AIBU to think DH should stop taking discounted food out of peoples trolleys.

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This happens every time we're in Tescos on a Sunday and they put the discounted stuff from the bakery out. Lots of customers surround the racks and DH just waits outside pushing each other over the goods and DH just waits a couple metres away then takes the goods out of peoples trolleys and shouts at people if they try taking it back.

AIBU to think he is completely in the wrong here, even if he other customers are pushing each other? I don't even know why he does it when we're not exactly short of money.

They all earn six figure salaries don't they?
Its almost uncanny

This is so bizarre!

What does he do with the food? Take it for himself? Does he do this to more than one person at a time?

He is essentially bullying people because I bet he doesn't do it to blokes bigger than him!

What a prick!

His upbringing shouldn't be an excuse for him to be an a-hole. You don't know anyone's upbringing that he steals from. He has to stop finding excuses to be a bully towards others. He might be good to you but that doesn't make him a good person if he behaves like that. I was brought up with very little too and in not very nice circumstances but I would never excuse poor behavior on my upbringing , by contrary, it made me more empathetic towards those in more need than me.
He needs to grow up and stop blaming his childhood for his poor behaviour.

This isn't a 'quirk', it's being a bullying, entitled arsehole. Having a bad childhood doesn't give you a free pass to bully others. And why is he not scared of being hit? Does the big brave man only steal from women?

What a prince amongst men he is! My friend used to depend on the discounted items as she had fallen on hard times but now she’s solvent again leaves them for people who need it.

Nothing wrong with buying reduced items on a higher wage, I can guarantee that not everyone jostling for the marked down goods is on the poverty line. BUT there's a sort of unwritten code - you don't take all the goods and leave other shoppers without if it is for personal use (fine if you are sharing with other members of your family or giving to an organisation such as a homeless charity.
Irrespective of what you have, how much or how little, you only take from the shelves. The items in someone's trolley are off limits, that is their space. It doesn't matter that the goods have yet to be paid for, OP's husband is violating someone else's space and yelling at them for objecting.
Personally I would refuse to shop with the man, and would do everything I could to stop him shopping at mark down time!

You have a crazy husband but you are disappointed in other people's replies 🤔 I think that you are in serious denial about the whole situation.

He's a dick and you aren't much better if you aren't calling him out on it. Imagine how many people carry on with their shopping, thinking they have bread etc covered cos they put the item in their trolley then don't notice until the tills or, worse, and quite likely, when they get home? Absolute knobhead.
I hope this is rage bait because I find one idiot doing it infuriating. If I saw someone do that to someone else I round draw attention to it too.
Tell him to stop.

I could not be married to that kind of person.

People are literally on the bones of their arses and that food could help feed a family for 2 days (loaf of bread). Some people have nothing. What an absolute twat!

Some people are struggling so much for money that yes they shove for the yellow labeled stuff. OPs DH is out of order

You don't seem to recognise just how unhinged and utterly bizarre this behaviour is.

And the fact he makes 6 figures and is stealing from people whose families might be in desperate need is repulsive. Seriously, do better, both of you.

I’d be mortified if that was my husband, he wouldn’t do it a second time believe me!

He just sounds like a complete asshole tbh. Does he have any redeeming features or are you just married to a complete twat?

If this is true, your DH is both weird and nasty. Not someone I’d want in my life, even as an acquaintance!

Is this post for real. If so then your husband is a complete arsehole. I totally would not be shopping with him because quite frankly he's an embarrassment. You say you can afford not to shop for reduced items yet he's taking them from people who may genuinely need that saving. He's being selfish and needs telling about himself. I'm surprised nobody's pulled him up about this ridiculous behaviour already

Ok first of all let's be clear, your DH is a dick for doing this. I would suggest shaming him publicly every time he does it, "I'm sorry DH likes to steal" loudly. He will be livid. Keep doing it.

I suspect from your post that his actions may stem from his tough childhood in care where he will have watched others his age have everything, a loving family, and he had nil. Now he resents missing out on something that "should" be available to him. Also likely easy targets for his bullying behaviour.

Call him out in public. Don't apologise for this. Say he is a dick.

@SunnyViper He might not be worried about getting hit but he will do one day.
Especially if he gets a thump in the mouth, and he loses a tooth or three. How will he eat his stolen bread then?😬

Presumably he’s fine if people help themselves to stuff out of your trolley too rather than going to the actual shelves to get stuff. If not then he’s fully aware that he’s being an arsehole.

He’s on £100k, you live in a Mad Max area where it’s normal for people to fight for stale bread every day, and he then fights them for it?

Hmmmm.

Your husband is a cock

Who is he to judge granted lots are greedy but he has no idea of someone's circumstances. And that's just plain weird. I hope someone wacks him one, surely it makes him just as bad. I personally CBA with the faff of any of it and stay clear. He needs to get out more, I'd hit the roof I'f my husband did that!

I'll be kind and say that you are both a lot more damaged by your childhoods, than you realise. but luckily can afford counselling. As for him getting hit, if it was someone's trolley that I was with and you defended him, I'd skull rag you out the door. There's no way that he isn't a bully in work etc. I doubt your relationship is a healthy one, but he might be what you need or will settle with, because of your psychiatric situation. Because of both your pasts, you think you can justify your behaviour, I wonder how far your DH will go with that. I hope that he thinks the rules of the road apply to him. You are two people who most definitely shouldn't have children until you address your issues.

He sounds like he’s doing to get a reaction from other customers. He doesn’t NEED to, he shouts and uses his voice to back others down and isn’t scared of a physical altercation- he’s a bully. You sound like you know what he’s doing is wrong but you still like it.

What sort of replies did you expect, out of curiosity?

Im even more worried that he doesn’t care if he gets hit over some cheap baked goods. That’s not normal . It’s not clever or big to take from other people who may need it more when you clearly don’t. Poor taste