To hate it when people "help" me with the pram

[willywallaby]

Ugh, just a rant! I get my pram on and off buses every day, I know how to do it. People help me without even asking, all the time. Like I've wheeled the back of it onto the street and someone will take the front and lift it down for me but it's always a surprise and I lose my footing. Quite often they don't put it down gently so baby gets SLAMMED down. Today I had wheeled the back wheels off of the bus, and a man lifted the front end so we were hovering in the air and I didn't know how to continue. So for the first time ever I said please can you put my pram down, I don't need help. And I had to insist a couple of times because he was so confused I didn't want help!

You are being horrible. People are being helpful and you want to bitch. Just tell them thanks but no thanks and flash a big smile.

What a nasty attitude.

OMG, the cunts.

You sound like an ungrateful twat actually. I’m sure your baby will recover from the CAPITAL SLAMMING it got.

What a ray of sunshine you are on this dull afternoon

“people are too nice, and trying to be helpful” bunch of bastards

I'm happy for people offer to help! But they pick up my pram without asking, why is that fine?

Saying please can you put the pram down isn’t horrible, if it was a dad telling someone they didn’t need help you wouldn’t suggest they accompany their request with a big smile (and there’s nothing to suggest OP didn’t actually smile!)

Reeks of ‘smile love it might never happen’

I do think it’s rude for people to assume you need help but equally they are trying to be nice.

I hear the opposite from women complaining how few people are willing to help.

I always ask first though.

It’s not, I’m with you - if someone asked can I help them fine but just grabbing the pram stuff could fall out of bags and all sorts, it’s just polite to ask if someone wants/needs help.

I agree with you OP! To offer help is one thing but to assume is different.

No good deed goes unpunished and all that.

Jeez - I was always grateful for help. 🤷‍♀️

If you visit London you might be pleased when random Londoners pick your pram up and carry it up 40 steps!

Miserable attitude OP.

And as for 'slammed down' 🙄

People are (purposefully?) confusing kind offers of help with surprise pram grabbing. The former is lovely and to be encouraged, the latter is rude and unhelpful, I hate it too OP!

Nobody wants people randomly grabbing their most precious and vulnerable thing, why would they?!

I suspect people are often 'helping' in order to speed you up or get you out of the way anyway. When I want to help somebody I always talk to them first, its normal!

I understand what you are saying but your way of explaining has the tone of someone who thinks these people are out to get you or doing something awful. Are you this confrontational when people actually try and help you? A polite ‘no I’m fine on my own but thanks for the offer’ would suffice rather than getting quite so angry about people who think they are doing good. I no longer have prams but was always grateful of the offer as an act of kindness even if I said I was fine on my own.

Quite often they don't put it down gently so baby gets SLAMMED down.

🙄😂

God I love it when someone helps, I get all fumbly with the pram under pressure on public transport and there’s normally a big step up or down from the train to platform or the bus has stopped miles from the curb.

A lovely man helped me carry it up an entire flight the other day when I got to the station and realise it had no lift.

Why am I getting so many laughs about my use of the phrase "slammed down"? Yes quite often people will lift the pram off for me and then drop it from a height. I agree with PP who says they're probably just trying to hurry me along faster.

Always always grateful for help with the pram. My children were never “slammed”.

Are you always this dramatic and hard work?

Threads like this make me sad.

People are trying to be kind and to be met with this sort of contempt will stop them offering help to anyone any more and I think that is a bad thing in general.

Because it made it you sound a right div. That’s why it’s funny.

I’m with you. It doesn’t make sense for the pram to get raised higher when the ground is lower. They should have asked first anyway.

How miserable.

People are generally very nice and want to help