AIBU to think DH should stop taking discounted food out of peoples trolleys.

[ByWarmViewer]

This happens every time we're in Tescos on a Sunday and they put the discounted stuff from the bakery out. Lots of customers surround the racks and DH just waits outside pushing each other over the goods and DH just waits a couple metres away then takes the goods out of peoples trolleys and shouts at people if they try taking it back.

AIBU to think he is completely in the wrong here, even if he other customers are pushing each other? I don't even know why he does it when we're not exactly short of money.

This is insane. Once something is in someone’s trolly or basket you don’t touch it!

He sounds unhinged.

This has to be a joke, if not then I’m really surprised that he hasn’t been punched for being an absolute dickhead.

Is he a teenager?

You’re married to a man that shouts at people over stale baked goods?

I would actually leave him. He’s vile.

That is a great effort OP, a good 7/10😂

He has a few quirks but is kind most the time and successful in other areas of life. It seems like most people agree it's not great, I suppose I was dismissing it because it doesn't seem much worse than the pushing everyone else is doing.

I have so many questions:

1. What on earth is he thinking?
2. Does he discriminate on which trolleys he steals from? Little old ladies or is he equally prepared to shout at a burly body builder type?
3. Why on earth do you still go to the supermarket with him if he behaves like this?
4. This just can’t be real - nobody is that strange!
5. Who are the 4% of people who think the OP is being unreasonable?

I can’t get past him shouting at people in a public place. Elderly people, people with kids there…and he SHOUTS? How can you dismiss it?

Crickey! This is bonkers behaviour. I would go shopping without him. Too embarrassing.

It is much worse. He bullies and shouts.

I assume if people are scuffling for discounted food they are in genuine need. Your husband sounds like a complete dick.

what a spiteful nasty thing to do.

believable - that someone would be horrible enough to do this
not believable - that someone else has to ask if it’s ok or not

I've seen a full scale punch up at Sainsbury's over discounted meat. To be fair the bargains can be great. I'll probably take a left hook for a £2 lamb shank.

This can’t be true? Any of it?

Either he's a massive arsehole with a streak of selfishness that is too profound to tolerate and you shouldn't be in a relationship with him, or he is mentally unwell, and possibly traumatised from being deprived of food as a punishment when growing up such that the acquisition of food feels like love?

Yes he totally does that.

God this is horrible. Yeah it's uncouth for people to be pushing desperste to get cheap food. Because they're people so poor that they need it.

He enjoys bullying that specific group of people. And shouts at people over food in the supermarket.

It's horrible.

He is nothing but a bully. How can you stay with him?

I suppose I was dismissing it because it doesn't seem much worse than the pushing everyone else is doing

He's taking things out of people's fucking trolleys. What do you mean?!

Is he just always such an arsehole bully that you've become accustomed to excusing it?

I worked evenings in a large supermarket at 16 (20+ years ago) and we would get followed by the same 8 or 9 people every single evening who came in to snatch the final reductions. They had tactics, such as taking early reductions off the shelf, wandering around for hours and then bringing it back to the shelf for the 10pm reductions where things would go down to 10p. They regularly fought amongst themselves to grab things, and occasionally involved innocent customers just picking up a one off bargain. I was once scratched badly when they regulars started grabbing bags of apples off my reduction cart.

I don’t know what each of their financial statuses were, but they couldn’t possibly have been eating all the reduced bakery goods, fruits, etc that they were grabbing by themselves. They filled huge trollies every evening. One night, a regular woman bought a whole trolley full of dead, wilted flowers for pennies. I wondered if it was a mental illness that possessed them to grab and horde cheap food.

“I don’t even know why he does it when we’re not exactly short of money”

The other people waiting for the discounted goods presumably are short of money, so what kind of sick kick is your husband getting out of this. I am really quite baffled that you had to ask this question. It’s awful behaviour. He’s awful (given you say you don’t need the discounted items).

Most people that try desperately to get the massively discounted food are on a very low income. People pushing to try and get to the food before other people isn't great but is very different from stealing stuff from other people's trolleys.

Your DH doesn't need the discounted food as he isn't short of money. He is shouting at complete strangers when he is the one who has done something wrong. He sounds absolutely horrible and 'being kind most of the time' doesn't balance the scales in his favour. In fact, I really doubt that someone who does this is generally kind most of the time. He sounds like a psychopath and you must die with embarassment if you are with him when he does this.

Have you told him to stop?

What a psychopath

Why the fuck are you playing it down - "not great" !!!!!!

It's fucking APPALLING and if I were the store manager I'd ban both of you from ever shopping there again!

How can you bear the shame of being with such a total bullying, stealing PRICK?

WTF is wrong with the two of you?

His behaviour is awful and I don’t understand why you’re not more angry. Shouting at people to bully them into being quiet isn’t ok.

I wonder, does he shout at men who challenge him? Or does he just take things from and shout at women?

If you’re with him when he does this you need to call him out on it and take the items out of your trolley and give them back!

That's no way this is real.

Quite a few odd posts since last night.