She ordered a Curry and hasn’t paid me

[OnePeachA]

Friend came to my house

I was going to cook but she asked if I fancied a curry. I said that would be really nice actually

Her JustEat app wasn’t working so I said have a look on mine for places that are open. She picked Indian.

I put everything I wanted in and she added hers. Total came to £52ish. Over 65% of that cost was hers.

I said I could just check out and sort it later. I have messaged to ask if she had the money today as a gentle reminder, and she said she thought it was my treat?

I said oh, we must have got crossed wires then. She said ‘I did cover the shop’

She went to the corner shop for wine and snacks. I got a Grape Fanta!

Where do I go from here? Leave it? Was it reasonable for her to assume it was in fact my treat?

I would agree with you if it wasn't for the fact that the teeny-tiny jibes have only been made in response to the how on earth could you possibly eat that enormous amount of food jibes.

Personally, I think neither is nice but if you make "what a pig" jibes, you should expect jibes back.

Exactly this….

if you can give it out…..then learn to take it

You don't care what anyone eats? I thought you ran a successful weight loss programme?
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I don't think they are teeny-tinies. I think they'd like to be...

Not at all relevant to the thread but if you wet the naan and then put it under the grill it's nice. Not as nice as fresh but much better than just reheated.

Let's break it down shall we.

The guest's food cost more. It's fair to assume the guest ordered one of the mains plus rice and TWO naans. So even if she assumed she was being treated she ordered more than a meal. Which is pretty rude.

When this was queried posters jumped on the bandwagon with the competitive undereating jibes and astonishingly claiming that this is NOT a large order and thinking it is suggests an eating disorder. It's nothing to do with appetite. It's a huge meal for anyone.

Who? I've stated already I'm not teeny tiny nor am I a teeny tiny eater. A teeny tiny eater would not be ordering Indian takeout full stop.

I'm really not interested. This is my last post to you as you're not able to take a hint. Nobody wants your 'diet' advice, you've been asked to stop and you won't. That's up to you but I don't owe you my precious chatting-shit time.

All I want to know is... did the friend pay up?

Great. I wasn't offering any diet advice. Be big, be small, be teeny tiny, be massive, be whatever you want. But don't demand that everyone who doesn't accept your absolute delusion has issues.

Surely you’ve got some calories to count this afternoon?

I think your original comment is getting lost though as it comes across more preachy with each post. Yes certainly if you're making the assumption that someone else is paying then ‘filling your boots’ is totally wrong, but that is not necessarily just a portion size issue but a cost per item issue (you could order a modest sized lobster dish which costs a small fortune).

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Her reply sounds like more fun and games, doesn't it? I'd say, "In my account would be great, thanks." Then move on. It's not worth more aggravation when you probably won't get the money back anyway.

She sounds like a total flake. Who would do this to a friend just to get a free takeout meal, especially when free dinner was offered anyway? Did she really think you wouldn't get it?

You might want to check your purse, home and accounts to be sure she didn't help herself to anything else.

Umm, did you mean 'naania' world? The naans are plentiful there.

Keep us updated op. Don’t let her get away with not paying.

This. Who doesn’t have at least one of online banking, PayPal, Google Pay, Apple Pay ? I’m old and I’ve got 3 of those.

But you have! Massive issues!

Learn to not overstep.

You’re quite getting on my nerves now.

No you and some of your thread buddies are utterly deluded and flinging out insults to anyone who counters that.

Wins the thread! Brilliant!

I thought people were saying it’s not a large order for the price, rather than just a large order.

Especially as so many branches have now closed. Me thinks she is full of BS. Next thing she’ll say she’s lost her chequebook.

The difference here is that the host wasn't the one who suggested the takeaway.

Personally if I had been invited round to someone's house and they had offered to cook me dinner, I wouldn't suggest a takeaway in the first place. It sounds like you're snubbing the host's cooking.

Suggesting a takeaway when you're the guest and then expecting the host to "treat" you to £30 worth of Indian food when they'd planned to serve you spaghetti carbonara at a couple of quid a serving is doubly rude.

Pretending that her app wasn't working just shows that it was premeditated. She could have just called an Indian takeaway and used her card to pay. Surely that's what someone so technophobic that they "don't do online banking" would do anyway? (And it would almost certainly be cheaper than using Just Eat or Deliveroo anyway. We discovered that our favourite takeaway became 20€ cheaper ordering it directly from the restaurant and picking it up ourselves.)

If she offers you cash, check it's not old £5 notes that are no longer legal tender.