Would you consider this “having stuffed yourself all day”

[ThatJolly]

I was talking to a friend and she accused me of competitive underrating, which i certainly was not doing! I referred to my eating as having stuffed my face all day and she told me to get a grip and she found what I said triggering!

What I ate:

• Scrambled eggs (2 eggs) with veggies toasted sarnie
• Beans on toast (2 slices)
• Half a carton of precut pineapple
• chicken wings and celery with hot sauce
• a child’s plate of ravioli and homemade cheese sauce (this was on top off my dinner and purely a craving, I was full so it was very much not needed)

I went to bed uncomfortably stuffed. So to me i did “stuff my face all day”

What do you think?

@TheCurious0range

thats not an eating disorder. Most people will try to have a healthier day if they’ve just had an unhealthier day, so perfectly fine for op to have less bread or whatever the day after

That would be a lot of food for me in a day but does happen on period days.

anyone who thinks two meals made up of two slices of bread and then a pasta dish isn’t a lot of food is eating more than they need to.

@Nottsandcrosses

it’s more than that

600 calories for a dinner is not high in calories.

If you ate 3 x 600 that's less than lots of people would need to maintain their weight, and most people's breakfast / lunch is smaller.

The fact you know how many calories are in it and call 600 high tells me everything I need to know about your disordered eating.

Saying child's plate could make it sound like competitive under eating. What you ate sounds like a normal day's worth of food, certainly not stuffing your face.

I am 5ft (BMI 20) and if I had eaten what you had done, I would feel full but not stuffed. I think your friend probably inwardly rolled her eyes at you because it is an exaggeration to say stuffed. Sounds like you are obsessive about food intake? Why are you using MyFitnessPal?

This sums it up ⬆️

This. Bit weird.

It was just very carby. I usually have toast with my breakfast as I don’t feel full otherwise but I try to avoid it for lunch as it leaves me sluggish. It’s rare for me not to eat carbs at dinner but I definitely try to make it a complex carb not shit white, supermarket bread.

I went to sleep with a brick in my gut

Yes but they don’t obsess over it which the OP has - a simple I don’t fancy a panini today would suffice but the OP believes she has stuffed herself and now has a whole thread on it

Yes, OP, that sounds like a lot for one day.

I think most people have lost sight of reasonable, moderate portion sizes.

Yes she did. But she is describing that totally normal amount of food as “stuffing her face all day”

@ThatJolly this coffee with your friend happened the day after you had “gone to bed uncomfortably stuffed” yes? And you were explaining why you didn’t want a panini?

Do you regularly talk about your food intake in this dramatic way? Does your friend have a weight problem? It does sound like you were being performative and criticising her.

No, what does a normal day look like for you?

I just downloaded it to see how many calories I ate

I'd agree with you. Not because I think it but because I would have clocked your agenda and I wouldn't go along with your nonsense.

My Mum does this 'stuffed my face' mantra and the 'I won't need to eat again today'. I ignore it but, if pushed to respond, will - and not in the way that she wanted.

People (mostly women) are odd about food. You're odd about it, OP and perhaps your friend is too. It's exhausting and oh so very obvious. I've noticed your subsequent posts on this thread... distraction attempts, but they're not working.

Be well. Eat what you want/need, nobody needs a run down.

OP, I think the problem is you described what many people see as an average amount of food as ‘stuffing your face’. So it can be seen as a judgement on a person who regularly eats that amount.

I am heavier than my friend and wear clothes 2 sizes larger. Invariably, if we shop together, she suggests I buy something in a smaller size than I need because it has to fit, ‘it’s simply enormous!!!’ (She genuinely believes this.)
Of course it never fits. And I feel bad because I’m extra, extra enormous apparently.
(I’ve stopped following her suggestions now, don’t worry.)

This situation reminds me of that. Is your friend heavier than you by any chance?

I’m wondering if the friend is concerned about what OP is eating and whether it is enough. Not having a panini at lunchtime because you ate a normal amount of calories the day before is a little concerning, no?

So if you have two slices of toast for breakfast

A sandwich for lunch

Pasta for dinner

Which is what MILLONS of normal sized children and adults have probably several days a week

That's more food than you need? It could be as little as 1000 calories.

Kindly engage with reality.

Chicken wings and celery is not a dinner on its own.

You have eaten a reasonable amount over the day. It is not ‘stuffing yourself’.
People do have issues with food, so be aware of the language you use around it.
My anorexic room mate used to always talk about how she’d ’stuffed herself’ at lunch time (to avoid a shared dinner in the evening). Language like that is definitely for those with EDs.

Two sandwiches and a main meal, plus the ravioli, is quite a bit in one day unless the eater does heavy labour.

Why do you need to list the food you have eaten to your friend?

TicTok is full of competitive eaters. I couldn’t tell you what I ate for breakfast this morning never mind list my whole days consumption yesterday.

You could just say that you have over eaten today without the need to back it up. If you normally survive on 3 cups of coffee and a couple of lettuce leaves then yes what you ate was excessive. But what you ate was probably calorie deficient so somewhat irrelevant.

I was fully expecting the list to include a Big Mac, large fries, wrap of the day and 20 chicken nuggets ( which is incidentally is my DS20’s regular order at MacDonalds, it will keep him going for a couple of hours).

Competitive eating is seen as an early sign of eating disorders. Taking paracetamol to get rid of hunger pains is another. Do you want a medal for you constraint?

I mean, this. But you'll get a lot of people agreeing with you here. This is the home of the massive salad and never ending chicken, after all.

If we’re splitting hairs, I wouldn’t call that stuffing yourself all day, because you didn’t do it at breakfast and lunch. You could say you stuffed yourself at dinner, because you continued eating once you were full, which to me would be basically the definition of “stuffing”.
I also wouldn’t call what you ate to be competitive undereating. It seems like a normal amount of food, plus a second smaller dinner which you didn’t need because you were full.

OP I think you're conflating two different things between whether anyone would consider this 'stuffing your face all day' and if it was slightly over your own maintenance calories for the day.
The latter sounds like it's factually accurate, mostly because chicken wings are a fairly high calorie way of eating chicken. The former though is much more subjective and as you can see from the replies you're getting, most people wouldn't consider it 'stuffing' (which, yes, is quite a problematic way to describe eating in itself).
For me 'stuffing all day' would involve far more grazing. Biscuits with a morning coffee, cake in the afternoon etc. Those Christmas period days when there are Quality Street, nuts and cheese on the go all day.
You've just described three not amazingly balanced meals and some fruit. While 'triggering' might be an over reaction - impossible for us to know without knowing your friend's history with food - using a phrase like 'stuffing your face' and then describing a pretty normal days meals may well be quite confronting.

I wouldn’t say you ate 4 meals. It’s 3 meals and 2 snacks if the meals are Scrambled eggs veggies sandwich, beans on toast and chicken wings, and snacks are a small portion of ravioli and pineapple.