upset he is getting married,but im astounded because we are not divorced!

Try reading the thread, you might get it.

see my next post

Turn up at the church and wait for the question 'if anyone has any reason why....'

Because she was abused by him 🙄
Read the thread, properly

The police. Bigamy is a criminal offence.

Yep I'm sure the previously DOMESTIC VIOLENT ex would take that quite well actually.

What you don’t understand is domestic abuse, safety and risk.

I did, but I hadn't taken in that the OP's husband is violent. That being the case, I think that she's right to protect herself by saying nothing. It might well come out at the wedding ceremony anyway, given that he's been daft enough to invite his kids.

Probably the registar office where he lives as that's where The Bans will be for a few weeks running up to the wedding

What is The Bans?

Do what you need to keep yourself safe, and leave it at that. Though I was horrified when I googled cost of divorce in Ireland. First link to a family law firm was suggesting between €10,000 and €20,000 depending on the complexity of the case. I'm astonished that anyone can afford that.

What about when the 'any just cause or impediment' bit comes up, won't the kids mention he is still legally married to you?

That might not come up in the service. I actually can't remember whether it was included in my Church of Scotland service.

Can you not just give him a gentle reminder that you are not yet divorced?? Lol. He's a man. It may not have occurred to him 😂 I think reporting him prior to that gentle prod may be a tad unreasonable. Give him a heads up and if he chooses to ignore....well that's a different story!

Definitely doesn't get said in Ireland.

@Grassisalotgreener hope you're OK!

A gentle prod to an abusive man? Dear Lord

Tell him he needs to cough up for a divorce.

Can you not contact him and see if he has divorced you because of the length of time you have been apart. I think after a certain period you can get a no contest divorce without the other parties consent. For example if he didn’t know where you lived etc.

Listen love I did not see the abuse part!!!! Have a day off Rodney. I'd keep the vicar but he'd be doing a different service for a man like that! Didn't see the full story....my bad!!!

Fake news....are you AI??? You're joking with us..🤔

Phone the police & tell them he’s about to commit bigamy as he leaves the ceremony they can arrest him do you have a friend he doesn’t know who can be nearby to sit in a car & record it all fir you? I’d be piddling myself laughing it’d teach the old Sid a few life lessons😂😂😂😂

Personally I wouldn’t worry about it. He has to go and do the legal bit of marriage, so produce a decree absolute and his identification. He also has to answer questions about his life, and his family and “if you have been married before”.

They can do all the legal checks and will know he’s still married.

why report him?! Unless he’s ACTUALLY managed to get married (which is really really hard to do) and commit an offence, he’s not doing anything wrong…. So why are you getting involved?

Seriously 🤣 how pathetic is that? Tell me you haven’t moved on, without telling me!

As you mentioned you have a separation agreement in place, the finance has already been sorted out, he cannot claim against your house or your saving. A lot of people in Ireland only have separation agreement and no divorce especially when you could not divorce until separated 5 years so most people don't bother to divorce officially since the finance are sorted only the one that wants to get married will divorce.

I don't know where you are in the world, but in England being married to more than one person constitutes the offence of bigamy.