AIBU to think DH should stop taking discounted food out of peoples trolleys.

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This happens every time we're in Tescos on a Sunday and they put the discounted stuff from the bakery out. Lots of customers surround the racks and DH just waits outside pushing each other over the goods and DH just waits a couple metres away then takes the goods out of peoples trolleys and shouts at people if they try taking it back.

AIBU to think he is completely in the wrong here, even if he other customers are pushing each other? I don't even know why he does it when we're not exactly short of money.

I don’t know who’s worse TBH, him bullying people for cheap food or you just standing there and not making him give it back.

I was going to ask if there is some backstory of war trauma or severe neglect where he literally always had to fight, beg or steal for every scrap of food and has internalized that behaviour. His behaviour is clearly not ok. He seems to have some moral compass as he won’t take something out of an elderly person’s shopping trolley, but that moral compass needs to be applied to EVERYONE. He is behaving like a bully and basically stealing stuff (and becoming aggressive if people call him out on his behaviour). He needs therapy. He is no longer in a situation where he has to fight, beg or steal for food. He needs to get help to reprogramme his brain.

Sorry OP but it is indeed much worse than the pushing and shoving. I think most people can see that -- it's extremely rude, selfish and super entitled.
Yes, the pushers and shovers might be badly behaved but what he does is absolutely shocking. I'm surprised he hasn't caused fights to break out or been banned by the store.

Just seen your update -- he's on a 100k salary. Jesus Christ.
There are serious emotional problems right there. He needs help with his attitude to money.
How on earth do you find him in any way attractive, never mind excusing it.
Meanness is such a totally unattractive trait in a partner.

If people are jostling for the reduced items, what the hell has it got to do with your DH? Why can't he just leave them alone?

I genuinely couldn't be with someone who treats other people like that, just because he feels like it. Who appointed him moral guardian of the bakery aisle? I hope someone reports him and he's banned from the store.

What a knob.

If people are desperate to fight over reduced food there's a good chance they need it. Imagine taking food away from someone less fortunate and feeling joy about it bet he voted for labour

He’s on £100k a year and behaving like this? Absolutely disgusting.

I don’t think people realise how real food poverty is for a lot of people. My husbands office is next to our local food bank and the queues regularly stretch down the street. This is food bank that requires a referral to, with people being given vouchers to swap for food based on their circumstances and benefits. No one would queue in the horrendous queue my dh has seen unless they had to.

If people are fighting over reduced food it’s because they really, really need it.

Your husband is appalling. That is absolutely awful behaviour. Just awful.

He’s behaving like a playground bully. How can you stand it ?

You’re disappointed at the responses????

Disappointed???

Goid lied no wonder we’re in a mess. I sincerely hope you don’t have children.

Tesco give away all their baked goods to Olio.

aparently some do after a certain time in the evening, at least thats what one worker told me

I cannot believe what I have just read!

I don't know why you'd be disappointed, I think you need to get your husband some help, if I caught someone talking stuff from my trolley discounted or not, I'd have security on them. That's really not right

Yes, this is what I thought! I like a touch of outrageous behaviour. Life is so dull so often. Sometimes I do my peacock impersonation in Waitrose just to wake people up a bit. We're alive!

I just wouldn’t go food shopping with him on a Sunday. If he wants to go shopping then let him take his list and off he goes.

it is not the done thing to take out of other people’s trolleys. It’s not stealing as such as you can’t steal stuff that isn’t paid for yet but it’s weird

Is he American?

You say it’s a quirk.. I say he’s a nasty arsehole… and you stand there and watch?!! I’m surprised nobody has punched him in the face!
A childhood spent in care is NO excuse
He’s stable enough to do a job paying 100k.

What a thoroughly unpleasant person he must be.

Your husband sounds like a complete twat. This is not normal adult behaviour

The item probably isn't technically yours until you pay for it.

I think this is probably quite funny to watch, a massive pitched battle at the front for items, while your husband is rooting through the trolleys and making off with what he wants. Watching him get punched for it would be pretty funny too.

Watching people fight over sales bargains has some entertainment value for me. I remember the unseemly scraps on TV when black friday first became a thing and people were fighting over low budget flat screen TVs.

The flat screen TV is a great "sales riot" item because it is big and difficult to hold/secure, so many opportunities for people to try to wrestle it from your grasp.

DH sounds like he has early onset something or, in serious need of counselling for arrested development. Standing by while he does this you are enabling him - you're certainly not stopping him and making excuses for him...