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So, who is going to employ all these disabled people the government wants to wean of welfare

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Jimisnotmyname · 18/03/2025 16:14

Really wondering. Not saying it is necessarily a bad thing to encourage those who can work, to work but as a carer for 2 disabled family members, I am hugely struggling to find another job as nobody is willing to give me any flexibility (which I need as a carer) and there are always candidates who do not need the same accomodations I do. I would imagine that many of those currently not in work because of disability or a health condition, will often need a similar level of flexibility. I just wonder who on the the government think will offer jobs galore on these circumstances??

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Jimmyneutronsforehead · 18/03/2025 19:56

BobbyBiscuits · 18/03/2025 16:48

That's what I'm.thinking. many people if they could just about manage work it would maybe only be able to be for two hours at a time, a couple times a week. And they couldn't guarantee they'd be well even on those specific days. So they'd kind of need to just be able to just literally choose when they work without being penalised? No employer would accept such an arrangement. Nor would the work pay sufficient wages to sustain someone to have a vaguely decent standard of living.

This is me.

I did work part time for a long time on set days and that reduction was my employers reasonable adjustment.

I thought it would help. It's a routine. But it actually didn't help at all. It didn't stop the sensory overwhelm, the extreme emotional dysregulation that lead to suicide attempts, the fatigue, the being hunted for sport levels of stress when something cropped up and meetings had to be rescheduled or half way through the day I'd have something unscheduled thrown at me.

I tried telling my boss it's making me unwell, but I got the "everyone else gets on with it fine" line.

I couldn't cope when systems changed or when they brought in arbitrary new rules and processes because I have delayed processing.

No one would want to employ me because employing me would be a nightmare for both of us.

I get so stressed and exhausted that the bear I can do is force myself out of bed minutes before I'm due to log on, but I need time to acclimatise otherwise I will find every stimulus overwhelming, and everyone will get the short direct communication that is the most I can process and I will be called rude and unprofessional.

So which employer is going to let me be flexible with my days, start and end times as well as work part time and also take days off when I'm so overwhelmed that I head into a meltdown? None.

I can't cope in busy places, I can't cope where things change and I can't cope where there's the possibility of unscripted or spontaneous communication where I'm expected to be professional at all times.

They can take every penny I've got but it's not going to stop me being autistic.

RaininSummer · 18/03/2025 19:57

Icanthinkformyselfthanks · 18/03/2025 19:34

@Maitri108 , what is NMW work please?

National minimum wage. I also wonder what exactly is so horrifying about taking a min wage job especially since it will be around 12 pounds an hour by next month. The wage difference between that and many everyday pretty responsible jobs is now quite small. People need to stop being so entitled and thinking they deserve a particular job role especially if they dont have any experience, qualifications or training. And once once more, as we have to keep saying it, I dont mean people woth severe disabilities which would make work impossible.

Iwishicouldflyhigh · 18/03/2025 19:58

Maitri108 · 18/03/2025 19:49

Totes hilare. I don't want to live in a society where the disabled are scapegoated and forced to do jobs they have no choice over. You evidently do and are having a chuckle about it.

people with disabilities should do any job they are able to, I absolutely do not think they should be forced in to a job they can’t to, but why should they choose to get benefits and not work just because they don’t fancy the job? Clearly the Labour Party agree with me. .

but actually I wasn’t specifically referring to people with disabilities, but people in general.

and you present as being deliberately obtuse.

Maverickess · 18/03/2025 19:58

I posted this on another thread about the welfare bill, until the general public are accepting and tolerant of services being delivered differently, maybe a bit slower, maybe without eye contact or small talk because they're being delivered by people with disabilities or conditions that affect things like cognition, social interaction, speed, speech etc then all this is a hiding to nothing. As someone with a condition that affects speech and processing, who's always worked, I have been regularly subject to negativity, ridicule, humiliation and abuse. People won't tolerate the difference in me, my employer can be forged by legislation to do so, the users of the services, the customers, patients, guests - they cannot.

"Unfortunately my experience is that people don't want to be inconvenienced by the issues that I have. They shouldn't have to wait the few moments extra it takes me to formulate a response to them, they shouldn't have to have my issues 'inflicted' on them when they're a paying customer, my stuttering is not acceptable when it inconveniences someone else because I'm being paid to do a job. The few moments more it takes for me to process something and act, is unacceptable because I'm being paid to do a job. The reality is that being paid to do a job doesn't eliminate those issues. I wish that it did, it would make my life so much easier too!
I have always done jobs that haven't put me in that situation, and now I can't, I have worked on the issues that cause the problems, but short of a brain and body transplant, I can't resolve them completely.
I need to be working and contributing - but not anywhere that I may cause someone else a moments inconvenience, which is what I've done most of my working life, unfortunately I'm no longer physically able to do those roles.
So I'm now back to being unacceptable. I don't know where to go with that, I genuinely don't, and that's without the emotional side of being shoved away somewhere else so I don't inconvenience anyone. I genuinely don't know how to navigate it, how to resolve being unacceptable to continue to contribute as I must, as I want to.
The Pret thing is a good idea, it needs to be wider spread and given more air time, but it's a drop in the ocean. If we want disabled people, people with mental illness and other conditions out there contributing, we have to accept them so they can.
Telling them to get off their arses and work, but then telling them they're not good enough to do that work is counter productive. That's the attitude that needs to change so this can work for everyone.

GypsyQueeeen · 18/03/2025 19:59

Maitri108 · 18/03/2025 19:53

It's not that difficult to understand.

Scenario 1. Person needs work. Person finds vacancy. Person applies for vacancy. Person interviews. Person gets job.

Scenario 2. Person told to take job or lose benefits. Risks starvation, homelessness and making disability worse.

My suggestion is that if a person is capable of working, they're given support to find work they want to do/are capable of doing.

I understand that for some the workhouse is the ideal solution but they don't tend to have much intelligence.

This from a woman who says totes hilare.....🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️😂😂😂

I can't even 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

Icanthinkformyselfthanks · 18/03/2025 19:59

RaininSummer · 18/03/2025 19:57

National minimum wage. I also wonder what exactly is so horrifying about taking a min wage job especially since it will be around 12 pounds an hour by next month. The wage difference between that and many everyday pretty responsible jobs is now quite small. People need to stop being so entitled and thinking they deserve a particular job role especially if they dont have any experience, qualifications or training. And once once more, as we have to keep saying it, I dont mean people woth severe disabilities which would make work impossible.

@RaininSummer , entirely agree.

Dallidalli · 18/03/2025 19:59

Food for thought here:

People with physical disabilities but no cognitive impairment could work office based admin, working from home, online tutoring or homework help, call centres

People with mental illness but no physical health issues could work physical jobs maintaining gardens, parks, nature and public spaces.

People with both are exempt.

Something needs to change because believe it or not working people have to suck it up as well carrying everyone.

FruitPoppet · 18/03/2025 19:59

PumpkinSoup21 · 18/03/2025 19:55

Haven’t read the full thread. Just to say in case it hasn’t been said PIP IS NOT AN OUT OF WORK BENEFIT.
Apologies for the shouting. Being disabled is more expensive whether you are in work or not.

YES THIS!!!!

DimplesToadfoot · 18/03/2025 20:01

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In my case .... I wish!

SleeplessInWherever · 18/03/2025 20:01

Iwishicouldflyhigh · 18/03/2025 19:58

people with disabilities should do any job they are able to, I absolutely do not think they should be forced in to a job they can’t to, but why should they choose to get benefits and not work just because they don’t fancy the job? Clearly the Labour Party agree with me. .

but actually I wasn’t specifically referring to people with disabilities, but people in general.

and you present as being deliberately obtuse.

“Why should they choose to get benefits and not work.”

Jesus. Just out of interest are you, or anyone you care for, disabled?

In principle, people who are able to work, should.

But if we move the thresholds of “able to work,” some of those who are forced into the workplace will not actually be work ready, or even work suitable. It will cause huge upheaval for employers, absolute crisis for many disabled people, and in a lot of cases will not be doable.

Finetoday · 18/03/2025 20:02

Overtheatlantic · 18/03/2025 16:20

Care homes, local authorities and education institutions will offer more flexibility than regular corporate jobs.

Errr no they definitely don’t.

Puyyt · 18/03/2025 20:02

FruitPoppet · 18/03/2025 19:59

YES THIS!!!!

But how do people qualify for PIP if theyre able to work?

I can barley function/leave the house and i scraped by with the minimum points on each section.

If i told them i was able to go to work i feel like I would have got zero points on everything??

Its that strict.

BobbyBiscuits · 18/03/2025 20:02

Jimmyneutronsforehead · 18/03/2025 19:56

This is me.

I did work part time for a long time on set days and that reduction was my employers reasonable adjustment.

I thought it would help. It's a routine. But it actually didn't help at all. It didn't stop the sensory overwhelm, the extreme emotional dysregulation that lead to suicide attempts, the fatigue, the being hunted for sport levels of stress when something cropped up and meetings had to be rescheduled or half way through the day I'd have something unscheduled thrown at me.

I tried telling my boss it's making me unwell, but I got the "everyone else gets on with it fine" line.

I couldn't cope when systems changed or when they brought in arbitrary new rules and processes because I have delayed processing.

No one would want to employ me because employing me would be a nightmare for both of us.

I get so stressed and exhausted that the bear I can do is force myself out of bed minutes before I'm due to log on, but I need time to acclimatise otherwise I will find every stimulus overwhelming, and everyone will get the short direct communication that is the most I can process and I will be called rude and unprofessional.

So which employer is going to let me be flexible with my days, start and end times as well as work part time and also take days off when I'm so overwhelmed that I head into a meltdown? None.

I can't cope in busy places, I can't cope where things change and I can't cope where there's the possibility of unscripted or spontaneous communication where I'm expected to be professional at all times.

They can take every penny I've got but it's not going to stop me being autistic.

I'm so sorry you had to experience that. You obviously tried your very best to make it work. It's not your fault your not well.
The government seems to think they can just change the scoring system and that will magically cure all these debilitating illnesses. Either that or it's a genuine attempt at a mass cull. I have my suspicions.
It really isn't right at all what's being said.

Iwishicouldflyhigh · 18/03/2025 20:03

GypsyQueeeen · 18/03/2025 19:59

This from a woman who says totes hilare.....🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️😂😂😂

I can't even 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 but like, hun, it is totes hilare 😂😂

Autisticunemployable · 18/03/2025 20:03

DimplesToadfoot · 18/03/2025 19:30

@Winterbones

EVERYONE is one accident, one illness, one chronic condition away from being disabled.

How true is this, I went to work one day, left my house, my partner and thought nothing of it. Little did I know I would wake up in hospital with numerous broken bones after an armed robbery at work. Little did I know the robbers would go after my partner if I continued to testify against them, so because of me he was beaten up and while unconscious he was set on fire, killing him, the fire then burned my house down ... I'm sorry I didn't die too, I have to live knowing a man died because of me. And people think I chose this life

Im so sorry that is so awful Flowers

WinterBones · 18/03/2025 20:04

Dallidalli · 18/03/2025 19:59

Food for thought here:

People with physical disabilities but no cognitive impairment could work office based admin, working from home, online tutoring or homework help, call centres

People with mental illness but no physical health issues could work physical jobs maintaining gardens, parks, nature and public spaces.

People with both are exempt.

Something needs to change because believe it or not working people have to suck it up as well carrying everyone.

great.

I'd be scenario 1. Who's finding me an employer with a wheelchair accessible building? How about flexibile working from home? Happy for me to go nap for an hour in the afternoon, because i can't sit in an office chair all day, but might manage to sit in my wheelchair. Then there are the days out for all my medical appointments, the days i'm in so much pain i can barely move so would have to call in sick, or work from my bed around naps.

"physical disability" is a massive umbrella.

xanthomelana · 18/03/2025 20:06

satsumaqueen · 18/03/2025 19:39

I wouldn’t consider myself young, im in my 30s.

I appreciate your situation and by the sounds of it you won’t be affected by this change anyway and I certainly don’t object to anyone receiving a benefit they are entitled too.

However if you were affected, this is the way I am interpreting what you said - showering takes you 2 hours, okay, I get up at 6am every morning to get myself and my child ready. I take them to nursery and commute to work. I have to get up early so I can get to work on time. If it takes you 2 hours to shower then you could get up early or shower in the evening when you are home. I don’t have the physical disabilities you do, but I know it takes me X amount of time to get ready, and you know it takes you 2 hours so that’s the same.

You don’t need to wear leggings and a shirt to work, there are plenty of pull over tops and plenty of professional looking pull up trousers which work the same way as a leggings and a T-shirt. I know this because I wear them myself for work for the reasons below.

I was left incontenant after childbirth and I also suffer with IBS so I also understand the need to be near a toilet, it’s never been a issue to find a job where the toilet isn’t a miles walk away. Obviously a supermarket probably wouldn’t be suitable for you, but most offices or small retailers could be. Im currently pregnant so again I understand the nausea and dizziness albeit for a different reason, I just make sure I am sitting down. I also have concentration issues due to another condition so again I understand that to some extend, my employer is very supportive and allows me to take regular breaks (I have a shorter lunch to make up for those).

So the job you could do, very much sounds like mine. I also used to work for a bank, you would have had no issues working as a cashier or customer service advisor in a high street bank (although appreciate they are quite hard to come by nowadays). Receptionists, admin assistants, all of those types of jobs seem to be of a similar nature that could accommodate your needs.

Re transport, do you never leave the house to go shopping or anything like that? What do you do in everyday life? Not be sarcastic but interesting to understand if you are worried about your benefits potentially being cut that there must be a element you wouldn’t qualify for which is likely to be the day to day stuff so chances are you leave the house to go places? You can also get taxis or public transport if you don’t drive. I know people I work with who claim PIP that use that money to pay for taxis.

I’m not for one minute suggesting you should be working if you genuinely can’t but I hope you can see that there are potential solutions to problems if you look for them, and there are also many people working who have the similar if not the same problems that aren’t eligible for benefits, and still manage to go to work every day.

Wow. You do realise that one day it’s possible you could find yourself in this person’s position? Totally patronising and disrespectful response.

PumpkinSoup21 · 18/03/2025 20:06

Dallidalli · 18/03/2025 19:59

Food for thought here:

People with physical disabilities but no cognitive impairment could work office based admin, working from home, online tutoring or homework help, call centres

People with mental illness but no physical health issues could work physical jobs maintaining gardens, parks, nature and public spaces.

People with both are exempt.

Something needs to change because believe it or not working people have to suck it up as well carrying everyone.

Here’s some food for thought - mental and physical health are linked. It’s a bit weird to imply that many people will turn out to be eeyore-ish gardeners who brighten up with a bit of fresh air or jolly administrators who are able to sit and focus on a screen all day.

GypsyQueeeen · 18/03/2025 20:06

Iwishicouldflyhigh · 18/03/2025 20:03

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 but like, hun, it is totes hilare 😂😂

I know babes 😘😂😂😂

Iwishicouldflyhigh · 18/03/2025 20:07

SleeplessInWherever · 18/03/2025 20:01

“Why should they choose to get benefits and not work.”

Jesus. Just out of interest are you, or anyone you care for, disabled?

In principle, people who are able to work, should.

But if we move the thresholds of “able to work,” some of those who are forced into the workplace will not actually be work ready, or even work suitable. It will cause huge upheaval for employers, absolute crisis for many disabled people, and in a lot of cases will not be doable.

Jeez, will you please read ????

what bit of ‘if someone is able to do a job, why shouldn’t they do it?’ is me saying that someone should be forced to do a job that they can’t perform?

If someone has severe mobility problems, no they shouldn’t have to work stacking shelves, but they should have to accept a call centre job if offered (or Lose their benefits).

satsumaqueen · 18/03/2025 20:08

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SleeplessInWherever · 18/03/2025 20:08

Dallidalli · 18/03/2025 19:59

Food for thought here:

People with physical disabilities but no cognitive impairment could work office based admin, working from home, online tutoring or homework help, call centres

People with mental illness but no physical health issues could work physical jobs maintaining gardens, parks, nature and public spaces.

People with both are exempt.

Something needs to change because believe it or not working people have to suck it up as well carrying everyone.

Of all those that are “carried” by working people, tax payers etc - we’re really focussing on the disabled?

I personally would happily continue to “suck it up” for the benefit of disabled people, and vulnerable people.

The amount of people actually able to work in this country, with absolutely no impairment, that don’t, is unbelievable. Fix that before we start sending disabled people down the mines.

CassandraWebb · 18/03/2025 20:09

Puyyt · 18/03/2025 19:48

Theyve said the waiting lists are long etc and id be better off doing an online CBT course as it 'just anxiety ' and depression.

Im not great at advocating for myself because of how I am .

It takes a lot for me to go and ask for help as i hate doctors and that type of setting.

You have to fight for anything more than basic mental health care and i just dont know how to do it i guess.

You explain it all very clearly on here. I am sure it you can copy and paste those explanations into an e consult a doctor will be putting a referral through quite swiftly.

evenbaddiesgetsaddies · 18/03/2025 20:10

Can’t add quote but to the person saying mental health should be gardening - no thanks, I work in mental health with sectioned adults and I wouldn’t trust them with a tin opener, let alone garden shears. There’d be deaths en masse.

Icanthinkformyselfthanks · 18/03/2025 20:11

WilmaFlintstone1 · 18/03/2025 16:44

I’m autistic with ADHD. I hold down a job and don’t need or claim any benefits.
My son has the same neurodivergent brain as me but he has moderate learning difficulties.

‘At 18 he was nowhere near enough ready for the world of work. At age 22 he now might be. For me the big change I wanted to see is there…..he can try working in a job without losing his benefits to see if he’s employable. If he’s not then everything stays the same. This is a change which has been long needed.

im hoping though to see some structure around supporting young people in my son’s position. He won’t cope in care homes, hospitals or education places but he might in a supermarket or as a farm helper.

@WilmaFlintstone1 , I gather there is to be a right to try approach built into the process where people can try a job without fear of losing their benefits. I hope this can help your son.

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