She ordered a Curry and hasn’t paid me

[OnePeachA]

Friend came to my house

I was going to cook but she asked if I fancied a curry. I said that would be really nice actually

Her JustEat app wasn’t working so I said have a look on mine for places that are open. She picked Indian.

I put everything I wanted in and she added hers. Total came to £52ish. Over 65% of that cost was hers.

I said I could just check out and sort it later. I have messaged to ask if she had the money today as a gentle reminder, and she said she thought it was my treat?

I said oh, we must have got crossed wires then. She said ‘I did cover the shop’

She went to the corner shop for wine and snacks. I got a Grape Fanta!

Where do I go from here? Leave it? Was it reasonable for her to assume it was in fact my treat?

No one would be so rude unless food wasn’t forthcoming so they suggested takeaway , and it sounds like food wasn’t available as guest had to go shop for snacks and wine…

This is a fascinating take on what has been said. OP told her guest she was going to cook them both some carbonara. In what world does that mean "food wasn't forthcoming?"

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This

"Her JustEat app wasn’t working" hmm suspect it was but then anything would come out of her account and not yours.
Chances are She will now 'forget' to give it to you.

Least you know never to pay for anything again while with her x

I would say horrifically expensive for a local takeaway
Ours (a very good one, Liz Hurley still goes there, used to be Bruce Forsyth's go-to) would be around £7-9 per main course, and £3-5 per side
So for two people you'd expect £25 in total, plus another ~£10 if having starters

friend,s reply was very disrespectful, drop her x

I wouldn't bring it up again, because I wouldn't contact her again. Let it go, along with her, she's on a different wavelength to you and not worth it.

But this is my point - there ARE guidelines around portion sizes and ratios of macros etc and people and their attitudes are getting rapidly further away from them while attaching way too much emotion to food.

It's not just a random opinion. Eating two naans and rice is a bad idea for anybody.

Calling people who recognise that fact miserable, disordered eaters and lots of other appalling stuff is not fair game just because someone felt defensive.

Your comment is a fascinating misreading of OPs original quote which was :

“Friend came to my house. I was going to cook but she asked if I fancied a curry. I said that would be really nice actually”.

This to me says she didn’t explicitly tell guest “hey I’m going to cook us a carbonara!”.
If she did say that and her guest’s response was “ nah let’s order curry” then her guest’s rudeness goes way beyond dodging payment. In fact I would be surprised anyone could be so rude to dismiss hosts cooking in favour of takeaway.

But since when did “Do you fancy a curry?” translate to “Do you want to treat us to a curry?”?

That's expensive for 2 meals and some rice. Why 3 nans?

Why 3 nans?

What is a CF? Or shouldn’t I ask?

Cheeky fucker

Cheeky fucker

Guessed so, wasn’t hard 😂

I mean I do also think if you have someone to your house you should provide snacks and drinks. I wouldn’t want to sit at a friend’s all evening with nothing to nibble and no glass of wine. But it sounds like these are two people with different expectations of an evening in and so probably won’t be repeating the experience.

🤣🤣🤣 Was just about to ask what that was!! 🤣🤣🤣

Jfc @IlooklikeNigella - would you ever give it a fucking rest!

This thread is not about you. I can tell that you think it should be, as you are so wise and clever, but it isn't. Every other post is you wanging on, when other people are trying to discuss the matter in hand. You know, the one the OP asked about. Honest to god.

OP hasn't been back for about 20 pages but please do contribute your opinion. 'm sure we would all love to hear it.

I'm not sure if I'm allowed to respond to you here as it seems me responding to that previous poster upset you.

My opinion on the actual OP, do you mean? Or on your overbearing steam-rollering of all the rest of it?

Don't try and patronise me, dear. Go and weigh out some protein or something. You're boring everyone to tears.

Your opinion on the matter in hand please which I'm preventing you discussing.

I know this was a typo/spellcheck error but I did laugh. No wonder she wanted a takeaway if dinner was a tyre. 🤣