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To think this photo is not appropriate to advertise a dress?

277 replies

TheGoodEnoughWife · 21/03/2025 18:49

Is it just my raging feminist thoughts with this photo that is being used as one of the pictures of a dress offered for sale on a high street store website. Is this appropriate? I don't think it is but one might say that that is my weird view and actually it is a perfectly okay pic? (!)
I think it looks like a 'come fuck me' picture and that is not okay?!

To think this photo is not appropriate to advertise a dress?
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Riversof0tter5 · 21/03/2025 19:25

People seem to be putting their hands over or on or at their crotch in photos nowadays. Even political photos. The world needs a wee.

Gettingbysomehow · 21/03/2025 19:26

All these models have such gigantic feet. That's all I can think of when I look at these pics.

AInightingale · 21/03/2025 19:27

Is that even a woman? (like, the real kind).

Evaka · 21/03/2025 19:27

That's how I generally sit because I couldn't be fucked crossing my legs to be ladylike. A woman sitting with legs open is only sexual if you make it so.

pinkyredrose · 21/03/2025 19:27

Failing to see a problem with the pic.

Tagyoureit · 21/03/2025 19:28

That photo is not screaming "come fuck me" at all.

"I'm fucking knackered", maybe

Ddakji · 21/03/2025 19:28

I’m pretty rad fem and all I think about that picture is that it’s pretty ugly and does nothing for either dress or model.

nonevernotever · 21/03/2025 19:28

Love the fact that if you click on the m and s link posted above it tells you that the dress is popular and that 48 other people are looking at it now 🤣. My money is on all 49 of us being Mumsnetters

TitsInAbsentia · 21/03/2025 19:28

I def don't see a fm pose but am constantly wtf at the poses of models for clothes do now...and I realise it's only them following directions but jeez...so unflattering and also don't show the clothes in a practical light at all.

Moonlightdust · 21/03/2025 19:28

Awful angle and as others have said it looks more like she is sitting on the toilet 😆

hereismydog · 21/03/2025 19:30

You’re absolutely right.

I find terrible posture and enormous feet irresistible.

Lilifer · 21/03/2025 19:30

It looks like a trans women, and that's how a man would sit

TheGoodEnoughWife · 21/03/2025 19:31

I did say it might just be me! Good point about her looking like she is on the toilet.

I just felt the picture was off in some way. I still do. I think I would prefer to look at a picture of the dress taken in the way I might be in actual life and I don't think I ever sit like this (unless maybe having a wee!)

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MistyGray · 21/03/2025 19:31

Gettingbysomehow · 21/03/2025 19:26

All these models have such gigantic feet. That's all I can think of when I look at these pics.

What's wrong with big feet though? I'm finding the comments about how big her feet are really uncomfortable. I have size 8s and for most of my teenage life really struggled with the 'stigma' of having big feet, as though this was something I chose to have. Would you be so quick to comment on the size of their nose? Or their ears? It's very judgemental 😞

JoyousEagle · 21/03/2025 19:32

I don’t think it’s inappropriate. But I hate websites that show their clothes with ridiculous poses where you can’t actually see them properly. Show it from the front, and from the back, on a woman standing normally.

Lilifer · 21/03/2025 19:33

It's a man in the photo

Styleislost · 21/03/2025 19:33

It seems, you believe a woman who doesn’t sit with her knees together is automatically saying ‘come fuck me’? I don’t believe that’s a feminist stance to be honest

The picture is shit. Doesn’t show off the dress at all. But no, it’s a not a ‘come fuck me’ photo at all.

AgnesX · 21/03/2025 19:33

Not remotely come fuck me. Not a very attractive pose/picture and does buggerall for the garment (but then what do I know about fashion).

Ladamesansmerci · 21/03/2025 19:33

Just because a woman isn't sat perfectly poised with her legs crossed, it doesn't mean she wants sex. I think the angle is weird, but I suspect they're just trying to show off her legs in the dress or something.

Riversof0tter5 · 21/03/2025 19:34

I am having unfeminist thoughts about the dress not being ironed

MemorableTrenchcoat · 21/03/2025 19:34

TheGoodEnoughWife · 21/03/2025 19:31

I did say it might just be me! Good point about her looking like she is on the toilet.

I just felt the picture was off in some way. I still do. I think I would prefer to look at a picture of the dress taken in the way I might be in actual life and I don't think I ever sit like this (unless maybe having a wee!)

But why do you think she’s inviting someone to fuck her? Because her legs are apart?

cloudbusting123 · 21/03/2025 19:34

I would say she’s in a typically male pose, she looks like she’s mansoreading I would argue it was feminist advertising.

Arcticrival · 21/03/2025 19:34

Jeez go and look at the wonderbra ads in the 90s. Hello boys. That's 'come fuck me' .

This looks like a woman with big feet on the loo

Qmalrg · 21/03/2025 19:34

Weird photo. Don’t understand today’s world.

TinyKittenPaw · 21/03/2025 19:34

MemorableTrenchcoat · 21/03/2025 18:51

Come fuck me? That awkward, unflattering pose does not strike me as particularly alluring.

Or the dress itself!