She ordered a Curry and hasn’t paid me

[OnePeachA]

Friend came to my house

I was going to cook but she asked if I fancied a curry. I said that would be really nice actually

Her JustEat app wasn’t working so I said have a look on mine for places that are open. She picked Indian.

I put everything I wanted in and she added hers. Total came to £52ish. Over 65% of that cost was hers.

I said I could just check out and sort it later. I have messaged to ask if she had the money today as a gentle reminder, and she said she thought it was my treat?

I said oh, we must have got crossed wires then. She said ‘I did cover the shop’

She went to the corner shop for wine and snacks. I got a Grape Fanta!

Where do I go from here? Leave it? Was it reasonable for her to assume it was in fact my treat?

🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️😆You say that but me and hubby and daughter share one between the three of us. We just don't eat more then one especially when you got all the other bits and its nothing to do with cost cutting. If we wanted more we'd order it.

But presumably you’d eat the food on offer rather than suggesting the host shell out for something else?

How do you know the “us” I was referring to doesn’t include 72 extended family members plus all their friends and neighbours 😝

Aside from wanting to freeload for it, isn't it really insulting to ask for a takeaway when somebody has offered to cook a meal themselves?

"Your cooking skills are doubtless sub-standard, so I shall reject them in favour of an expensive takeaway; BUT, because you were the one who originally offered to supply and cook your offensively unacceptable muck, you can pay for the takeaway that I have demanded instead."

The point is that it's completely irrelevant to the discussion and really boring when posters go with the "shock, horror, how could you eat so much" nonsense. I don't care how many naans you order and I'm sure you don't care how many I order.

Very true.

It doesn't sound like it's a particularly close friendship to start with.

Nevertheless, some CFs will go in brazenly and fill their boots from you; but if/when you push back, they just see you as a dud or now used up and move on to another mark, of which they never seem to run short.

Sometimes, they will deliberately choose something relatively inexpensive like a takeaway as a 'test', to see how much you might be ripe for plucking. If you don't roll over for that, they will often cool and move on; but if you accept it without question, they'll gradually push and push for more and more money until they eventually find the limit of what you can and will pay for them.

I knew someone like that. Always ‘forgetting’ her debit card and asking if someone could buy her a drink/ pay for her entrance fee/ sub her a few quid. Then radio silence with transferring the money. When chased she’d be ‘oh it was only a fiver but if you need the money’ and not transfer it until she’d been chased up several times. We realised she was doing same thing to several different friends so called her out on it when yet again she ‘forget’ her purse’ and we all refused to buy her a drink and she walked out.

These types know exactly what they’re doing. We see her out and about sometimes and she’s always hanging round two older guys both who have a few quid - hmmm

With you all the way. So good 😋

Who makes those rules up? Have you eaten an Indian in a restaurant and been refused either of them as you’re not allowed both?

No, I didn’t think so 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

With her attitude, she really reminds me of Bruno in the Just Eat adverts, who not only draws up a washing-up rota that assigns 6 of the 7 days to his partner, but then he insists on getting a takeaway (which he probably gets Stephen to pay for too - maybe his JE app 'isn't working' either) once a week on his one washing-up day

”spaghetti with a tyre”

calling it this now 🤣

Clause 147 subsection 12(k) of the Ordering an Indian Takeaway Act 1873.

Honestly, you sound like you haven’t read it at all 😔. Don’t you know you’re supposed to before you make an order??

Possibly how my pasta comes across actually

I now have a vision of a whole restaurant falling silent and everyone turning to stare at the person who has dared to order a naan and a portion of rice. The shame.

DH and I order one naan and one rice between us. We aren't competitive undereaters - they only do Yorkshire portions (large).

I can kind of see the thinking; in my experience if I've gone to someone's house for dinner and they say we're ordering in, it's their treat, just like if they cooked they wouldn't expect money for it. I guess the difference though is that, in those cases, it's their decision to order in, whereas here it was hers.
I think she's a bit of a cheeky fucker – it sounds like she's stalling for time and trying to make you feel bad about "making her" go to the bank. See if you get the money and how she behaves, I suppose.

All the places on JustEat, Deliveroo etc charge more for each item than they do in-house/direct to cover the costs of being on the platforms, and then there's the delivery fee as well.

I went to Wagamama in person the other week and was genuinely shocked at how cheap it was, it must have been half the price vs ordering on Deliveroo.

Haha I thought it was a dry joke ! It was a good one

Didn't realise? Nah she knew alright. People are very clear when they are treating. All this rubbish about going into a branch means I doubt you'll see the money.

This is what you should say. She is a massive CF so be blunt

Thank you, sounds really tasty!

Says who?

We share a rice and a large chips and get a naan each 🤷🏼‍♀️

Do this, eliminate her excuses

Christ, I remember my favourite Indian (well, Bangladeshi really) used to charge £6.50 for lamb curries and £6 for chicken, but that was of course, "back in the day". In fact, if the student loan was stretching a bit thin, we used to get biryanis since they were much cheaper as they already had the rice in 🤣

I have to say though, Indian meals are still significantly cheaper back in the UK than over here (Slovakia), 2 meat mains, 1 starter, 1 rice and 1 naan costs around 35 EUR on average. Will have to cut down on the starters once the kids start eating curries too 😁