Mini eggs for Mother's Day.

[ChicMiss]

I get a bag from my child. Who then asks to share them. No. Absolutely no. AIBU for a bit more thought? I don't like that I'm expected to share, they've gone off in a huff and my OH is also in a huff.

Wow,I remember buying my parents chocolate for mothers/fathers day and then us kids waiting expectedly for them to open them, my dad didn't even like chocolate.
I always opened mine from my kids, to not share with a 6 year old is so sad 😞

Same.

@Crocsforlife

i wasn’t a perfect teen but I managed to get my mum a card for Mother’s Day and say ‘happy Mothers day’ to her. Did you not?

You can role model sharing without expecting others to always share their gifts. It's also important to teach children that you're allowed to have things to yourself, especially when they are gifts.

Just out of interest at what point do people think it’s ok to NOT share their gifts with their kids? So if you had been bought some nice Charlotte tilbury makeup for example and your 14 year old fancied it for herself would you let them have it?

Make up isn't shared, hygiene. Clothes don't really get shared unless you're exactly the same shape/size.

Chocolate, cake, biscuits, sweets etc are all sharable.

You're confused that someone finds eating their own gift by themselves better when every other day they are likely to share something like chocolate with their child?

It's Mother's Day, not Children's Day. If a mother can't have some chocolate bought for her as a gift to herself on mothers day then when can she?

I sorted my own MD present this year as I knew DH would forget. Bought a big box of chocolates the DCs could share. Honestly, I can’t get worked up about it. DS is old enough now that he made me a card and wished me happy Mother’s Day all by himself.

I think people are surprised that anyone finds the prospect of cramming a few cheap children's chocolates down their face so exciting that they would even bother to think about the "pleasure" involved. As I have said a hundred times, if the "pleasure" of eating mini eggs is so massive to you you have to factor it in, just buy your own whenever you like and stuff them down to your heart's content.
What's confusing is that giving children's sweets to children, who really do enjoy them, because they are children, is less pleasurable to you then putting cheaply blended milk and sugar that you could easily buy every day if you love it so much down your own throat. Most people are not this focused on themselves.

Is it normal to share makeup around, and offer everyone some when you open it?

No. Therefore, no to your question. Just like it wouldn't be normal to let your six year old drive the Porsche you were bought for your birthday.

Yeh I think YABU. It's a bag of mini eggs FFS. You sound very childish

Depends if they’re too young to choke on them!

If you buy them yourself, it isn't a gift.

It's about teaching children that giving a gift doesn't mean that they are then entitled to that gift and that grown ups are allowed things to themselves, just as children aren't expected to share the gifts bought for them.

When she’s got children old enough to not want to share?

When is children’s day?

So even mothers day should revolve around what the children want?

Yes, you're repeating yourself and saying that constantly, even though you've been told a hundred times how you can do that and still manage to share cheap chocolates that nobody sane would give two damns about with children who would appreciate then.

and I have also said a hundred times that you can still manage to teach children to share every other day whilst also teaching them that someone else's gift belongs to them and they don't have to share it.

Everyone is repeating themselves.

Is being a selfish twat on "your special day" another of the lessons you are desperate to teach kids?

Yes! Whilst they’re little.

Is that blunt enough for you?

It’s a silly made up day.

Of course you don't have to share it! You should want to share it! You don't have to not share it to teach them you don't have to, ffs.

Nobody denies your right to sit over your mini eggs, drooling, as the kids watch, disappointed. You have the right to do all sorts of selfish things. What's incredible to people is that you would want to. And don't talk about teaching them lessons again as it's obvious you can do that and still let the fucking kids have a mini egg.

It isn't selfish to want your gift for yourself, it's your gift.

What's the point in mothers day if it's just another day where it's all about the children and mothers come last, as usual?

Good grief: you won’t share chocolate eggs with a six year old? I am speechless. Just how desperate for chocolate are you, OP?

Your child gives you a gift, by giving them one mini egg from the bag, you're putting them first. Righto.

Just stop. You're making yourself ridiculous.

I wouldn't eat it in front of them and I never said that I would. That's what after bedtime is for.

Yes it is, you sound awful!

Enjoy your chocolate, much more important than your child’s feelings of wanting to be part of mummy’s day.