To veto DH’s baby name choice?

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Bit of a long one, sorry! Currently 32 weeks pregnant with twins (one boy, one girl) and DH has suddenly decided he must name them after his favourite romantic film couple. He thinks it’s cute and meaningful. I think it’s twee and naff.

For context, the film isn’t some timeless classic, more of a 90s/00s romcom. Not awful, but not exactly Shakespeare either. Think along the lines of Jack and Rose (it’s not that, but you get the vibe). The names are VERY tied to the film – like, you’d hear them together and immediately think of it.

I’ve said I’m not keen, but DH is really pushing it, saying I got more say on DD1’s name (not true, we both agreed!). He also reckons no one will make the connection, which is just nonsense because even my mum raised an eyebrow when we mentioned it!

AIBU to put my foot down? I want names that will grow with them, not make people say “oh, like that film?” every time they introduce themselves. DH is sulking and says I’m ruining something sentimental for him. WWYD?

Extra context:
• Not my PFB, we already have a 4yo DD
• Names are nice individually, just cringey together
• DH is lovely but can be a bit of a dreamer when it comes to this stuff

Great film. But that's bizarre.

I would have guessed Luke and Leia given if they come at 37 weeks that's around Star Wars day (May the Fourth). That is absolutely something my DH would have suggested. But Harry and Sally?! Absolutely not. Very glad the 'magic' has been killed because that is ridiculous.

Stand your ground OP. Hopefully together you'll come up with something much more sensible.

Hard No. Weird and not okay at all

It’s mega cringe. When the kids get older and realise the painfully stupid fake orgasm scene they’ll die of embarrassment! Fuck off mate. No way to them names.

It’s gross to name siblings after a romantically involved couple. Think of the poor kids, for goodness’ sake.

He's very on trend. I read an article just yesterday about incest being the ultimate taboo, currently being broken on a TV screen near you.

Ask him if that's the vibe he's going for with your twins.

Luke and Leia were actually twins so it’s a much better suggestion than Harry and Sally! Even though it does scream SUPERFAN 😂

I haven't even seen that movie but it is so well known I would still associate those names with the film. Definitely not.

It isn't fair for either parent to dislike the names. He shouldn't be trying to pester you into it.

Dc are going to be utterly mortified once they realize they have been named after famous sexual partners.
They are siblings not a romantic couple.
I have twins letting them have their own identity is really important.

I have twins….IMO you’re doing all the hard work here you get veto over name choice. If he wants to dictate their names suggests he goes through evolutionary miracle and carries and births twins himself

Are you having goldfish?

If yes, great.
If not, not a chance in hell.

Nope, even if you loved the names too it's very weird to call a brother and sister after a famous romantic couple. Imagine siblings called Romeo & Juliet. They would never live it down.

It is also, as you say, twee and naff and something you will probably regret. Put your foot down!

I knew twins called Danny and Sandy
Don't do it OP.

Agreed. I haven’t watched it either, but I still know of the movie and would immediately associate the names with the movie. I had to google to check the actual name, but it’s alway been one of those famous romantic duos.

Why on earth would you presume that ?

Anyway, my first thought was Rhett and Scarlett 😂 OP yanbu, let him sulk until he gets to his senses.

Or mix it up & call them Billy & Sally. But not the other way round cos Harry & Meg would be even worse!

YANBU.

If you completely hate the idea (and I agree with you), you will never grow to like it. I vetoed DH's suggestion of Shannon for our DD and have never regretted it.

How about William (Billy) and Margaret (Meg) as a compromise? I doubt many would immediately make the connection (or am I just being dense?)

Tell me it’s not Harry and Sally… (or the poor children will face endless jokes about "I’ll have what he/she's having")!

The names might be sentimental to him but it's not about him, it's about them. They won't thank him for lumbering them with these names.

@Rivertrudge I’m afraid it is. Somehow it’s meant to be “cute” and “meaningful” 🤮.

That's a good point!

No is a completely reasonable argument.

You both have to live with their names. As do they.

Oh my God, I just read the updates and it is! It was the first embarrassing thing that sprang to my mind. It would be awful! Please tell him he would be letting them in for a lot of unpleasantness.

Double vom.