AIBU to think DH should stop taking discounted food out of peoples trolleys.

[ByWarmViewer]

This happens every time we're in Tescos on a Sunday and they put the discounted stuff from the bakery out. Lots of customers surround the racks and DH just waits outside pushing each other over the goods and DH just waits a couple metres away then takes the goods out of peoples trolleys and shouts at people if they try taking it back.

AIBU to think he is completely in the wrong here, even if he other customers are pushing each other? I don't even know why he does it when we're not exactly short of money.

Oh what tescos branch is this? Could we organise an event … surround him and mass raid his basket ? Bet we could shout a lot louder too

If this was true he would be banned by the supermarket.

And yes people do grab and grapple over reduced items, sadly some people need to. Even more sad a hell of a lot that do grab the reduced stuff don't actually need to but love a bargain.

You see people grabbing everything that is reduced and you know it'll end up in the bin. There is no way someone can eat (or have room to freeze) 7 reduced chickens

That’s not right. I have, and everyone I know also, has a large upright freezer that sits beside their large upright fridge. Putting seven chickens in would not create a dent in space at all.

Before these sorts of freezers came into being, we all had chest freezers. Which had decent capacity but were a complete bitch to get anything in/out of. They also had a large horizontal footprint and I can’t recall any that were not located out in a garage, while nowadays, the upright freezers go in the kitchen next to the fridge. Most manufactures make them as pairs so they match exactly and it doesn’t look odd.

ETA- I happily take reduced meat home if it’s sitting there and seven chooks would not be thrown out. To clarify though, I take every other reduced sort of red meat but never chicken or pork 🤣. I’m just iffy about reduced chicken/pork, whether freezing it or not. Happily take any form of short dated beef or lamb, including sausages and mince, though.

Why are you going shopping with this idiot if you know this is how he behaves? Just go on own, or better idea LTB.

I would refuse to ever go grocery shopping with him and do it myself. I would also suggest he go to counselling because that is not normal behaviour. Like others have said - he’s either a massive arsehole or mentally unwell.

I'm a little disappointed by these replies tbh so I'll try and address them all here. We've been together since we were very young, both of us had very bad childhoods but DHs was worse being raised in care. When we were younger he was much more able to function and supported me even when I was in and out of psychiatric hospitals.

He is always kind to me but doesn't respect some social norms such as this. He doesn't take anything off old people and while no-one has hit him I guarantee he isn't worried about this. I think he is just tight despite being on circa £100k, I know I can spend quite frivolously and it annoys him as well.

@ByWarmViewer What does 'kind most of the time' mean? Is is when he's getting what he wants or doing things he wants to do?

The supermarket behaviour is not that of a kind person, especially if you can afford to buy things full price. Some of those people may only be able to afford those items when they are discounted. Taking someone else's shopping, followed by shouting at them if they tell him he's wrong is, quite honestly, abhorrent.

I can believe this happens
The man (I knew his wife-she thought it was hilarious) with the sharpest elbows was also minted
She once showed his haul of joints of meat and other expensive food that he'd begged the woman to reduce to 10p a time
His monthly wage was more than my yearly one
He would have drawn the line at taking food out of other people trolley as he was a weedy wimp

My local M&S used to bring out the reduced item near closing. There was indeed a near rugby scrum but now they just put the yellow stickers on where the items are and reduce gradually during the day. I have got some great bargains occasionally and it is also a way of finding out if you would actually like something. Once got 2 items reduced from £8 to 2 and they tasted terrible. So glad I hadn't spent 16.00 on them.

He sounds really horrible. I’d be telling him that if he did it again, I wouldn’t ever be going shopping with him again.

You're disappointed that people are objecting to a well-paid man stealing food from other people's trolleys? You need a word with yourself.

Who you should really be disappointed in is your husband!!
How can you, or he, think it's OK to take food out of people's trolleys? What's his rationale for this? Because you haven't explained at all.

Wtaf?! Your husband earns around £100k and nicks discounted baked goods out of other people trolleys and then shouts at them if they say anything??!! This has to be the most ridiculous thing I have read on here in a long time! Tell me this is a wind up? If not then your husband needs serious help. How in earth can you put up with this sort of behaviour? How awful and embarrassing. The people who he is stealing from probably don’t have 2 pence to rub together if they are queuing up like this in the discounted area.

I have no words. Your husband is a tit.

He might not be worried about getting hit but he will do one day. What a wanker and you’re as bad for putting up with it. Childhood experience is irrelevant to being a tosser. That’s a choice an adult makes.

Tbh, at first I thought that it was quite funny. If there's a lot of people fighting over the reduced food then many of them have likely snatched food from others. I'm sure that your husband isn't the only one that does what he does!

However, since reading that he doesnt need to do this for financial reasons, then yes he is being absolutely selfish. Many of those people will be struggling to buy food essentials, they are literally fighting over food. It sounds like he's doing it more for his own entertainment.

There is tight and there is a massive bully. He’s the latter.

Actually your update made it worse. He’s abusing people for fun. He doesn’t even need the money!

He's meeting a number of criteria on the Hare Psychopathy Checklist, isn't he?

As I see it:
Jostling for discounted food with other customers = no problem,
Stealing food out of other customers trolleys = completely out of order.

I still don't understand how he does it. Does he wait until their back's turned and steal from their trolley or just brazenly have a look through their shopping in front of them and help himself ? If this is genuine I'm surprised he's not been removed by security.

@ByWarmViewer your updates don't make him sounds any better.
Stop making excuses for him and tell him he's behaving inappropriately.

Poor you. Being married to such a twat must be awful.
Is he proud of being such a dick? Yet at the sane time ashamed he can't provide or feed his family without taking from others?

That's awful behaviour, especially since he doesn't even need the discounted items. If I were the store, I'd ban him temporarily from the store every time he (or anyone else) was caught behaving like this.

You are disappointed in the replies? Is that a joke?? He's on 100k a year and takes goods out of peoples trollies who genuinely may not be able to afford enough food for the week. He's an utter scumbag and frankly you aren't that much better for going along with it!

He is always kind to me but doesn't respect some social norms such as this. He doesn't take anything off old people and while no-one has hit him I guarantee he isn't worried about this. I think he is just tight despite being on circa £100k, I know I can spend quite frivolously and it annoys him as well.

Shark well and truly jumped with that paragraph.
(In case you've no idea what I mean, OP, Google "Happy Days Jumping the Shark". Faux innocence can be very annoying)

It’s much worse (if true) than people pushing each other for the food as you’ve said you’re not even short of money. It’s really fucking weird in fact and spiteful. I’ve never actually seen people fighting over the reduced section my self though