Mini eggs for Mother's Day.

[ChicMiss]

I get a bag from my child. Who then asks to share them. No. Absolutely no. AIBU for a bit more thought? I don't like that I'm expected to share, they've gone off in a huff and my OH is also in a huff.

You mean like your example to pp of telling them not to ask but then giving them one after asking anyway?

That's exactly just giving them what they want.

Yes that's right. Most people's parenting skills would extend to telling them it's rude to ask, but offering shortly after that. Clearly yours don't extend to talking to your kids. It's just like a dog, give them a treat when they fetch.

I assume that's the way you were brought up. Do you think it was successful?

Of course I talk to my children but no, it doesn't involve telling them not to do something and then rewarding them shortly afterwards for doing the very thing they know that they shouldn't have done in the first place.

See, my reaction would have been, "Mini Eggs! My favorite! Do you want one?" and then would have palmed them off to my kids so I didn't have to eat them. I love mini eggs but my teeth hate them.

It's just chocolate

Don't want to derail completely but you can get them year round in the normal chocolate bit. And they have multi packs of small bags of teeny ones.

Just in case you missed the "normal" ones in the other aisle.

So much better, mini eggs are awful but the M&S ones are lovely.

See I'd probably say "you don't give someone a gift then immediately ask if you can eat it, I'm going to open them later'. Mainly because my child can't wait to give gifts and so they're in my face at 6am (or 7am because of the clocks this year) shouting HAPPY MOTHERS DAY so I'll wake up and do presents.

Then I probably would share a bag of mini eggs later on. With anyone in the house when they were opened. Because they're "mine" but we share chocolate. As it was I got a plant, which by it's very nature is a present for the whole family because we all enjoy the garden.

However, for something that's just "mine", DH bought me chocolate I love but no one else in the house likes (think fruit and nut, but not cadburys cos 🤢). So no one would ask me to share it and I get my treat. But he does that because both of us will always share with DD. I buy him things for his occasions that the rest of us aren't interested in.

But for this particular case, it's a bag of mini eggs and OP is being a little dramatic in my opinion. Say you'll open them later and hide them if you don't wanna share, or share them later on with a chat about how it's ok to share a gift if the receiver offers but you shouldn't ask.

With a bag of mini eggs, it is possible to do that without turning your child into a rapist. Believe me. I accept that you can't think of a way to manage it, fine. I get that in your family the only possible way to act with a six year old is "you have asked for this mini egg, therefore, to avoid you growing up to be Hitler, you must never, ever have it." and that your child would sit quietly for the rest of the day, thinking about what they had done, while all the adults nodded in agreement with your great wisdom. But please accept most people could manage it differently.

This is a great ethos. Love it.

@Bitofanchange

“It’s a silly made up day.“

…in your opinion . That’s your opinion, not a fact .

lots of think a day dedicated to mothers and all they do is a good thing. And yes it should be a day when what the mother wants and likes and prefers takes precedence.

@FloydWasACat

i know right? Her husband was really slack he should have made sure she got something more.

I got some chocolate and hid them until after bedtime when I ate them. Apparently that makes me the devil to some people.

Share or don't share, it's entirely up to you. Our DD understands the concept of "mine" or it belonging to someone else (I've heard her shout "that's MUMMY'S" when DH has had a swig of the drink I left in the living room, for example) and she's only three.

I just couldn't get this worked up over a bag of mini eggs and a six year old being excited by the thought of eating them.

So is it that you want to eat the chocolate, or that you want to teach a child a lesson about not asking? Surely by hiding them you lost the opportunity to teach that valuable lesson you keep banging on about. Make your mind up.

Like several pp's have said, I don't think it's just about the mini eggs. I think it's about wanting something to yourself that you haven't had to go out and buy. It's about what the mini eggs represent.

I agree that they understand the concept from a pretty young age.

Both. I've said a few times that I would eat my chocolates after bedtime, comments you responded to every single time.

If I manage to distract and hide them? Great. If not, they are told no and that it is rude to ask for someone else's gift.

I obv get that it’s important and good to share. I also get the enjoyment of watching something that makes your kids happy, yes. But receiving half the pleasure from half or more of a gift to you being taken by the giver to enjoy - I get the theory of living for your kids - but I don’t quite get that. I must be a psychopath or something 😳👀😂

Over 500 replies about Mini Eggs?

What if they don't ask? Do you then offer, to show them how they have benefitted by not asking? By your theory, surely if you don't reward good behaviour with a treat, they won't learn?

Then it's a DH problem, not a 6 year old child problem. If she feels that underappreciated that she is upset her child asked for a mini egg, she needs to look at what's really wrong.

I'd be more likely to offer if they don't ask.

But your main idea would be to distract everyone while you secreted them and eat them later, hiding in a cupboard in the dark, so nobody could see and ask you for one.

Why "wanting something to yourself you haven't had to go out and buy"? What do you think most people have, servants? You talk as though everyone who isn't a mother has someone going out and buying everything for them. Small children do, because they don't have money. Most people however, mothers or not mothers, go out and buy things they want. Do you constantly feel about everything "Oh, this is ok, but I wish someone had gone out to buy it for me"?

Because some mothers can feel taken for granted and spend 99% of the time putting themselves last.

I'm talking about mothers because it was mothers day...obviously.

Yeah, none of that is any sort of an answer to the questions I asked.