To be sick of the Mother's day obsession

[arcticpandas]

So many mums seem to just have lost it when it comes to Mother's Day. One who is upset with teacher not making something in school for her dc to give her, another who is angry her husband doesn't drive her 13 year old to pick up a sewing machine she wanted for Mother's Day, and one angry with partner for not getting her a card even though she's not his mother and they don't even have dc together. And then we got the Mil-Dil race, who is supposed to be the most worthy of spending the day with son/dh. And one mum who is jealous her Dil doesn't plan for her as she does for her own mother.

The world has gone crazy. What's up with all these entitled grown up women who happen to be mothers? Don't you know that Mother's Day is just for commercial reasons and has nothing to do with the love your child has for you?

I'm happy with a drawing/a card/ whatever any day. We don't do Mother's Day because I'm a mum every day and what I give I get back in hugs, drawings, or as a week ago when my ds 11 had stopped at the shops on his way home just to get me a tablet of my favourite chocolate. That made me happy to tears because he did it because he wanted to make me happy. Not because he felt obliged because of "Mother's Day" or whatever.

I just feel that people are not seeing the bigger picture getting so focussed on one day. If your children and partner make you feel loved and valued in general you don't need a special day for it. If that's not the case maybe that's the reason you're obsessing over this day while you have way bigger fish to fry. Because complaining about not getting this or that or being jealous of mil/dil just make you seem very entitled, immature and not happy with your life in general.

It is nice to feel a little bit extra special.

I don't expect much, but I'd be miffed myself if I didn't get a card. DD always buys me a mug and I got a new dressing gown.

I'm deep cleaning the kitchen today, time saver for during the week, DH done the bathroom.

It will be mostly over from tomorrow, and forgotten about. (Then will come the April fool threads!) And perhaps I’ll stop seeing that Katie Hopkins advert about having a scrummy breakfast.

So many threads about Mothers day and so tedious.

So we know Mother's Day has these traditional roots.
Fathers Day was just invented because there was a Mother's Day.

Is everyone going to be freaking out & moaning when that comes round too? Probably not.

Men don't care about father's day

They can get stressed about Mother's Day as, and the many threads on her today prove it, some women are bonkers when it comes to Mother's Day and blame their husband if they don't get the princess treatment they think they deserve from their kids.

Father’s Day is the busiest day of the year & Mother’s Day the second busiest, so it would seem someone cares about fathers day

Father’s Day isn’t as popular as MD. Firstly it’s stemmed from MD. Plus 95% of my friends and family who still have one parent or in contact in with, it’s their mums.

Think about your circle.

Yes. It makes me cringe, the whole ‘I am so happy on Mother's Day cleaning my toilets and being given coal to eat for breakfast, because all I really want is the privilege of cooking my child’s dinner and see them not throw it on the floor’.

People should do what they want and it’s great if they are with partners who respect the way they want to do it. I expect most of us inhabit a middle ground. Where we are appreciated anyway by family for most of the year but also enjoy an extra treat on Mother’s Day.

Mother's Day, or Mothering Sunday, came long before commercialisation and the objections the OP validly makes in my opinion. It has been hyped up along with upscaling of other events. For example, hen weekends or stag weekends costing hundreds of pounds each instead of a simple night out.

Busiest for what? Where?

i imagine father‘s day is busier as mothers are doing the work…

I have not read that thread. But for somebody to be so upset about this, I imagine there is a backstory. There may well be context to feeling underappreciated and tired in general. I would happily share my mini eggs because I genuinely feel appreciated and value all around. If I felt that nobody appreciated me and I was nobody‘s priority, then maybe I would be upset having to share my mini eggs.

I don’t think that poster deserves to be mocked on this thread. It feels quite mean.

God's sake, it's not mandatory is it?

Sunday lunch in the pub - sorry, Mother’s Day is busy but never as busy as Father’s Day for Sunday lunch.

we did over 560 covers today, but Father’s Day is consistently busier with last year coming in at 700 covers

Think about your circle

what circle?

Totally agree!

It's not a flaming competition...why can't family do nice things for mothers on mothers day as well as throughout the year.. mine do..

Thank goodness, someone talks sense on the subject at long last 👏👏👏👏👏

It’s not commercial actually _ it’s in the Church of England calendar as the midway point through Lent. Suspect Father’s Day may be commercial (tho I think in Catholic countries it’s sometimes st Joseph’s)

Tell all the disappointed mums raving about their wishes for Mother's Day not having been fulfilled😄

'Mothering Sunday is the fourth Sunday of Lent. Although it's often called Mothers' Day it has no connection with the American festival of that name.
Traditionally, it was a day when children, mainly daughters, who had gone to work as domestic servants were given a day off to visit their mother and family.
Today it is a day when children give presents, flowers, and home-made cards to their mothers.
History of Mothering Sunday
Most Sundays in the year churchgoers in England worship at their nearest parish or 'daughter church'.
Centuries ago it was considered important for people to return to their home or 'mother' church once a year. So each year in the middle of Lent, everyone would visit their 'mother' church - the main church or cathedral of the area.
Inevitably the return to the 'mother' church became an occasion for family reunions when children who were working away returned home. (It was quite common in those days for children to leave home for work once they were ten years old.)
As they walked along the country lanes, children would pick wild flowers or violets to take to church or give to their mother as a small gift.