To feel pissed off!?

[Sandandsea123]

my baby is 5 months old and just won’t nap in the daytime other than while being pushed in the pram. It’s driving me bonkers as I can’t get anything done around the house and it’s a mess! The dog (not my dpg, my partners but I’m the only one who walks him) isn’t being walked much as I’m just too knackered and he is too strong for me when carrying baby so he’s leaping around the house and stressing me out. The clutter everywhere is really getting on top of me (literally and metaphorically), it just feels like one day after the other of shit. My partner does absolutely nothing, gets home from work and expects cup of tea and a cake and then an hour to poo and shower before dinner. He gets mad if the baby is crying while I’m trying to cook dinner and have to leave her in bouncy seat or playmat, she’s upset because she’s tired because she doesn’t nap.. it’s a horrid cycle and just looking for ideas of how to begin a change!! She used to have lovely naps in her bed or pram, she does sleep well at night so at least there’s that! The AIBU is my partner has announced (to me and on Facebook) that he’s going to start going to the gym after work every night, and golf on weekends (“only” once or twice a month, plus another activity once a month), he does NOTHING around the house and in 5 months has done maybe 6 nappy changes. I’m on maternity and pay 90% of bills, he transfers me about £50 a week sometimes, but withholds this if he thinks I’ve done something wrong. AIBU to be annoyed / feel hard done by? I don’t get to do anything, having a shower is a treat for me!

No advice on the awful-sounding ‘partner’ but could you not push the baby in her pram for a long walk to get her to have a decent nap whilst also walking the dog. I always walked dog and babies together as it’s great for both of them. If you are lucky the baby will sleep on a bit when you get home so you can have some time to yourself. Also, have you got a sling - I used one to get chores done with my babies when they were tiny and unsettled? I seem to remember my eldest went through a phase of not wanting to nap at around 6 months and it was because he was going from 3 naps down to 2 (a short one in the morning and a long one after lunch). so I used to take him out in the car or the pushchair to get him to sleep for his long afternoon nap, and then because he was still in the habit of having his naps once he got through that fussy phase he went back to napping in his cot after a while.

when do you go back to work? You need to make sure you don’t end up doing all the nursery drop offs and pick ups as well as trying to work! Surely your partner realised he has to do do some parenting and will need to step up and take on 50% of the household chores once you’re back at work full time?