Husband getting married

[Grassisalotgreener]

Separated 13 years, no contact since children came of age, separated as a result of dv. I was informed today that he is getting Married next week .
Should i inform someone in authority?
Aibu if i report him, i was delighted when he moved on so not upset he is getting married,but im astounded because we are not divorced!

Agreed!

I am with the 5% of voting posters who think you would be unreasonable to report him.

You've done so well to extricate yourself from a horrible situation and rebuilding a shattered life for you and your children.

I see you've decided not to report - good self preservation.

wishing you the best

Edited: to say I think I've quoted the wrong post. I wouldn't even report to the gardai

OP, this is taken very seriously, I know someone who got married between the decree nisi and the decree absolute and his ex-wife reported him and he ended up with a short prison sentence.

I get that understanding from having gone through the marriage process myself, more than once @MikeRafone . I wasn't pretending to know for sure, that's why I said that was my 'understanding'.

But if you don’t have €4300 that is still a lot of money.

Exactly - I don't have £430 (or Euros for that matter) spare at the moment let alone 10 x that. Some people, probably the OP included, live pay day to pay day. And don't suggest getting a loan either, as she probably couldn't afford to pay that off either even if it IS possible to get a loan in Ireland of all places for a divorce!

He's about to commit bigamy
Tell the police

Yeah, I actually check specifically for the Republic of Ireland. Sometimes things come up and I think it would be interested to know the answer.

It's Ireland. Not the UK. Repeatedly said throughout the thread.

I wish I didn't post so soon. In the Republic of Ireland you pay for everything. You sound settled op I wouldn't rock the boat. He will get caught eventually. You don't want him making a claim for your house or savings if you have any. This is really you get out clause him marrying illegally.

Tell the woman he’s marrying. Today.

I had no kids with my ex but it cost me not only the divorce which was a LOT more than your sister paid (did she get legal aid?) and then I had to buy him out of the house and pay off his loans amounting to a LOT of money.

Stay safe OP. I hope you finally get some peace in all this.

RTFT.

WTAF?

why are you recommending she potentially endanger herself?

This absolute refusal of people (in general, not just this specific thread) of people to take 30 seconds to read at least the OPs posts is crazy. So, so annoying. I want to report every single instance of this but I’m not sure the Mumsnet team would back me up on that.

Even down to the COUNTRY the op is in. Very frustrating.

You must report it. Otherwise his new wife will have no legal protection or rights should the marriage thrive, or fail. Di it for her. Go to your local registry office and report it there.

Are you sure he's not put in for divorce under the old system of 5 years separation and not provided any contact information. He would have had to pay money to "try and find you" and prove to court so very very very unlikely especially as you have children together that this could gone through but someone motivated enough and a court oversight it could theoretically happen. Very unlikely though.

Weddings need to give notice and do checks, she he is absolutely in the wrong and very dodgy ground.

The good news from his shenanigans if he remarries he loses any financial claim on you, but your financial claim still remains so he's an absolute fool to do this as you need to be divorced and you need to be financially legally separated.

I'm not sure why the kids didn't say, how, as you're still married to mum ...I would have 🙈

I'd absolutely report...his poor fiancee

Well i left my ex hubby 4 years later he filed for divorce. ,it cost not nothing so i signed the papers which allowed him to marry , BUT IF YOUR YOU WANT TO BE DIVOCED MAKE IT LEGAL, I WOULD CONTACT THE AUTHORIES , IF NOT I WOULD'NT GET INVOVED. HE,S FOOLISH IF HE THINKS THE LAW WON'T CATCH UP WITH HIM ,SUPPOSE 1 DIES COULD CAUSE LOADS OF PROBLEMS. HE COULD FIND HIMSELF JAILED.

Sorry but nonsence its legal weather your married in a church or register office or in a field or on a beach if the person marring you is ordaned

can the kids not remind dad he us still married and ask if this is a legal ceremony before you make a tit of yourself reporting him

I can’t understand why everyone isn’t telling @Grassisalotgreenerto let the woman he is marrying know.

Because her ex might come after her.

Because some of us have actually read her posts
and thus understand that getting involved
would be A BAD THING