To be sick of the Mother's day obsession

[arcticpandas]

So many mums seem to just have lost it when it comes to Mother's Day. One who is upset with teacher not making something in school for her dc to give her, another who is angry her husband doesn't drive her 13 year old to pick up a sewing machine she wanted for Mother's Day, and one angry with partner for not getting her a card even though she's not his mother and they don't even have dc together. And then we got the Mil-Dil race, who is supposed to be the most worthy of spending the day with son/dh. And one mum who is jealous her Dil doesn't plan for her as she does for her own mother.

The world has gone crazy. What's up with all these entitled grown up women who happen to be mothers? Don't you know that Mother's Day is just for commercial reasons and has nothing to do with the love your child has for you?

I'm happy with a drawing/a card/ whatever any day. We don't do Mother's Day because I'm a mum every day and what I give I get back in hugs, drawings, or as a week ago when my ds 11 had stopped at the shops on his way home just to get me a tablet of my favourite chocolate. That made me happy to tears because he did it because he wanted to make me happy. Not because he felt obliged because of "Mother's Day" or whatever.

I just feel that people are not seeing the bigger picture getting so focussed on one day. If your children and partner make you feel loved and valued in general you don't need a special day for it. If that's not the case maybe that's the reason you're obsessing over this day while you have way bigger fish to fry. Because complaining about not getting this or that or being jealous of mil/dil just make you seem very entitled, immature and not happy with your life in general.

H agree that for some people I think it distills and highlights feelings of being unappreciated throughout the rest of the year. It brings it into focus.

May I present exhibit A for YANBU, the ongoing mini eggs thread

Why do you think people who celebrate Valentines don't show love and appreciation the rest of the time too?

I’m 3000 miles away from family. Sent me mam some lovely flowers. Just wondering if my 20 something son will remember to message me. I’ve always kept it simple.

That thread is ridiculous (but also hilarious!)

ANY gift is fine, it's just nice to be remembered however small the gesture.

I got some chocolates too and, yes, I will 100% be sharing them! 😂

Mothering Sunday does have a long history in the UK but it’s originally about visiting your mother church not the person who gave birth to you. The Mother’s Day that’s so popular today is 100% commercial bollocks.

A suspicious amount of threads today attacking women. Is this co-ordinated?

So what if it is commercialised and has departed from it's original meaning? If children give their mums a little gift, express their appreciation their and spend time together that's nice. Most people I know enjoy mother's day. If someone doesn't like it or think it's worthwhile, they can ignore it.

I think I have a little streak of anarchy running through me whereby I hate any kind of official day that tries to control my feelings...why would I feel more loving or romantic because it's February 14th? Why should I feel more grateful or sentimental on mother's or father's day? I

Thank you. Yes, poor mum whose 6 year old wanted to share the mini eggs while mum wanted a gift just for her. Sometimes I wonder how these posters are functioning day to day beings so incredibly immature and selfish that you don't want to share chocolate with your 6 year old.😓

humans are an embarrassment at times

If you want a lovely time, do it yourself.
Anything else is a bonus, in my opinion.

Do you feel attacked by this thread? If so I would suggest you call your gp first thing tomorrow.

I think it’s sad that woman still feel the need for a made up day to have their worth proved. For gods sake, raise your bar women. Choose a partner with the same ideals as you. Don’t be a doormat. Raise your children to show appreciation every day.

I agree. I'm fed up of hearing about it on the radio too: 'whether you're enjoying breakfast in bed or...' In what world is everyone waking up at the same time to prepare my toast and marmalade and a pot of tea on a tray while I sit up in bed like someone off Downton Abbey?

What I don’t understand is all the morally superior huffing about “commercialised nonsense” when it’s these days scattered through the calendar which keep millions of people in jobs.

This. My lot are a mixed bunch. I got a card and flowers from a couple of them. The others a verbal acknowledgement and DH is making a slap up lunch. It's enough because I don't feel generally under appreciated day to day.

Dsis however is on a text rant to me this morning and is very upset at nothing plus a don't care attitude. This is not a new thing, I get the same texts from her every year. I get why though - she has major relationship issues with how her partner and now her adult children treat her all year round. It just boils over today and tomorrow it will be back to head in the sand.

Some people go really OTT with gifts, things etc. I think its a waste of time and money. The origins of Mothering Sunday was to visit the Mother Church, the church you grew up and probably christened at. Nothing to do with the woman who gave birth to you, adopted you.

A nice card is what is needed. Got sick of emails with "perfect gifts for your Mum on Mother's Day". Yes a £250 pendant.

Then why do card shops sell Mother's Day cards to relatives which aren't your mother? Who buys a MD card for their cousin for example?

I can see both sides. It’s true that if mothers were properly appreciated and if domestic work were shared more equally it wouldn’t be necessary and I think people who turn it into a list of demands are generally people who feel under appreciated the rest of the year and it turns into a bit of a flashpoint.

On the other hand I don’t see any harm in it at all and if it makes people feel that little bit better why not?

It’s become a Parody of itself with some Mums disappointed with the gifts they received.
I tell my 3 that I’m their Mum everyday
it matters to them so I grateful accept what they have sent me

😂😂😂😂😂

I think that sounds perfect. I think you have permission to be a lot kinder to yourself tbh.

@Drivingmissrangey - but no one calls it Mothering Sunday anymore

I always thought the UK mothering Sunday was supposed to be the Sunday in the middle of lent when people went back to see their mothers (ie back to their home town and parish church) and it was a day off from fasting.

They were meant to celebrate the church were they were batisied.

The Mother in Mothering Sunday is referring to a church not a person.