Would you consider this “having stuffed yourself all day”

[ThatJolly]

I was talking to a friend and she accused me of competitive underrating, which i certainly was not doing! I referred to my eating as having stuffed my face all day and she told me to get a grip and she found what I said triggering!

What I ate:

• Scrambled eggs (2 eggs) with veggies toasted sarnie
• Beans on toast (2 slices)
• Half a carton of precut pineapple
• chicken wings and celery with hot sauce
• a child’s plate of ravioli and homemade cheese sauce (this was on top off my dinner and purely a craving, I was full so it was very much not needed)

I went to bed uncomfortably stuffed. So to me i did “stuff my face all day”

What do you think?

wow some friend!!

@BlueBatsAndBakewellTarts

she just wants less bread today after eating plenty of carbs yesterday! This is just normal eating in moderation which most of us do. Very few of us just eat whatever we want! “Fast metabolism” is not that common in reality!

And certainly not “stuffing your face”.

I'd also say 2 scrambled egg and toast perfectly normal sized breakfast. beans on toast a small to normal lunch. Chicken wings and a side of pasta a good sized but not ridiculous dinner...

Ah...but not if you're only 5 ft 2....
Which isn't that small I'd actually think?

Four slices of bread is not some bizarrely huge, gluttonous amount.

I was all ready to say you ANBU, but then reading your updates I suspect it was all in the delivery.

You ate what a lot of people would consider a normal amount of food. For you it was too much, and that’s fine. But you seem incredulous to the idea that anyone would consider that normal, repeatedly pointing out the calorie count, and that you did no exercise that day, and ate a lot of bread. That is pretty much the definition of competitive undereating.

wouldn't be enough for me either, (and I am short) maybe I am greedy? but don't think so. I do weigh more that you tho but still look relatively slim.

some people have smaller appetites and that's ok!

I do see her point tho - I had a friend who used to say things like that and it was quite grating.

You've asked people if it's a lot, the vast majority have said no its not and then in every message back you've just tried to convince everyone that they are wrong.

Maybe just acknowledge that you do eat less than most people and that's fine if that's what you want but I don't see why it's a debate anymore. Well done your probably nice and trim 🤷‍♀️

Your friend may get easily triggered by what other people eat and how they talk about it, whatever the objective facts about whether what you did counts as 'stuffing your face'. Another time if she questions you, you could try saying, Oh, let's not talk about food. How's your DH getting on in his new job? or whatever. Almost anything you say about your eating could trigger her.

Well that’s the problem right there! I can’t believe you’re only now mentioning the brick.

The old drip feed

It sounds like a lot for me. To maintain my healthy weight I can only really eat 1 main meal 1 smaller meal. I also don’t snack.

I don’t get hungry as I’ve trained my body to expect this amount of food. I’d be stuffed if I ate all that too

Well I also know the intention behind saying “I stuffed my face” and it wasn’t for external validation/praise. It’s how I felt when I was in bed

Is your friend overweight and eats more than that daily?

She said 'go on, tell me what you ate' in a "condescending manner" would suggest that you maybe talk about food and what you eat a lot. Maybe your friend is internally eye rolling when you say comments like 'oh I'm stuffed' and thinks 'here she goes again...banging on about food again' so called you out on it. I'm also guessing that she is larger than you.

No, I wouldn't consider what you ate to have 'stuffed all day long'. When someone says they've 'stuffed themselves all day long', and if they wanted to tell me what they'd eaten, I'd expect a list as long as your arm of food items.

You obviously feel that your friend is being unreasonable because she just so happens not to agree with what you consider 'stuffing all day long'. Her version of that doesn't align with yours and that's fine but I'm kind of getting the view that you're one of those people that say 'AIBU?' and the hive mind reply 'Yes/a bit' and you then say 'no I'm not'. Why ask the question if you feel you're not BU?😑

Yabu that isn't stuffing yourself, sorry

No you felt full in bed.
You can't feel like you stuffed your face all day that's not a sensation. You can feel full.
Anyway no you know it has those connotations you can word it differently so this thread has been useful!

No, because then she would have ordered something else with less carbs. She ordered NO food.

I can see how you might feel “stuffed” as there are a lot of foods that make some people feel bloated (as will your period), very little fruit and veg, plus you ate late in the day but I don’t think it is an exceptional amount of food worthy of mention. It also sounds less than it is because the things you ate are all quite snacky/light meals - a toastie, beans in toast, a child’s serving of pasta, chicken wings… People who go on about stuffing their face are pretty annoying though, especially if you do it when you’ve arranged to go out for lunch with a friend and don’t eat.

It doesn’t sound like stuffing yourself but if my friend said that to me I wouldn’t be offended. I’d just say ‘ha you think that’s stuffing yourself!’ Your friend sounds very sensitive - and I say that as someone bigger!

Just so you know that calorie count is “excluding” the bone not including

The MFP calories on your photo show 225 calories per 100g EXCLUDING bone. If the pack is 350g inc bone then the calories of the edible portion will be abput 560 (approx 67% of a chicken wing is edible - according to Google 😀).

No you felt very full or, if you prefer, stuffed. That's the feeling. You didn't feel 'stuffed my face', that was the choice of loaded phrase you chose to describe the actions, not the feeling.

Do you order food when you aren’t hungry?? We don’t HAVE to eat 3 meals - if you actually listen to your body and only eat when you are genuinely hungry - it’s a lot better for you.

It is so vulgar to talk about food - what happened to us? This vulgarity is all over the shop - multiple TV shows, it assaults us literally. Can't you find other conversations - to me 'I stuffed myself all day' can only be logically followed by 'I had a nice shit afterwards' - how low do we have to stoop?