Would you consider this “having stuffed yourself all day”

[ThatJolly]

I was talking to a friend and she accused me of competitive underrating, which i certainly was not doing! I referred to my eating as having stuffed my face all day and she told me to get a grip and she found what I said triggering!

What I ate:

• Scrambled eggs (2 eggs) with veggies toasted sarnie
• Beans on toast (2 slices)
• Half a carton of precut pineapple
• chicken wings and celery with hot sauce
• a child’s plate of ravioli and homemade cheese sauce (this was on top off my dinner and purely a craving, I was full so it was very much not needed)

I went to bed uncomfortably stuffed. So to me i did “stuff my face all day”

What do you think?

Doesn't sound a lot to me, especially if one of the dinners is kids sized.

What was the second dinner? The chicken wings or th ebeans on toast? I wouldn't consider either of those a proper dinner. Beans on toast is my light supper when I've had a late/big lunch. If I served just beans on toast as a main meal everyone aroudn here would be starving still - unless it was insane portion sizes.

Chicken wings, again, unless it'sa. massive portion isn't enough as a main meal unless it comes with something else.

@ThatJolly but it's not 2 dinners is it? Chicken wings and celery? Plus a 'childs plate' of ravioli. I bet if you put them together there would be less food and calories than plenty of people's main evening meal.

It definitely sounds like you had a need to be competitive. Why would you recall every detail of what you ate? Are you nice and slim and she a fatty bumbum?

It’s quite high calories though. Over 600
calories.

No it’s not stuffing your face.

you say “two dinners” but it’s a child’s portion of ravioli and some chicken wings. That is not two dinners, it’s a small starter and even smaller main, probably less calories than a “proper” dinner.

calorie wise it’s well under 2000 daily allowance. The face you refer to 4 slices of bread as if it’s some huge daily amount because you’re on your period says it all.

600 calories is not high for a main meal.

I’d eat two or three times that before I’d say I’ve stuffed myself 🤪

Ask her if she's a Mumsnetter.

Unless she starts calling you a 'teeny tiny', then you'll know for sure 🤣🤣

If you felt you’d had too much at dinner time you could have said “i had extra dinner to what I’d planned and now feel full” or “had two meals with bread which doesn’t agree with me so feeling a bit uncomfortable” that would be reasonable. But “stuffed your face all day” is more like “ate continuously and far too much plus things inbetween meals”.

You’ve barely eaten anything.

Toast
Eggs
Veggies
Beans
Chicken wings
Pasta

It’s hardly loads of food is it? 🙄

Friend asked. We met for a coffee and i didnt order a panini like i usually would cause i genuinely was not hungry. I told friend this and she said “go on, tell me what you ate”.

Very condescendingly too

Hard to say if that's even enough calories for an adult woman, depending on portion sizes. A chicken wing is only 43 calories and celery is basically zero. Beans on toast maybe 300 calories, Egg sandwich similar. Pineapple could be 100-200.

Err no, that’s not high at all.

Do you have issues around food?

Toast and eggs - breakfast
Toast and beans - lunch
A few pieces of pineapple - snack
Couple of chicken wings and celery - dinner
A small plate of ravioli - supper

A mean it sounds like a perfectly normal amount of food.
Your dinner of a few chicken wings isn't really a "proper" meal so the ravioli balances that out.

Given that was spaced out over what, 12? hours I'm surprised you went to bed feeling so stuffed and I wouldn't consider it stuffing your face.

Do you have a habit of making it clear how small a portion you eat / oh gosh I couldn't eat everything you have / ooh today I had half a lettuce leaf and my flat taut stomach is now SO fat etc?

Btw im only 5 ft 2

To me, “stuffing myself all day” would be;

• full cooked breakfast
• mid-morning tea and cake
• jacket potato for lunch, with tuna, cheese and beans
• afternoon fruit/snacks
• dinner that is two courses
• post dinner-chocolates

And then when I got in bed and couldn’t sleep and felt huge I’d be like “yup; you’ve been stuffing yourself all day!”

What I’d say you have done is eaten barely enough calories for an adult and just feel bloated and uncomfortable because it’s the wrong stuff for you

I ate the whole thing

I mean no I wouldn't consider that as having stuffed my face- 4 slices of bread is not a massive amount, 600 calories is not a high calorie meal, and a child's plate of ravioli is not exactly a second dinner- put together with the chicken wings and celery would make it 1 fairly light dinner.

It's the phrase stuffing your face all day. Makes it
sound like eating is gross and unnecessary. Which it isn't. There isn't really any need to use that phrase. You can just say you felt too full. That doesn't put judgement on eating.

Which was the second dinner? Is chicken wings dinner?

I wouldn’t consider that stuffing your face, but I also think your friend is being unreasonable to ask you to list everything you’ve eaten and then grumble that it’s triggering.

4 slices of bread isn't "shit" it's just bread. Do you often go on about food maybe your friend doesn't really want to hear how stuffed you are after what looks like just usual amounts of food,and hardly stuffing yourself.

So you met for a late coffee on the day you'd eaten that? What time did you eat? I'm confused if you ate all that and then met at a time you'd normally grab food, so say you'd eaten it all by 4, then you'd obviously feel fuller than if you eaten it all across 14 waking hours

The ravioli was eaten after I had had my dinner. I ate the kids leftovers. And I was literally stuffed to the brim when I ate it. Just tasted good so I indulged. I could have burst

Probably best not to discuss food with her going forward.

My MIL makes statements like this - it's usually a dig at everyone else- and on very rare occasions someone asks her what she eaten she leaves off the snacks and super ie forth meal of the day. So she actually wanting to be told her consuption is not a lot or possible ashamed of what she has consumed so downplays.

I tend to ignore it all - including the very obvious I can't possible have that to smallest item accompanied with huge fuss - but you go ahead crap she pulls - sometime accompanied with I wish I could care less about weight and let myself go spiel - depends who you are - I don't tend to get that anymore as I had comment all though pg and bf years and had come backs.

It's possible your friend has someone in her life like that and hasn't worked out it's best to ignore it all rather than get drawn in.