I do understand how awful it is when the life you have worked for and plans for your children suddenly go awry. After a sudden redundancy, I had to pull my child (SEND child) out of a tuition centre. We couldn’t afford it and I felt like I’d let them down.
But I can see why the government chose to levy VAT on school fees. The tax system as a whole isn’t very progressive and the ship is having to turn given the scale of need.
A tax is progressive when rates increase with our ability to pay. Private school VAT is effectively progressive because it’s a voluntary expenditure and on average is chosen by the relatively richer.
A progressive tax isn't about taxing some people and not others. The core principle is that taxes are universal, though levied at different rates on different income bands/activities/assets in the interest of minimising economic pain while keeping the overall tax system as fair as possible.
The exemption wasn’t removed to punish anyone or shut schools down, but because it was increasingly unfair and anomalous. The no-frills tuition centre that my child went to was VAT-registered already, because it wasn’t exempt.
The country has to raise money to protect us all against major external threats and sort out infrastructure so the economy can start to pick up.
I really do feel sympathy for people whose plans have been up-ended. So many are struggling - people who can’t afford a second child gambling with their fertility by waiting until their first child is in school to try for another. People who can’t get any social care help, people hit by Universal Credit mistakes, people paying impossible rents with no other option, people on long NHS waiting lists.
Pretty much everyone is finding it tough right now - we're genuinely in it together.