Delivery driver let himself into my house

[Wineatfiveisfine]

I WFH. A delivery driver knocked quite loudly on my door a few days ago. I got to my hallway within 10 seconds to find a very tall man in my hallway setting the delivery down on a table and taking a photo, as proof of delivery.

He said “hello, delivery”. I was too shocked to form a cordial response and just said “erm, why are you in my house?” He said “delivery, thanks bye” and off he went.

We’ve raised a complaint with said company - but they’ve said this is a common occurrence (!) and that they will speak to the driver, but it won’t be taken any further.

i was terrified to find a stranger in my house - but having googled, this seems to be a common occurrence!!!! How?!?!?

Why be so naïve?

I'm in and in and out the back door multiple times during the day.

And? How hard is it to unlock a door when you want to get in?

Of course he shouldn't have come in. (How did he get to the back door, by the way? Isn't your garden/yard secured either?)

The point is, you have been upset by it, and you could have saved yourself the upset by doing the very straightforward action of keeping your door locked.

I used to live in a rural village. It had a train station with direct links to London, although the journey took about 4 hours. There was a spate of burglaries with small high value items being stolen. Eventually the police worked out it was a small group of thieves coming from London during the working day who were stealing what they could and then hopping back onto the train to sell the stolen goods in London.

I wouldn’t just blame our reading skills, it’s on OP as well how she worded the question.
People said : He was wrong but the only way to prevent strangers coming to your house uninvited was to lock the door.

If she didn’t want to know about ways how to avoid this she should have made it clear in her OP.

Her privacy has been violated though, regardless of how much you think she deserves it. Are you not very bright?

Would you accept a stranger walking into your home, without permission?
No i wouldn't. Which is why I lock my doors.

Of course the alternative is not to buy goods online so you won't get delivery drivers, however your neighbour might and the delivery driver could put your neighbours parcels in your home because your neighbour isn't home 😱

You said at (21.26) that things are exactly the same in your village... People come selling door to door... But half an hour later said you live in a really remote 'arse end of nowhere' scottish croft type of place - with no neighbours for MILES!

At 21.55 you said

I wouldnt leave my door unlocked if I lived in a village either.

Imagine those scottish crofts with no neighbours for Miles. We are a Bit like that.

So which is it? Or did you move from the village (with neighbours, and door to door salesmen,) to the 'arse end of nowhere' (with no neighbours for miles) in the space of half an hour? 😂

Unbelievable

Someone did that when we were kids, our Doberman savaged them 😳

My point is that no-one should ever enter a private residence!! This is not ok.

Of course its not ok. But if its not locked people will let themselves in. If you dont like it lock your door. Problem solved.

If it’s common in your area to have the doors unlocked, maybe that’s why he thought it’s okay to let himself in? I assume he does that in other houses he delivers too as well.

Just lock the door.

You don’t need to live in London. There is a whole wide world beyond the M25 full of normal people who sensibly keep their doors locked. If you don’t want opportunist thieves or random folks walking in, that’s what you do.

If you aren’t arsed, or have some 1950s twee ideal that your village couldn’t possibly have a single wrong ‘un passing by, then you take the risk and consequences of your intransigence and naivety.

And stupidity, quite frankly. How big a deal is it to lock your door really? It’s not.

@batchcookbabe

Ffs you're like a dog with a bone 🤣

I live in the arse end of nowhere in a farm in a field with no. neigbours.

The village I refer to is the nearest village SEVERAL MILES AWAY where some of my friends live and they also leave their doors open. But if I lived in that said village I don't think I woukd.

Happy now ?😱

This thread has turned into a new version of the Four Yorkshiremen sketch.

”I live in the sticks and I never lock the door.”

”I live more in the sticks than you and I leave my keys in the lock on the outside at all times.”

”I live so in the sticks I haven’t even got a door.”

And you tell the young folk on MN that, they don’t believe you.

.Not what you said at all, but hey ho. 😂

#oops

Bright enough to see the OP is incredibly naive and unrealistic! How can she complain about her privacy being violated when it’s ok for the postie to enter uninvited? I wouldn’t trust anyone 100%! I also value my privacy. The fact that she knows the postie and not the delivery driver is not the point.

I totally agree with you, @Wineatfiveisfine - he should not have come in.

People saying you should lock your door is like saying women need to cover up so men don’t stare (or much worse).

He's the one in the wrong.

Naive?
I have security cameras at the back, side and front of my home.
I can't secure the passageway round the side of the house because theoretically my neighbour has right of access round my house to their back garden, although they never use it.
My back door is over looked by multiple other houses.
I know the neighbourhood I live in - which you don't.
I'm not carrying a key with me every time I go out to the wheelie bin, feed the birds, hang the washing out, do some gardening etc etc.
If I think there are strangers about, or if I'm going upstairs I lock the door.
There is nothing naive about it. I'm using my judgement.
But I must admit that after today I might lock up the backdoor for the night much earlier in the evening than I have been in the habit of doing.

I know right. Such a load of old drivel isn't it?

Some people even live in a village with neighbours, and door to door salesmen, in a plot of land that MILES from any neighbours. 😂

The farmers round here are struggling with farm thefts right now.

Being near 2 county borders we also have issues with county lines.

Rural living is low crime, not crime free.

I disagree with comparisons between taking sensible measures to secure your home and rape victims. It is not the same at all.

Exactly. Tell me you don't live rurally without telling me you don't live rurally.

If it’s common knowledge the postie lets himself in that area, then other delivery drivers will think they can too! The OP can hardly complain!

I’ve had this! Amazon driver opened the door and chucked the parcel into the porch, which wouldn’t have been so bad but he didn’t shut the door behind him.

There is nothing naive about it. I'm using my judgement.

Yeah, well done.

And your judgement has led to some man being able to walk into your home uninvited.

"I can't secure the passageway to the rear of my house so my judgement is, I won't secure entry into my home either."

There’s such a thing as sensible precautions!

You shouldn't have to but it's a sad fact that nowadays you do have to lock your door.
The delivery guy was really out of order and I can't believe it's a common occurrence. They'll do it to the wrong person one day.