Would you consider this “having stuffed yourself all day”

[ThatJolly]

I was talking to a friend and she accused me of competitive underrating, which i certainly was not doing! I referred to my eating as having stuffed my face all day and she told me to get a grip and she found what I said triggering!

What I ate:

• Scrambled eggs (2 eggs) with veggies toasted sarnie
• Beans on toast (2 slices)
• Half a carton of precut pineapple
• chicken wings and celery with hot sauce
• a child’s plate of ravioli and homemade cheese sauce (this was on top off my dinner and purely a craving, I was full so it was very much not needed)

I went to bed uncomfortably stuffed. So to me i did “stuff my face all day”

What do you think?

Not sure why you’re being vaguely rude about this.

I don’t think I’m being rude at all, vaguely or otherwise. You basically said the 2000 calorie recommendation was a crock of shit, but you actually only eat a couple of hundred calories underneath it, at the most. That’s a maximum of 10% below the general recommended level. If you were saying you only needed 1000 calories a day, you might have a point. But 100 - 200 either way to allow for variations in height and build is negligible.

OP, tbh it sounds like you have issues with food and I doubt that starting a thread about how much you ate in a day is healthy for you.

It's what's right for you it's got nothing to do with her. To me that's a lot but I eat like a mouse. Typically I would have bran flakes with chia seeds for breakfast, if I feel like lunch maybe a small bowl of soup, and for tea maybe some fusilli pasta with mince. It fills me up, but I'm tiny I don't expect it would be enough for an average sized woman.

What do you mean ‘it’s what’s right for you’. The OP’s point is that it isn’t ‘what’s right for her’ because she felt like she’d ‘stuffed her face’, and it’s her friend’s reaction to that which is the subject of the thread.

Have I misunderstood? I do that sometimes. I'm so sorry

I’m totally confused by the chronology here. Did you have your (two but actually only one) dinners and then go out for coffee but forgo your usual panini?

@HellDorado I didn’t say it was a “crock of shit”, I said it wasn’t true for everyone, which, I feel, widely known to be the case.

My point is that due to my height, I have to be a decent amount more active than the average woman and much more active than taller women to eat close to 2000 calories to maintain my weight. This is true for a lot of shorter women - if I was sedentary, which actually a decent number of women are, my maintenance calories would be around 1400.

What I’m saying is not that it’s useless, a “crock of shit” or whatever else. I’m saying there are simply too many variables for it to be used as a blanket statement which it often is.

I'm not sure I know myself what I've eaten!

I ate at 7 different opportunities on Sunday, and even I don't consider that stuffing myself all day! 🤣
It was mainly carbs and I didn't feel uncomfortably full, although I wouldnt make a habit of it.
I'm short with bmi 21 fwiw

Don’t apologise, you haven’t got anything wrong. That poster was unnecessarily rude to you for no reason.

What is competitive undereating please? I've honestly never heard of it 😳

When you remember, start a thread about it 😁

A phenomenon not seem as much as it used to be on mumsnet, where people respond to a thread with increasingly tiny amounts of food that they eat and overreact with horror at normal portion sizes.

For example, a poster might ask something like “I’m making breakfast for my DS - will three rashers of bacon and two fried eggs be enough?”

She might get some sensible replies, but some will be along the lines of “That’s more food than my family of four eat over a weekend”, and “I had a whole egg once, and couldn’t move for a fortnight “, not to mention the food police who will post “What’s wrong with a slice of celery and some tofu - no wonder we’re so obese”.

There’s also competitive wedding thriftiness. “Oh, you don’t need two courses - we handed out some mars bars and glasses of warm camel piss, and everybody said it was the best wedding they’d ever been to.

Competitive yellow sticker martyrdom is also amusing, where mumsnetters virtue signal about not putting discounted food in their trolley as they imagine other people going without.

Omg I was pigging out all day on apples and chicken, then, I literally ate half a packet of rice cakes ;-) #big greedy pig

I don’t think the issue is whether you had too much or too little food, but your issues around food and feeling like you’re a teeny tiny little waif who hardly ever eats come across quite strongly in your posts so presumably comes across even stronger to your friend.

Stick around honey, every other thread is one 😂😆🤣

@MsDitsy it’s the only form of moral exercise many people get on here at times.

Think someone posts: I had a cheese sandwich for lunch today.

First reply will be : I couldn’t eat that much bread in a day! Cheese is too fatty for me. I had soup and a salad as that’s all my tiny frame can cope with.

Someone else will reply: Soup AND a salad?! We have lost sight of what normal portions are and this is why everyone except me is obese. One or the other is more than enough for one meal. I am the same size now as I was when I was 4. Because I have the discipline to control myself.

Someone else will chip in with: you’d have soups or salad as one MEAL? I’d have one as my whole daily food intake, and still have enough for leftovers. People are just such gluttons nowadays.

And so on. They will also refer to people who eat without obsessing over it as : gluttons, pigs, obese and greedy and the act of eating as scoffing, stuffing your face, shoving into your gob.

They are extremely dull and tedious.

My favourite one was someone having a banana for breakfast and the posters tripping over themselves to tell her how much sugar was in a banana 😆

It was about a controlling husband as well and he wanted her to have bacon, egg etc. but she just fancied a banana sandwich. The teeny tinies spectacularly missed the point and thought the husband wasn’t being unreasonable as there was less sugar in his breakfast 😆

@BlueBatsAndBakewellTarts not sugar! An even bigger demon than bread!

I think they’ve moved on from the Gillian McKeith school of nutrition to all being experts in UPF as now all the greedy, banana eating pigs are using injections to get skinny, they can no longer have being thin as a sign of moral superiority. It’s tough for the tedious out there.

My first thought here is that you sound like my “almond mum” mother, which is probably what she thought too and why she felt triggered. It’s not about you, how much you actually ate and how full you felt, it’s the implication that having slightly more than normal is somehow gluttonous and disgusting. In my household growing up, and I dare say many others, you were virtuous if you could be “stuffed” from as little food as possible. It was a weaponised word used by my mother when dieting (or making me diet) to convince herself (and me) that she was full, despite having eaten absolutely fuck all. It’s…complicated.

You’re lucky if you can’t relate. Don’t take her upset to heart—like I said, it is her problem. Just maybe be aware of how you talk about food around her in the future.

It’s a reasonable amount of food, but hardly “stuffing your face all day”. It’s 3 not huge meals, some fruit and an extra small plate of pasta?

I have a family member who will have a green salad, eat half of it and proclaim herself “stuffed” I just roll my eyes tbh

You've nailed it! They really are so supremely tedious. Another thing they always say, and we've seen it in this very thread, is that other women - the gross huge obese pigs who eat more than three grapes and half a rice cake in a day - 'wolf it down'. They don't eat, they 'wolf it down'. Unlike themselves, of course, who take dainty little nibbles of a lettuce leaf and declare themselves stuffed.

I agree but you get the other extreme too. People boasting about eating huge amounts every day and mocking those who prefer to eat more moderately.
I'm not from either camp really. I have a big appetite and can eat a lot but try and restrain myself and eat a reasonable amount, I can just see it from both sides - there are under eaters and over eaters on here both taking the moral high ground.

Thank you. I'm honestly so ignorant of these phrases, are they new? . A couple of months ago I was looking up 'virtue signalling' 😞